Having a Mind that Differs from Others
When having a mind that is different from others
My whole life I have been in a transformational process and will always be for as long as I live, and we all are more or less, but I’m definitely on the side of “more”.
I love growth and having that natural character about me and having my focus on that every moment of my life naturally makes me someone that constantly grows.
My mind has always been different from others, I have always been an independent thinker, a free thinker, and there have been many times in my life where I have really had to fight for my right to be true to myself.
I have a mind that is focused on growth and it’s never going to be fixed on any concept or way of life.
That’s how I’m wired and recently I have gone through a transformation that has left me completely uninterested in spirituality.
I have no more personal interest in spirituality, I feel like I have outgrown it.
This does not mean it can’t come back, because it might, but I’m really not into it anymore, and as strange as it may sound I’m still “spiritual” even if I’m not.
If that makes sense.
I can write about it and talk about it if someone approaches me and asks me questions and so on, but I don’t seek it out anymore for myself.
It’s kind of out of my system and my focus is changing rapidly towards other subjects that really excites me and makes me feel alive.
Change is Good
I remember when I used to believe in astrology and all the books I read and the horoscopes and all, they all said the same thing;
The descriptions of the personality that was assigned to “my sign” said that I don’t like change and I could just never agree with that at all.
It was so annoying when people (who believe in astrology) put that label on me because I’m a person who actually like change.
I welcome it and if it’s a difficult kind of change that I have not chosen myself I choose to embrace it and learn from it.
My Mind is Focused on Growth
A fixed mindset on the other hand is a mind that can’t cope with change.
A fixed mind can’t handle challenges and obstacles in life and people with a fixed mind avoid that which is difficult and they give up easily, they stop making an effort when the going gets touch.
A fixed mind falls easily into victim-hood, while a growth oriented mind finds a way around the difficult times and makes them work to their advantage.
Here’s what differs a growth mindset from a fixed mindset;
We don’t complain and moan.
We don’t dwell and talk endlessly about what’s wrong or what went wrong last week or twenty year ago.
We move on, we learn, and we can actually feel gratitude (believe it or not) even for horrible things that has happened in our lives, because we learned something valuable from them and it made us grow.
We learned forgiveness.
We learned a different way of seeing things.
We learned how to set ourselves free.
Someone recently said to me that they couldn’t live like me, meaning not having a home of their home but doing house and pet sitting for people in order to have somewhere to live.
They said something in the lines of “I need to have my own home” and in my mind I though that ‘of course, we all want that’.
But because I don’t moan and complain about my living situation I could sense that they had some kind of weird undercurrent of an belief or idea that I had consciously chosen this, that I one day decided that it would be something I wanted.
Like I had thought that “yeah, how cool, I want to be homeless for while, let’s try out that kind of a lifestyle, that’ll be fun!”.
I know there are people in this world who actually do that; they choose to become homeless because they don’t want to live in society or whatever, but believe me, it was not in my plans at all that things would unfold like they did for me.
It was not a conscious choice and there were a lot of tears involved when I had to move out, it was definitely not something I wanted.
But it happened.
Things like that sometimes happen in life; people get sick, they lose their jobs, or they become homeless, or something else happens to them that they didn’t plan or wish to happen.
And here’s the thing;
I could have gone into self-pity and victim-hood feeling sorry for myself, and I could have moved back to Scandinavia to my parents home in Sweden.
And no offence to my parents, but you all know what I mean when I say that that’s not really an attractive alternative to have to move back home with your parents when you’re in your 40’s.
My point is that I could have gone back there and applied for welfare and just give up basically, start looking for ordinary 9-5 jobs and all that (which I’m not cut out for, I don’t belong in a life like that).
I could have thrown my hands up in the air and given up my purpose and dream.
If I was that type of a person, but I’m not.
I’m very resourceful, creative and dedicated, and I know my own greatness.
So naturally – because that’s my natural character – I’m making the most of my situation, I’m letting it work for me and not against me.
I didn’t succumb to the challenge (or crisis), I turned it around and looked at what I could do with it.
I saw the opportunity to use this time of my life to travel which would be more difficult (but not impossible) if I had my own home and rent to think about, and when the alternative was laid out before me to do house and pet sitting I saw it as a blessing.
The Universe presented it to me, I didn’t seek it out myself, it came to me as an option because I was open to it, and every house and pet sitting assignment has been a pure delight for me (except for one); I have loved every one of them.
So it turned out to work very well for me in regards to the idea that came to me that I could travel and explore the world now that I don’t have a pet or home of my own anymore.
Besides, I don’t have enough money to live on anyway at the moment so this is how I make this situation and circumstance work for me and I must say that despite of its challenges, I love my life.
I have nothing to complain about. Nothing.
I’m so grateful for my life that as I write this to you right now I’m in tears because of the gratitude I feel.
And I know this is very hard for a person with a fixed mind to understand.
Their attitude is that uncertainty and not having financial security in place is equal to living in misery, but it’s not that way at all.
I don’t live in that kind of a box, I don’t have that kind of a mindset.
This life situation (if I must call it that) does not discourage me and my self image is not tied in to my circumstances; I don’t define myself by my situation.
On the contrary I see this as a great opportunity for me for grow, travel, have new experiences in new places and so on, and whatever happens I know I will always be a winner because I know that nothing can defeat me, ever.
And it has all to do with what’s going on in my mind, it’s all about what’s in my head-space and not what I have or don’t have in my wallet and bank account.
I know I’m going places in this life and these obstacles (or challenges) are just stepping stones to my success.
Webster’s dictionary from 1806: Success is: fortunate, happy, kind and prosperous.
Fortunate doesn’t mean “luck” by the way, there is no luck in life.
All that has happened in my life has been there to groom and prepare me for what is to come, and that includes all that I have done too, all the actions I have taken throughout the years and continue to take every day.
You are literally watching greatness arise.
Why should I be shy about that? We all have that within us and I’m not going to make myself smaller than I am.
I know who I am, and these little things that are happening in my life right now are nothing compared to where I come from and have gone through in my life.
Can you see how this all depends on how I look at my life and how the only real obstacle that exists in any of our lives is how we choose to handle our challenges and the attitude we choose to have about them?
It’s all in the mind. All in the mind.
And my mind is a great mind.
How about you? What’s yours like?