Good relationships require good communication

If something feels weird, off, or there’s something that doesn’t feel quite right in a relationship, just ask the other person about it.

Maybe your feeling is wrong, maybe you misunderstood the vibe, or maybe you’re right, and if so, then you can simply talk about it.

It’s so straightforward, yet most people just don’t do this. They go to their friends instead and discuss it with them, or they let their minds ruminate and assume things, when in reality there might be nothing at all going on.

So is there a situation in your life where you could be more bold in your communication?

Did someone say something that made you go ‘hm’, and now it’s kind of bothering you?

Then simply ask the person about it. That way it gets cleared up, and you don’t have to think about it anymore. Just ask.

‘Hey, you know, what you said the other day.. it kind of stuck with me. What did you mean by that, if anything? Maybe I misunderstood or got the vibe wrong, I just have to check with you in case there’s something’.

It doesn’t have to be more complicated than that, and then you just go from there.

If the friend or connection is a true one, then it will go well, it probably will make you even closer to each other, and if they get offended or something, well, then so be it, I wouldn’t waste any time on people who can’t take being talked to.

To avoid misunderstandings, we have to be bold and ask questions for clarity.

And whatever the clarity is, you will always benefit. Maybe you learn that nothing was ‘wrong’ and you simply misunderstood the vibe, in which case, peace of mind is restored.

Or, maybe there was indeed something off, and if so, you get it cleared up, maybe able to see things from their perspective, and reach a new understanding.

Either way, you get the truth and can stop wasting energy on assumptions.

Clarity is always a win-win.

So, is there anywhere where you’re holding back?

If your mind is running in circles around a vague comment or a strange vibe, or something like that, pick one person or one sticky situation that bothers you, and apply the “Just Ask” principle.

Be the person who chooses boldness over baggage (we don’t need that crap; it just holds us back, and by not communicating, ‘stuff’ gets accumulated and can start festering).

Because the truth is that we all appreciate when people are open and straightforward, so how can you be that more, starting today?

It’s funny, most people just don’t hold themselves to the straightforwardness and honesty they’d like or expect from others, so today, start practicing the direct communication you wish others had.

Another truth is that the time you save on rumination can be spent on genuine connection, to really build and develop something genuine and strong, and it doesn’t accumulate any baggage either, which again, is a win-win! Clarity is always a win-win, so go ahead and ask about that something that is lingering in your mind.

“Just Ask!” – Take these two words with you today and apply it whenever and wherever your intuition nudges you and see how it opens up your life and relationships in positive ways.

Photo by Korney Violin on Unsplash (text added by me).

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