All Feelings Come And Go (Let Them)
One of my readers asked me a question:
I have a question, I studied some of your articles from your website in which you said we needed to allow the emotion so that it will dissipate sooner by teaching something to us. If it comes from deeper then you are right, that will go away, but what if the feelings are created by me using affirmation,if I allow myself to experience this feelings, would it go away? Because feeling created by me obviously don’t have any meaning, right?
All feelings come and go, we can’t hold on to any of them.
So it doesn’t matter where they come from so to speak, you will know by listening to your intuitive knowing if the feeling or emotion has something to say to you when it comes to insights, wisdom, or something we need to learn etc.
There are deeper feelings and there are more average everyday feelings.
Of course you can hold on to anger for example, for years, and suffer from it, but the anger really comes from the thoughts you think, so to have a closer look at them would be helpful if you’re inclined in that direction.
There’s a difference between an intuitive feeling and a ‘feeling’-feeling so to speak.
An intuitive feeling comes from the heart (it has a totally different vibe to it), while ordinary feelings comes from the mind (ego) that comes from the thoughts we think. (Oftentimes conditioned thoughts based on past experiences that goes on and on like broken record).
Feelings created by affirmations also come and go, just like any other feeling, so if you would allow yourself to feel them (as you yourself put it), they would eventually move their way also regardless of your attempts to either hold on to them or your attempts to push them away.
As you know an affirmation can be negative too as in “I always fail”, “I’m ugly”, “No one loves me” etc, those are affirmations too, but not everybody knows that they are programming themselves by saying those things to themselves.
So sure, affirmations strengthens the mind, either in good ways or ways that weakens us, but I’m not really into mind-stuff at all anymore, my dedication and heart is devoted to Truth; spiritual awakening and transformation, which goes deeper than any mind-made “creations”. (Not that it’s wrong in any way, everything has it’s place and time, it’s just not where my interest is anymore).
All emotions move, and if you allow them to move through you, you will be able to look at them as a witness and if you try to hold on to them you will suffer. No need to make a fuss about any of them.
An example can for example be if you hold on to resentment, or to feelings of happiness for example; they all come and go. The addict tries to hold on to the “good ” feeling but never succeeds.
One can be addicted to thoughts and feelings too; one can refuse to let go of old hurts and thus the ego revels in the drama and creates righteousness and some kind of weird pride – which many egos enjoy.
So, by looking at them, but not get attached and drawn into them (as in mind-made drama), they will flow through in consciousness, like clouds in the sky where you are the sky.
To look at a beautiful flower too; you can simply enjoy it’s beauty, but you can’t hold on to the feeling.
In fact, the moment you say something about it, you have lost the moment of beingness and you’re now moved into mind where there’s some kind of evaluation going on – it’s funny to discover this, and makes us become more aware of how the mind works, which helps us become more spiritually aware 🙂
When we see how the mind works and how it limits our experience of Life, we are prone to many aha-moments of clarity and that in turn helps our spiritual development. By seeing illusion we are able to move beyond it.
In this example with the flower for example; just before the mind comes in, we are really enjoying the presence of the flower, and then in the next moment the mind starts to have opinions about it or thinking about a much nicer looking flower in the neighbors backyard yesterday when you were having dinner there, .. and then another story takes off and the experience of the beauty from the flower is long gone.
So we can instead allow whatever thoughts that comes, come, while we continue seeing – really seeing and experiencing the flower, as it is, and not how it makes us feel.
The mind can also get us hooked into the loop of suffering by strong emotions like fear and worry by making thoughts, beliefs and opinions about what’s going on (interpretations by the mind has no truth in them) very important (“Look at me” they scream, “I’m important!” But they are not) and they scream for our attention so that we will get drawn into them and off we go – into despair even, if we believe our mind to present the truth, which it never does.
You will know intuitively if there’s something that needs to be looked at or not.
By not believing our thoughts to be true (they are experiences in consciousness and not even personal) we are able to move deeper into Life as it really is.
Affirmations can be helpful if you want to rearrange your mind and thoughts but I’m not into those concepts any longer myself as I mentioned earlier in the article, but sure, they were a part of my journey in the past as well, but that doesn’t mean it’s the right way or should be included in everybody’s path. I don’t see it as necessary at all.
Listen to what your heart is telling you by allowing everything to be (by letting it be you are open and not closed) without creating any drama around the events of life. (Both ‘inner and outer’).
Hope that helps clarify and answer your question. Feel very free to comment below.
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