
Become Magnetic: Be PROUD and Declare Your Self-Worth Out Loud (to yourself!)
Don’t settle for less than you deserve!
In this article I’m going to share something that will help you attract and develop better relationships, create healthy boundaries, and realize your true value and self-worth.
Everything comes to you when you listen to your higher self and express who you really are.
When you work on You and build up your confidence, self-love and you practice radical self-nurturing and put yourself first, that’s when everything changes and the tables turns to your favor.
Stop abandoning yourself for others.
When we don’t choose ourselves, we attract people who doesn’t choose us back, but once you start prioritizing yourself, so much will begin to shift.
So don’t be afraid to speak your truth, set your boundaries, trust your instincts, be more discernful and follow your own inner compass: Dare to say No to what doesn’t align and watch your life transform.
Don’t try to fix others, or the other person. The only change needed is to change yourself, your own concept of who you are, and that will change everything else.
It’s YOUR life, so make yourself happy, put your alignment first – Align with YOU and stop choosing people that don’t choose you in return.
Don’t sacrifice yourself for others anymore, choose a fun and exciting life instead!
Don’t care if people are intimated by you,
Be strong, be confident, stand for something, have opinions, find your voice and use it!
Don’t worry about people who are not your people.
Show up as you and love the freedom of being YOU.
Be intensely passionate about the things you love and care about,
Be self-assured, confident and direct,
– Own yourself, proudly!
You should be totally yourself, it’s so freeing to be who you are and just OWN it;
Be excited even if it’s intimidating, talk passionately about what interests you, laugh, and be as loud as you want to be; be carefree and free of other people’s opinions about you,
Don’t give away your power, don’t squander or waste your energies on the wrong people/person, but practice constructive self-interest and express your unique individuality,
— That makes you incredibly attractive to the right people and person!
Come out from hiding, – It’s time.
Let this shift happen.
Literally feel how freakin’ amazingly powerful and liberating it is to be completely yourself.
You will set yourself free and leap forwards in leaps and bounds!
“NOW I own who I am and who I’m meant to be, I have stepped into being that person now, I feel like her/him now, fully, I’m so ready for positive change, and I have ZERO fear, I hereby pronounce myself FREE!”
Don’t let anybody change you, do not adjust yourself or make yourself smaller.
“I choose to be in a frequency that is in alignment with the Truth of who I am, I choose to radiate power and confidence, even if its intimidating to others,
I now consider myself as a fully liberated person who behaves from a place of alignment and self-respect,
I now allow myself to attract amazing people into my life, people who appreciate and like/love me for who I am.
I walk around in the world, feeling proud and good about myself,
I allow myself this freedom and happiness.
I’m gonna value myself, my life, and everything in it more from this moment on,
And as I say these words, I’m speaking them into existence.
I have a rich, abundant feeling about myself,
I have finally stopped doubting and downplaying myself!
Today, I open my heart and see the future with enthusiasm and excitement,
I’m increasingly magnetic to the right people, friendships and love.
A good, positive, wonderful shift has happened and I’m gonna run with this,
I feel good about my decision, this is a new beginning, I can feel it in my whole body and being.
— It’s OK to want more,
And I’m gonna treat myself really good from now on,
I choose to accept my happiness,
I make myself feel validated and respected,
and from now on, if doubt comes up, I question my beliefs – not myself!”
Powerful question to ask yourself:
Am I really who and what I want to be now?
Ponder it deeply and with great intention.
“I want to make sure I’m 100% me.
I’m done giving my power, time, and energy away,
I’m done settling for crumbs,
I’m gonna show up differently now,
I’m choosing myself now,
I attract on THIS level now, THIS is the way now.”
If another person (or people) is involved in your inability to fully be yourself, ask these questions:
- What types of people/situations am I encountering?
- Who/what type of people are showing up in my life?
- What are they (he/she) triggering within me? And why?
- Do I need to acknowledge something that I don’t want to admit to myself?
- Do I need a reality check?
- Am I lingering in unhealthy situations?
- Am I being stubborn/blind about something?
- Do I feel free? If not, why?
- What/who do I need to separate myself from?
- What needs to be ended?
- Who/what no longer fits my life?
“I WANT THE TRUTH!”
“I want to take back my power fully and completely, I want to shift things UP!”
Look in the mirror: What do you see?
And what do you want to see?
GO FOR “PROUD”!
Say out loud to yourself, and mean it, say it with great (emotional) intensity:
“I want to feel PROUD!
I want to feel proud of the choices I make,
I want to feel proud of the life I lead,
I want to feel proud of who I am, for how I show up in my life,
How I show up for MYSELF,
I want to feel proud every day, for the people I surround myself with, and for who I am when I’m with them,
I WANT TO FEEL PROUD OF MYSELF AND MY LIFE!
I want to be proud of how I live my life and conduct myself,
I want to do things that makes me feel proud, and I want to go to bed at night, feeling proud of what I’ve done and how I have treated others and myself.”
You can also write a list of all the things you can think of that would make you feel proud (in all areas of life), such as for example:
“I’m proud of my boyfriend/girlfriend/spouse/partner etc, I’m proud of my children, I’m proud of the work that I do/what I do for a living, I’m proud of my home, I’m proud of where I live, I’m proud of my ability to ______, I’m proud of how good I take care of myself, I’m proud of my body/how I look, I’m proud of my ability to learn new things, I’m proud of how good I am at ______, I’m proud of the things I put out into the world, I’m proud of my independence, I’m proud of the art I create, I’m proud of how I express myself, I’m proud of how I use my time and life” etc etc etc.
Love-bomb yourself with these kinds of affirmations – Write down everything you can think of and then say them out loud to yourself!
(They statements/affirmations don’t have to be true, but declare to yourself that this is what you want, that you want to be proud of who you are and how you live your life and the people you choose to share your life with, and they will become true as you keep speaking like this to yourself).
It’s time to choose HAPPY.
It’s time to move the fuck on, and to let all that other crap GO!
“I’m choosing myself now, I’m choosing happiness,
I allow myself to receive what I deserve,
I’m setting the stage now for a new level in my life,
The old story is OVER.
It feels good to close the door and move forward in a healthy and aligned way.
I have a new self-worth attitude that serves me better,
I’m clear about my personal boundaries when it comes to what and who I let in and what I don’t let in,
I make clear, aligned decisions for myself,
I am really coming into my power now,
I allow for the closing of a chapter that doesn’t serve me anymore.
I’m open to change and choose to think of myself as great, fabulous and unlimited,
No more undervaluing myself, and over-giving, begging and pleading for validation and respect from others.
I’m gonna be more discernful and set boundaries and say No when I want to say no and I’m gonna go for what I want.
I’m my happiest self when I’m my most authentic self;
Untamed, fierce, strong, powerful!
I’m so free it’s amazing!”
THIS is the way to speak to ourselves!
“Anybody who does not see how phenomenal and beautiful you are, and that does not value the fullness of you as you are, essentially does not deserve to share space and time with you.” – Ashley Graham
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I’d love you to have a conversation with my daughter at some point in the future…not because she needs fixing but to connect her with an empowering female role model, we need more of this!
So important.
Tom, I’m not in the business of ‘fixing’ people! My work is transformational and about self-empowerment, not about “healing”, but about energy and vibrational alignment.
I’m all about alignment and empowerment, so to be seen as a female role model for that is something I really appreciate, and talking with your daughter at some point would definitely be something I would consider, even though I don’t work with children, but we’ll see what happens.
I have a soft spot for women at large, and girls too, and would like to see way more women in particular coming into more leadership roles, or just more into their own power, confidence and authority.
Fantastic!
Let’s see what unfolds as she grows, she’s already a role model in my eyes!
😊👍