Be Unapologetically You
To be free in life you have to be you, unapologetically.
Our greatness is in our uniqueness.
We’re led to believe that some are great and others aren’t and that we should emulate those others that we perceive as great, and then we can become great too.
I’m not saying we shouldn’t let others inspire us or influence us, but what I am saying is that many people have been lead to believe that in order to be valuable in the eyes of others they have to become somebody other than who they are.
Living in the flow of Life is about living in alignment with your own individual truth.
Some people think living in alignment means you have to strive towards becoming a perfect human being with no flaws at all.
It’s not about becoming more “spiritual” and you don’t have to become a purist or vegan (unless you have a genuine calling towards that) or anything like that.
You just become ‘you’, you come home to yourself, to who you really are.
Your “holiness” is in your uniqueness, and however it looks to others should make no difference to you, so flow is in that way a completely rule-less kind of life.
“If I want to be free, I’ve got to be me. Not the me you think I should be, not the me I think my wife thinks I should be, not the me I think my kids think I should be. If I want to be free, I’ve got to be me so I better know who me is.” – Bill Gove
Flow is all about freedom and individuality – about being a free thinker and bringing your unique presence to the world.
You decide how you want to live your life, what you want to do and who you want to be.
Whatever you think you shouldn’t do has in most cases nothing to do with the actual thing, but your thoughts and beliefs about it.
When I help people look deeper into where those thoughts and beliefs comes from they often realize that they were handed to them by others, by society, or by all the thousands and thousands of people out there today teaching and telling others that their way is the right way to live.
So the stress, anxiety and guilt people feel stems from the (many times unconscious) belief that they have to live up to other people expectations and rules set up by what others or what the world thinks is appropriate.
Coming into alignment with yourself is about following what feels right for you (without harming others obviously), and not what the world or other people perceive as ‘right’,
It’s about stepping into your own power, being you, unapologetically you.
You don’t change for anybody, you change for you (because you want to), that’s how you progress the most in life too.
Think for yourself, play the lead role in your own life, don’t be an extra in other people’s lives by trying to please others.
The more you feel comfortable being your unique self the more people will naturally drawn to you.
“To attract people naturally, effortlessly, we need only follow the true prompting of our hearts.” ― Wu Wei, I Ching Wisdom
So today I want to invite you to really pay attention to the voice in your head that is telling you things about yourself and what you should or shouldn’t do.
What is the voice saying you have to do something or live in a certain way?
The voice that is telling you that you won’t be liked, accepted or approved of if you don’t behave in a certain way, who is that?
What is the voice that is telling you that you should be different than what you are?
Who says you have to be something you’re not? Where does that voice come from?
And why are you catering to it, why are you listening to it?
Here’s where growing in self-awareness is crucial. Because who’s saying all those things? What is that voice? That’s the work right there.
When you start to pay attention to the voices in your head you will be able to see through them and free yourself from their power over you.
How to transcend the voices that are telling you that you can’t be who you are, that you won’t be loved, that you’re not enough, or that you can’t or shouldn’t do something, is by relentlessly doing and listening to the things your heart says instead.
And that voice is vastly different, isn’t it?
When your heart speaks to you or about you, it’s the voice of Truth.