Being the You That You Really Are

A quick note on language: Throughout the articles (2), I use the word “Her”. This is simply for ease and flow in writing. This article is for everyone, regardless of gender. You can replace “Her” with any word that feels right for you.

The essence of this process is about choosing your truest, most empowered and free self, whatever that is and means for you.

Being is a creative act of molding reality.

To Be the you that you want to be is a blend of identity, frequency, and alignment, and we are always being something; a version of ourselves, whether that’s consciously or unconsciously.

Every moment, through your beliefs, thoughts, feelings, and actions, you are choosing and embodying a particular version of ‘you’, and “Being Her” means tuning into the frequency of the true you; living, thinking, and feeling in the ways that version of you would, and then you also get Her life, which is your True Life.

For example:

What is the most free version of you – what is that ‘you’ like?

This is the version of us that we are most afraid to be (due to fear of judgment, criticism, not being liked, or loved, and so on), yet this is the most true you, the you that you are meant to be.

When you start being like the person you want to be and truly are, and make choices from that perspective, your brain starts rewiring itself to reflect that identity.

And yes, I know, it can be a bit scary or uncomfortable, eek! a lot too actually, sometimes.

But that’s what change is, and it’s many times the things we’re scared to do that we’re called to do. If something excites you (or empowers you) and scares you (in a good way), that’s an indicator that you’re guided to go that way, that’s the new and right path unfolding.

The brain constantly rewires itself based on our dominant thoughts, emotions, and actions, and when we dare to be who we are, this shifts us out of the limited and false/old state, and we ‘become’ Her, that is there, beyond all the layers of beliefs and fears that restrict us and hold us back.

How you move, speak, and even breathe, affects your sense of self too; so even changing your physical state literally changes your mind too.

And then, when you stand taller for example, and walk like the version of you you prefer and want to be, your outside reality will start to reflect that state, just like it’s doing now, with your current version of yourself.

So we can have radical changes in our relationships, careers, mental health and overall wellbeing after committing to the identity shift, so try it; Be Her, even for one day, and see what happens.

I’m talking about that inner, authentic self who’s more confident, joyful, and free, but is buried under fear and doubt due to beliefs that are limiting or disempowering, so it’s not about forcing change or ‘improving’ yourself, but more about remembering and honoring who you truly are beneath all the conditioning.

By tuning your energy, thoughts, and actions to the self you really are, your external reality begins to shift to match your internal changes.

All Realities Already Exist

Look back at your own life, places you’ve lived, or some of your old friends for example, or even family members. They still live their life ‘over there’, and you might have been part of it in the past, but you have evolved and are in a different reality now. But the old reality is still there.

Your friends from that time, if they have not evolved or moved away; they are still living that life, and here you are, living a different life, because you chose and got a ‘new life’.

And this goes with every kind of ‘reality‘; they all exist already, no matter if we have lived them before, or if they are new and different realities we would prefer over the one we’re currently living.

It All Begins with Identity

Being the person we know deep down we are, and feeling empowered in that. Alignment is about ego/soul harmony, about coming into wholeness with who you are.

There’s a truer, more confident, aligned, joyful version of yourself waiting beneath the surface; She’s already within you, waiting to be acknowledged and embodied.

In part two of this article I’ll share powerful questions (and more) that will help you to connect with Her, to embody the version of yourself you’re meant to be, and then your True Life will begin to unfold from there.

Most of us already know who we are, who our True Self is, but fear keeps us from fully Being Her.

Sometimes it’s unconscious too, that’s why developing self-awareness is so important.

It really is about remembering who you truly are beneath the fears, programs, and stories. It’s about stepping fully into that truth, and the questions and exercises will help you do exactly that.

Are You Ready to Be Her?

The moment you choose Her, your life will begin to accelerate in positive ways.

Remember:

• You already are infinite versions of yourself in potential, so the goal is not to ‘find’ Her, or to ‘create’ Her – it’s to remember that She already exists. She’s you, minus the self-doubt.
• It’s a Decision. The change happens in a moment of decision, so it’s not about “becoming a better you”, that’s a limiting belief, but more about choosing to be You, the most free you, and allowing reality to rearrange accordingly, which it will – you will see instant shifts in your life.

You will shift to a reality and life that already contains the reflection of Her. It’s already ‘there’, in the ether, for you to shift into. You could call this your True Life, because it deeply reflects the True You.

• When you start being Her you feel different; you feel empowered, and centered.
• You even walk differently, and you make bolder, clearer choices in your life.
• People respond to you differently, and the world around you seem brighter and more ‘alive’.
• Your frequency shifts, and you begin to attract experiences that are aligned with the real you.

Who you choose to be influences not just your overall health and wellbeing, but your entire reality.

When you choose Her, the version of yourself who lives with confidence, peace, and authenticity, you don’t have to wait for your life to change or improve. It begins the moment you choose her, and the more you step into that energy, the more your reality will reflect it.

So choose Her today. Choose the life you want by doing the questions and other things I share in the article.

Your truest and most fulfilling and empowered life is waiting for you!

Bring a journal and a pen, and let’s begin. 😊

Photos by Paige Cody and Chalo Garcia on Unsplash (text added by me).

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