Allow Yourself To FEEL Goddammit!

I’m getting a lot of my inspiration from the world and people around me (from my life experiences), and lately I have become so sick of reading statuses on Facebook about things like “manifest your dream life by never thinking negatively again”, “be happy all the time and manifest your dream life” and so on.

That is just so stupid!

We are humans (yes; “spiritual beings having a human experience” and all that) with a wide, wide range of emotions and feelings, and the more we (as humanity) suppress them, the sicker we get.

And what is ‘negative feelings’ anyway? Grief? Anger? Frustration? Sadness? Pissed-off-ness..?

Why are they so bad??

If you are not a hermit living in a cave somewhere, you will most definitely go through life and experience loosing someone to death. You will most definitely feel grief at some point in your life. I strongly believe that it is unhealthy to put on a brave face and act like everything is OK, when it’s not. It’s natural to feel grief. And it’s not negative!

And anger; that can be a great transformer. It creates forward motion, fiery energy, if used in constructive ways.

Frustrated? Pissed off? Good, I’ll say! Use it in constructive ways, but don’t repress the feelings.

How dull would life be if we always felt ‘oh, so goody-goody’ – do you really think that things would ever change and evolve if we are always content and comfortable??

Don’t think so..

Like myself, now, for example. I would probably not have written this post (and hopefully inspired others to accept all their feelings as a part of being human) if I hadn’t become provoked by those silly statuses about ‘always being happy’, which is humanly impossible.

There’s a lot of people pretending to have it all together and then people want what they seem to have and are thus more likely to buy their products and services.

They buy into the polished image (of having a perfect life) thinking that it’s possible to never ever again have a negative thought or feeling as if feelings and sensations etc were wrong and to be avoided at all cost. 

But those people are just as human as anyone, with their own personal challenges at times like we all have as humans. We don’t overcome or transcend anything by hiding from ourselves, pretending, or denying our own human-hood.

We transcend challenges and issues by facing everything and dealing with them as they appear. 

You don’t ever feel irritated..? 

If you do, and you’re into all that ‘control your life by only “thinking positive thoughts”‘-stuff, then let me ask you what you are feeling right now, and why you ‘chose’ to feel that way, and why aren’t you happy and smiling if you can ‘choose’ how to feel every second of your life? 

Just saying.. Just slap a happy face on and all will be alright with the world, right?

If you are a 100% in control,… you know.

Having a different perspective and attitude about life (which is what in actuality transforms how we experience life) and all its experiences come from maturity (and not denial), which we can only get by actually growing and evolving beyond the little self’s need to always feel comfortable and to always feel either admired/looked up upon by others, or approved of. 

We are humans with a lot of different emotions, sensations and feelings, and I say lets embrace them all instead of almost desperately trying to grasp for the positive feelings every time we feel slightly uncomfortable!

Don’t become an emotional robot! Feel!!!

There is no need to resist anything, and the moment we allow ourselves to feel, a new sensation emerges and the ‘bad feeling’ is a thing of the past.

We don’t need to fight and make our feelings and thoughts enemies. Just welcome the feeling and then that free flow of allowing then naturally lets go of what is perceived as “negative” because we don’t make it wrong.

That goes for fear too.

Say to the fear: “Okay, I’m not gonna resist or fight you, but I will ask you what do you want? Why are you here?”, and then it will release itself from your awareness.

That’s what happens when we meet it.

Usually you will find that it has nothing to say, it’s merely a phantom in your mind, a shadow from past memories that is still lurking beneath the surface mind and as soon as we really look at the “reality” of it, it vanishes. All by itself. 

Very simple formula for how to live a liberated and free life if you ask me. 

Be friends with yourself and your inner sensations and do more mature and deep inner work instead of merely trying to change your surface thoughts and then you’re able to grow into being more spiritually equipped to handle things in life as they come up instead of struggling against them.

Change your attitude and perspective about things – that’s how things really change. 

This journey with you has been amazing

Words cannot fully express the profound impact of my session with you – it has been nothing short of magical. You helped me remove the blockages that held me back, helped me recognize my true worth, and providing so much insight that has been truly life-changing!

— Sarah K.

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I just wanted to say thank you so much again for our session yesterday, I’ve never had a conversation like that before and it was truly amazing. I could feel weight lifted as we were talking and for the first time my mind did not try to make sense of things, it was all truly felt in the heart space.

Val, Melbourne, Australia

The whole session felt as if it was operating on another level

If you can trust one thing in your life right now, trust Maria. You can trust her with your heart and soul. It’s hard to explain, the whole session felt as if it was operating on another level. I’ve never had that kind of experience before. It just felt so much bigger than I anticipated. I can tell you with absolute honesty and conviction that having a session with Maria is life-changing!

– Lisa, USA

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Maria is the real deal. You will sense it the moment you lay eyes on her. She offered much, much more than I’ve derived from other teachers; highly specific and personal recommendations. It is as though I got a crash graduate course from spirit. Could not more highly recommend!

Catherine Rondeau, Westport, Connecticut, USA

Maria is leading people to a new way of being

Maria is changing the world by her presence. She’s leading people to a new way of being. She’s able to see where you are at in your journey and can show you the way forward. I feel so incredibly grateful that she has been a companion during this time of change. If you feel drawn to connect with Maria I encourage you to move forward with confidence.

– Carolyn W. Asheville, NC, USA

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During and after our session, something happened within me that I cannot explain nor would it even make sense to anyone. There was a part of me that felt my being been taken over by a real peacefulness that I’ve never encountered before. Sounds odd but it’s the truth.

– A.

Now I know what is creating my reality

I’m overflowing with gratitude and joy! Life has changed dramatically for me after our time together. I have truly realized on a fundamental level what is creating my reality and it has given me confidence for the first time in my life to finally be ME, I feel liberated to be my authentic self!

— J. Carlson

The feeling of peace and freedom is priceless

This feeling of peace and freedom is priceless. Maria is beyond amazing. Had I not experienced it myself, I would probably not believe it. I recommend anyone who is trying hard to be truly free and really start walking down the path of self fulfillment and happiness to book a session with her.

Beyond grateful for the transformational journey we shared

Maria, I am beyond grateful for the transformational journey we shared. it was nothing less than a miracle that has allowed me come into who I really am. I wake up every morning with a big smile on my face, feeling immense gratitude for just being alive, I can’t explain it, I´m just enjoying this fully. Your guidance has so profoundly changed my life, and I cannot thank you enough.

— R. Los Angeles, USA

I had a complete turnaround to my situation

I had a complete turnaround to my situation so many thanks for helping me transform something I had lost hope about. It’s a miracle and the outcome could not have turned out better! If you want to see a real shift not just psychological but spiritual shift, then Maria is the lady to see. I am so glad I found you!

– Sophie P

I have never felt more aligned to my true self

Maria’s awareness of energies and the conditions of the mind are truly impressive. She knows exactly what’s going on. She is so attuned to other peoples’ energy that she just knows where you’re at. After working with her I have never felt more alive and aligned to my true self.

Andrew B, San Diego, CA, USA

You have really made a difference in how my mind works

I don’t know if I make sense, but all I can say is that I feel blissful. And I can’t thank you enough for that. I don’t know exactly how you managed this, but you have really made a difference in how my mind works.

– Silvia, Marbella, Spain

You are truly a gift to us all!

I can’t even begin to express how much I have gained internally after my session with you. You have been an instrument of peace in my life. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

– Owen, USA


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