Don't avoid the spiritual Void. Embrace it.

Don’t let the Void scare you

At some point in your transformational process you come to a place that can only be called “the Void”.

If you’re a person who’s always growing you can expect this to happen many times throughout your life.

The Void does not happen “often”, sometimes there’s even a few years between them, and in between those phases there can be many, many other kinds of shifts and transformations (wonderful ones).

But the Void is different, and many people get freaked out when they get to it.

Some people get all “spiritual” about it, some even call it the enlightened state, and those who do let their spiritualized ego’s make the phase into something it’s not.

And they can stay there for years, never moving beyond it because it can be really comfortable staying there, especially for those who experience the Void for the first time.

Unless they don’t get freaked out about it that is.

In that case the person tries to get away from it by clawing themselves out of it by pushing and forcing movement to happen.

And some people see themselves as above these types of processes so they avoid them, they don’t talk about them and they pretend everything is fine while hiding away from the world kind of just ‘waiting it out’ without realizing how powerfully transformative they are.

When this happens they completely wasted a very important part of the transformational process and got back to the old self’s way to live life as the old self they are familiar with being.

Some people who are religious or inclined to pray etc. often get depressed and feel a deep sense of meaninglessness because they don’t get a response, because as I mentioned before, it’s a very quiet place to be.

Others make a ‘thing’ out of it and behave similar to the people I mentioned before (people who get stuck in the Void) and those people you can many times find in the Advaita circles.

You hear them parroting each other saying things like “there’s nothing to do, nowhere to go” etc. with a goofy ‘spiritual’ look on their face.

And there’s truth to that – There isn’t anywhere to go or anything to do in the Void, for now.

It’s just a phase, and you will experience this phase many times in your life if you continue to grow and evolve and you don’t get stuck in any belief-systems.

So what is the Void, and what’s it about?

1.) It’s not “spiritual”. It’s a major shift in consciousness, but consciousness is not ‘spiritual’.

2.) It’s a place you arrive to often when you’ve done a massive amount of inner work, and it’s completely quiet and empty.

You don’t feel drawn to do anything. Nothing at all. You basically lose interest in everything.

And if you’re a ‘doer’ by nature, this can be alarming, and if you’re overly ‘spiritual’, it may come as a relief (and that’s why many people stay there, not knowing it’s only a phase and not a ‘state’).

So, it’s a very quiet place where your mind feels completely empty, and ‘there’s nothing more to do’.

You feel utterly done (not in a negative way, just ‘done’).

It’s difficult to explain because I don’t think there even is a word for the feeling.

The experience is that there’s nothing to do, nowhere to go and sometimes you have even ‘lost’ your identity for a while.

For a while! This is not the “enlightened state” that many people think it is.

It’s a very potent place to be (it’s life-transformative in the most positive ways), so the best way to ‘be’ in it is just actually to ‘be’.

Just ‘be’, and don’t let your mind make up things about it, as it will.

It will call it all kinds of things and it will be frightened about it, or it will create all kinds of stories about it how special or ‘awake’ you are, and if you believe any of it, you’ll lose the momentum and purpose of it.

The momentum always takes you to a new plateau in life, from where you start building on yet another (new) transformational process.

So you’re always evolving, evolving, evolving.

Not getting stuck anywhere, thinking you have ‘arrived’.

What do you do in the Void then?

You let it be by letting go into it without any need to control it whatsoever.

Only do what you feel inclined to do in the moment, and many times for many people there’s a purging process going on at the same time.

So get rid of things, burn old journals, clean out your closets and the fridge, spend time offline, go for walks in silence, be in nature, take some time to be alone etc.

You don’t really have to ‘do’ anything more than that. The most important aspect of this phase is to let it Do You.

Let it transform you, knowing there’s nothing you need to do to ‘help it’.

Only let it.

And when you’ve been quiet and alone with yourself for a while and you begin to feel impatient, resist going back into ‘your life’ thinking you have to get things going.

No, don’t do that. Instead watch a movie or something. Go to the beach, read a book (preferably unrelated to any spiritual or personal growth stuff), listen to music, something that allows your mind to rest (=key-word!).

The (new) door will open for you at the right time and in the right way without you having to do anything.

Just stay open and receptive, let go of all your own thoughts about what’s going on and simply ‘be’ until you’re called back into life again.

It will just happen suddenly so don’t worry about anything. Just stay open and again; don’t make any assumptions about anything.

It’s a natural part of the transformational process and the Void is a bit different than other shifts because it really is an empty place to be, it’s very, very quiet, and – very, very difficult to explain! 😊

But if you’re in the Void at the moment, you will recognize it within yourself and something within you will let you know that ‘aha, that’s what I’m experiencing!’, and then you can relax a little bit.

And when you relax, peace comes in, and from that peace the door will start to open again, into the new phase of your life, which might look very different from the phase that was before.

It’s the cycle of life, and there are so many different phases one goes through (as the evolutionary process is never-ending) so by learning to recognize them you’re able to relax into them and actually enjoy them with a sense of joyous anticipation of what is to come once you’ve moved through them.

It’s in the Void that a huge shift in consciousness happens, and they always takes us to higher levels of awareness, insight and understanding.

Here’s some of my older articles that might be helpful to you if you’re in the midst of a transformational process, which you could say is similar to the awakening process for some:

Scroll articles here.

Please note that the articles are very old.

I’m simply sharing them because I know they are helpful to people.

I still get emails from readers that are so relieved to have found my website because as they themselves put it, ‘someone is finally telling it as it is’.

So if they help you understand the processes you’re in, that’s great.

Don’t worry about anything. 😊

Just know that you will move through them (so don’t get stuck in concepts) and that all is well.

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Comments

  1. Alicia

    I am currently experiencing the void and today was one of the worse days because my thoughts about my existence have gotten very dark, and sometimes think that there is nothing left for me and the universe has stopped including me. Thank you for posting about this in regards to what the symptoms are and what shouldn’t be done and how not to resist it.

  2. So glad that you found the article when you needed to hear the message Alicia.

    And yes, don’t worry, it’s all part of the process and the suffering we experience comes mainly from our (or the egos) resistance to it.

    Once there’s a surrender taking place there’s peace again, so know this, that this phase is very potent with possibility for something new to emerge so allow the unfolding of it to happen.

    You might have to be in the Unknown for a while but soon there will be a new wave coming in that is full of inspiration and passion and interesting things to do and experience again.

    The Universe sent this article your way to help you relax more into what is right now unfolding for you but that you can’t see just yet.

    The more you trust the process the quicker you progress and can move on to the next phase of your life. 😊

  3. Daniela

    I really appreciate this article. I was in the Dark Night of the Soul from 2016 to late 2018. It was an awful phase, I was so depressed, sad, lost and the worse was not knowing what was going on with me. I felt crazy because it happened when externally my life was perfect. I had everything. Since late 2018, I don’t feel as bad as I felt during that time, that’s why I think I am in this void phase. Sometimes I feel like I didn’t purge all I needed to, like there’s some patterns/wounds/bad habits in me that I still need to heal and let go and are still here messing with my everyday life. By mostly I feel still, like there’s nothing happening and I stopped healing. I also spent a lot of time alone, getting used to it, especially in public places. I don’t want to hang out much, especially with people from my past (makes me anxious). This makes me feel a little bad especially when they invite me to hang out after years without seeing them. Something that really scared me is feeling like I don’t know who I am, and feeling that if I do nothing I will be stuck in this phase, not knowing who I am, my beliefs, my talents, my passions, my purpose, … Sometimes I even doubt if I am really going through a spiritual awakening or if it’s all in my head. It’s not easy but I must trust that everything is going to turn out fine.

  4. Glad to hear you found the article helpful Daniela.

    Yes, it sounds like you’re in the awakening process, and there are definitely phases that you go through where nothing is (or seems to be) happening, so even if it feels very confusing right now, keep trusting that all is well (because it really is).

    The best thing you can do is to surrender to the process and let Life do what needs to be done in you and in your life. When you release the resistance to the process, it unfolds with much more ease.

    Here’s a post that came to mind that can be helpful to you:

    https://mariaerving.com/with-truth-now-mantra/

    And here’s a link to some of my articles about surrender:

    https://mariaerving.com/?s=surrender

    Surrender is so powerful, and the answer to every struggle you have.

    You can only get stuck in the void if you resist it, or if you allow yourself to get fearful and worried.

    Do what you can to get to a peaceful state – even if you’re still completely in the Unknown and have no clue about anything – because when you do, that’s when Truth can come in and do the work for you.

    So if there are things that still needs to be purged etc., stop trying to do it yourself right now, and stop trying to figure things out for the moment.

    Let go and release everything to the Universe and you’ll see how quickly things will begin to resolve themselves and come into the Light again for you.

    It’s the ego that is desperate of wanting to know and fix things, and when you realize this it becomes easier to relax into this phase and actually come to enjoy it.

    There will be an inner relief when you release and let go and that is an indicator that you’re once again moving with the flow of Life.

    And from there on Life takes over and will show you the next step (when the time is right), so keep trusting and know that this is all part of the process.

    Hope this was helpful to you. ♡

  5. One more thing I want to mention Daniela, is that when you do surrender completely, you will get a feeling of having a clean slate in a way, so you release yourself from the burden of trying to figure out what to do etc.

    And then from that place of inner peace/relief and feeling totally open to whatever Life has for you next, you will be wide open and available for it to flow through you and bring you whatever it is that you need next (as a next step).

    So release ALL – stay open – and be in a receptive mode with a wide open mind and heart – and something will soon happen that will help you to the next stage of your life.

    It can be that you get a sudden idea to do something, or something comes to you, you get inspired, or your inner voice just tells you what the next step is, so listen for it and it will speak to you, but listen from a detached place within yourself.

    You will absolutely know what to do when it’s time for you to do something so trust that.

    Life knows how to get you up and going, it has its wonderful ways of doing that so you never have to fear of not being informed once you’re able to stay in a peaceful state, even in the midst of chaos and confusion. 😊

    Remember, it’s not the real you that is lost, confused and fearful. The real you is peace itself and thrilled for what is to come for you once you relax and let go.

  6. Daniela

    Thank you. I’m really grateful for your answer. I’ll save it and read it in the moments of doubt and confusion. Know that your work is very appreciated and without people like you some of us would be very lost and scared. I’m grateful for this community as it has helped me a lot with this process. I wish you the best.
    Another thing I don’t like right now is being the only one I know who has been through this. During those two years people thought I was with a clinical depression, and I changed university’s courses a lot. They thought I didn’t know what to do with my life, they pity me. Today I know what happened, but when people ask I just can’t say the truth, because I am afraid they won’t understand… I just say I am in a transformation period of my life. Sometimes I feel really lonely because I don’t have someone to share my thoughts/experiences with. It’s hard, also I have met a lot of people during those years and they are all gone from my life now. Sometimes I wish for a group of friends who I click with, but I think I must go through this process first. Thank you again.

  7. You’re so very welcome Daniela, glad that I could help.

    And thank you for your kind words and for expressing you appreciation, I appreciate it. 😊

    Yes, most people will not be able to understand your process and if you sense that they won’t then it’s best to just say what you say, that you’re in a transformational process.

    Some people won’t even know or understand what you mean by that, so there is really no need to go any deeper into anything (unless of course you feel they are open and have some level of self-awareness and awareness regarding growing and evolving.)

    Just realize that they are on a different level of consciousness and that they don’t have the ability to relate to what you’re experiencing, so most of the time it’s best to just let them be where they are and you just focus on your own path.

    About loneliness, here’s an article that you might find helpful:

    https://mariaerving.com/aloneness-on-spiritual-path/

    Relationships and friendships often change in this process too, or the dynamics will change, and you’ll go through processes with the people in your life as you’re changing and no longer the person you used to be.

    This can happen with family members and friends too that you used to be very close to in the past, and it’s not always easy as you can imagine if only one of you is growing and evolving and the others are not.

    Some people will stay and some will leave as you go higher and higher in consciousness and grow in self-awareness and awareness.

    Here’s another article that I think you might resonate with:

    https://mariaerving.com/transformation-relationship-changes/

    Hope you find the articles helpful.

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