Don’t let the Void scare you
At some point in your transformational process you come to a place that can only be called “the Void”.
If you’re a person who’s always growing you can expect this to happen many times throughout your life.
The Void does not happen “often”, sometimes there’s even a few years between them, and in between those phases there can be many, many other kinds of shifts and transformations (wonderful ones).
But the Void is different, and many people get freaked out when they get to it.
Some people get all “spiritual” about it, some even call it the enlightened state, and those who do let their spiritualized ego’s make the phase into something it’s not.
And they can stay there for years, never moving beyond it because it can be really comfortable staying there, especially for those who experience the Void for the first time.
Unless they don’t get freaked out about it that is.
In that case the person tries to get away from it by clawing themselves out of it by pushing and forcing movement to happen.
And some people see themselves as above these types of processes so they avoid them, they don’t talk about them and they pretend everything is fine while hiding away from the world kind of just ‘waiting it out’ without realizing how powerfully transformative they are.
When this happens they completely wasted a very important part of the transformational process and got back to the old self’s way to live life as the old self they are familiar with being.
Some people who are religious or inclined to pray etc. often get depressed and feel a deep sense of meaninglessness because they don’t get a response, because as I mentioned before, it’s a very quiet place to be.
Others make a ‘thing’ out of it and behave similar to the people I mentioned before (people who get stuck in the Void) and those people you can many times find in the Advaita circles.
You hear them parroting each other saying things like “there’s nothing to do, nowhere to go” etc. with a goofy ‘spiritual’ look on their face.
And there’s truth to that – There isn’t anywhere to go or anything to do in the Void, for now.
It’s just a phase, and you will experience this phase many times in your life if you continue to grow and evolve and you don’t get stuck in any belief-systems.
So what is the Void, and what’s it about?
1.) It’s not “spiritual”. It’s a major shift in consciousness, but consciousness is not ‘spiritual’.
2.) It’s a place you arrive to often when you’ve done a massive amount of inner work, and it’s completely quiet and empty.
You don’t feel drawn to do anything. Nothing at all. You basically lose interest in everything.
And if you’re a ‘doer’ by nature, this can be alarming, and if you’re overly ‘spiritual’, it may come as a relief (and that’s why many people stay there, not knowing it’s only a phase and not a ‘state’).
So, it’s a very quiet place where your mind feels completely empty, and ‘there’s nothing more to do’.
You feel utterly done (not in a negative way, just ‘done’).
It’s difficult to explain because I don’t think there even is a word for the feeling.
The experience is that there’s nothing to do, nowhere to go and sometimes you have even ‘lost’ your identity for a while.
For a while! This is not the “enlightened state” that many people think it is.
It’s a very potent place to be (it’s life-transformative in the most positive ways), so the best way to ‘be’ in it is just actually to ‘be’.
Just ‘be’, and don’t let your mind make up things about it, as it will.
It will call it all kinds of things and it will be frightened about it, or it will create all kinds of stories about it how special or ‘awake’ you are, and if you believe any of it, you’ll lose the momentum and purpose of it.
The momentum always takes you to a new plateau in life, from where you start building on yet another (new) transformational process.
So you’re always evolving, evolving, evolving.
Not getting stuck anywhere, thinking you have ‘arrived’.
What do you do in the Void then?
You let it be by letting go into it without any need to control it whatsoever.
Only do what you feel inclined to do in the moment, and many times for many people there’s a purging process going on at the same time.
So get rid of things, burn old journals, clean out your closets and the fridge, spend time offline, go for walks in silence, be in nature, take some time to be alone etc.
You don’t really have to ‘do’ anything more than that. The most important aspect of this phase is to let it Do You.
Let it transform you, knowing there’s nothing you need to do to ‘help it’.
Only let it.
And when you’ve been quiet and alone with yourself for a while and you begin to feel impatient, resist going back into ‘your life’ thinking you have to get things going.
No, don’t do that. Instead watch a movie or something. Go to the beach, read a book (preferably unrelated to any spiritual or personal growth stuff), listen to music, something that allows your mind to rest (=key-word!).
The (new) door will open for you at the right time and in the right way without you having to do anything.
Just stay open and receptive, let go of all your own thoughts about what’s going on and simply ‘be’ until you’re called back into life again.
It will just happen suddenly so don’t worry about anything. Just stay open and again; don’t make any assumptions about anything.
It’s a natural part of the transformational process and the Void is a bit different than other shifts because it really is an empty place to be, it’s very, very quiet, and – very, very difficult to explain! 😊
But if you’re in the Void at the moment, you will recognize it within yourself and something within you will let you know that ‘aha, that’s what I’m experiencing!’, and then you can relax a little bit.
And when you relax, peace comes in, and from that peace the door will start to open again, into the new phase of your life, which might look very different from the phase that was before.
It’s the cycle of life, and there are so many different phases one goes through (as the evolutionary process is never-ending) so by learning to recognize them you’re able to relax into them and actually enjoy them with a sense of joyous anticipation of what is to come once you’ve moved through them.
It’s in the Void that a huge shift in consciousness happens, and they always takes us to higher levels of awareness, insight and understanding.
Here’s some of my older articles that might be helpful to you if you’re in the midst of a transformational process, which you could say is similar to the awakening process:
I still get emails from readers that are so relieved to have found my website because as they themselves put it, ‘someone is finally telling it as it is’.
So I invite you to become a member, and that way you’ll get access to all my articles and all other content on the website as well.
I am currently experiencing the void and today was one of the worse days because my thoughts about my existence have gotten very dark, and sometimes think that there is nothing left for me and the universe has stopped including me. Thank you for posting about this in regards to what the symptoms are and what shouldn’t be done and how not to resist it.
So glad that you found the article when you needed to hear the message Alicia.
And yes, don’t worry, it’s all part of the process and the suffering we experience comes mainly from our (or the egos) resistance to it.
Once there’s a surrender taking place there’s peace again, so know this, that this phase is very potent with possibility for something new to emerge so allow the unfolding of it to happen.
You might have to be in the Unknown for a while but soon there will be a new wave coming in that is full of inspiration and passion and interesting things to do and experience again.
The Universe sent this article your way to help you relax more into what is right now unfolding for you but that you can’t see just yet.
The more you trust the process the quicker you progress and can move on to the next phase of your life. 😊
I really appreciate this article. I was in the Dark Night of the Soul from 2016 to late 2018. It was an awful phase, I was so depressed, sad, lost and the worse was not knowing what was going on with me. I felt crazy because it happened when externally my life was perfect. I had everything. Since late 2018, I don’t feel as bad as I felt during that time, that’s why I think I am in this void phase. Sometimes I feel like I didn’t purge all I needed to, like there’s some patterns/wounds/bad habits in me that I still need to heal and let go and are still here messing with my everyday life. By mostly I feel still, like there’s nothing happening and I stopped healing. I also spent a lot of time alone, getting used to it, especially in public places. I don’t want to hang out much, especially with people from my past (makes me anxious). This makes me feel a little bad especially when they invite me to hang out after years without seeing them. Something that really scared me is feeling like I don’t know who I am, and feeling that if I do nothing I will be stuck in this phase, not knowing who I am, my beliefs, my talents, my passions, my purpose, … Sometimes I even doubt if I am really going through a spiritual awakening or if it’s all in my head. It’s not easy but I must trust that everything is going to turn out fine.
Glad to hear you found the article helpful Daniela.
Yes, it sounds like you’re in the awakening process, and there are definitely phases that you go through where nothing is (or seems to be) happening, so even if it feels very confusing right now, keep trusting that all is well (because it really is).
The best thing you can do is to surrender to the process and let Life do what needs to be done in you and in your life. When you release the resistance to the process, it unfolds with much more ease.
Here’s a post that came to mind that can be helpful to you:
https://mariaerving.com/with-truth-now-mantra/
And here’s a link to some of my articles about surrender:
https://mariaerving.com/?s=surrender
Surrender is so powerful, and the answer to every struggle you have.
You can only get stuck in the void if you resist it, or if you allow yourself to get fearful and worried.
Do what you can to get to a peaceful state – even if you’re still completely in the Unknown and have no clue about anything – because when you do, that’s when Truth can come in and do the work for you.
So if there are things that still needs to be purged etc., stop trying to do it yourself right now, and stop trying to figure things out for the moment.
Let go and release everything to the Universe and you’ll see how quickly things will begin to resolve themselves and come into the Light again for you.
It’s the ego that is desperate of wanting to know and fix things, and when you realize this it becomes easier to relax into this phase and actually come to enjoy it.
There will be an inner relief when you release and let go and that is an indicator that you’re once again moving with the flow of Life.
And from there on Life takes over and will show you the next step (when the time is right), so keep trusting and know that this is all part of the process.
Hope this was helpful to you. ♡
One more thing I want to mention Daniela, is that when you do surrender completely, you will get a feeling of having a clean slate in a way, so you release yourself from the burden of trying to figure out what to do etc.
And then from that place of inner peace/relief and feeling totally open to whatever Life has for you next, you will be wide open and available for it to flow through you and bring you whatever it is that you need next (as a next step).
So release ALL – stay open – and be in a receptive mode with a wide open mind and heart – and something will soon happen that will help you to the next stage of your life.
It can be that you get a sudden idea to do something, or something comes to you, you get inspired, or your inner voice just tells you what the next step is, so listen for it and it will speak to you, but listen from a detached place within yourself.
You will absolutely know what to do when it’s time for you to do something so trust that.
Life knows how to get you up and going, it has its wonderful ways of doing that so you never have to fear of not being informed once you’re able to stay in a peaceful state, even in the midst of chaos and confusion. 😊
Remember, it’s not the real you that is lost, confused and fearful. The real you is peace itself and thrilled for what is to come for you once you relax and let go.
Thank you. I’m really grateful for your answer. I’ll save it and read it in the moments of doubt and confusion. Know that your work is very appreciated and without people like you some of us would be very lost and scared. I’m grateful for this community as it has helped me a lot with this process. I wish you the best.
Another thing I don’t like right now is being the only one I know who has been through this. During those two years people thought I was with a clinical depression, and I changed university’s courses a lot. They thought I didn’t know what to do with my life, they pity me. Today I know what happened, but when people ask I just can’t say the truth, because I am afraid they won’t understand… I just say I am in a transformation period of my life. Sometimes I feel really lonely because I don’t have someone to share my thoughts/experiences with. It’s hard, also I have met a lot of people during those years and they are all gone from my life now. Sometimes I wish for a group of friends who I click with, but I think I must go through this process first. Thank you again.
You’re so very welcome Daniela, glad that I could help.
And thank you for your kind words and for expressing you appreciation, I appreciate it. 😊
Yes, most people will not be able to understand your process and if you sense that they won’t then it’s best to just say what you say, that you’re in a transformational process.
Some people won’t even know or understand what you mean by that, so there is really no need to go any deeper into anything (unless of course you feel they are open and have some level of self-awareness and awareness regarding growing and evolving.)
Just realize that they are on a different level of consciousness and that they don’t have the ability to relate to what you’re experiencing, so most of the time it’s best to just let them be where they are and you just focus on your own path.
About loneliness, here’s an article that you might find helpful:
https://mariaerving.com/aloneness-on-spiritual-path/
Relationships and friendships often change in this process too, or the dynamics will change, and you’ll go through processes with the people in your life as you’re changing and no longer the person you used to be.
This can happen with family members and friends too that you used to be very close to in the past, and it’s not always easy as you can imagine if only one of you is growing and evolving and the others are not.
Some people will stay and some will leave as you go higher and higher in consciousness and grow in self-awareness and awareness.
Here’s another article that I think you might resonate with:
https://mariaerving.com/transformation-relationship-changes/
Hope you find the articles helpful.
I think this is very helpful. I’ve been trying to figure out what is wrong with me for a while. I did Ayahuasca 6 months ago and about three months back I started to have panic attacks, depression, anxiety and existential thoughts. There has been a lot of healing but now I feel weirdly disconnected from the world. I feel like I just woke up into this life and I am the only one wondering wtf this all is and why we are here and what is life at all. I let my ego make up stories about this a lot and they work me up quite a bit. Now after reading this it seems I can relax and just know and be and let the process unfold. I feel disconnected but that doesn’t mean I’m not safe and not going to feel connected once again. Surrender has always been a challenge for me. Now more than ever I feel I am learning it’s true power.
Yes, it absolutely is true power! I’m glad you’re realizing and learning that, it will be very helpful for you. It truly is the number one key to freedom and liberation.
Surrender will bring you back into alignment and also help you stay aligned while going through the transitional (and transformational) phase you’re in.
Here’s more articles for you that will help you relax into surrendering:
https://mariaerving.com/?s=surrender
I also have a lot of articles about the spiritual awakening process too, you can find them by using the search box below. (Search for “awakening”, “spiritual awakening”, “ego”, “ego voice”, etc.)
Enjoy the read!
I wish I had read this article so long ago. well I guess everything in the right timing, right?…
I have been in the void since around January 2019 (maybe even longer i cant tell). and I felt like such a sucker! my little rat brain going on and on in circles trying to come up with new and productive things to do, business ideas, places to go. and I knew I was in time out. I KNEW! but all this time I thought I had been sent to the naughty kids corner to reflect and the wheels in my brain kept spinning trying to find ways to get out of it: “this is the answer” “no, this is the answer!”. And I knew the idea was to do nothing. because i was told. to sit, to stay put. but but but! I guess it much of a societal construct but the idea that you have make money and be productive all the time. and i was totally wasting my time because I was trying but my brain was mush and was not making any real money, nor being productive. just exhausting myself trying.
the pandemic was like heaven sent for me! (XD oh no I’m sorry. ) it was an excuse to not make money and not be productive! I had already been working from home for a year and basically have no friends anymore. It almost made me felt guilty how much of a good time I had during lockdown.
Anyways, I belive my time in the void is nearing its end and I regret now I didn’t actually took the time rest or allowed to have fun doing nothing (which i love) or taking up little crafting projects. No matter how many times I was told to actually do those things and I didn’t.
I heard August was going to be an interesting month… we’ll see.. maybe it wont, and in that case, I’ll make sure I do use my time more wisely now and actually do a bit of nothing for a change.
Love,
Sara
Hi Sara, thanks for commenting and sharing,
I’m glad to hear that the article brought you peace and more awareness around where you’re at.
Many times the new awareness takes you to the next level of consciousness and you’re able to move forward from the Void.
It’s so easy to ‘do’ and take steps, action etc etc etc, the ego-self loves those kinds of things, and it’s so difficult to just stop the doing and just Be.
Yes, we’re programmed to think that being anything other than productive all the time is somehow wrong, or ‘lazy’.
But there’s an ebb and flow to the cycles of life, and it’s just as important to do and give and share etc as it is to simply be, receive and allow things and Life to come to you.
Most of us learn this by kicking and screaming and resisting the process of how we come to this awareness though! 😊
But then when you learn to move with the flow of Life, things get more balanced and enjoyable. Easier and more effortless. And fun too. 😊
I know what you mean by “the pandemic was like heaven sent for me”; many people felt that in the lockdown especially, and many also felt almost embarrassed by feeling good about finally having some much needed alone-time.
I wrote about that in one of my articles too and have shared some of my views on the coronavirus lockdown period, which you can read here:
https://mariaerving.com/?s=coronavirus
I think we’re heading for another lockdown here in Spain (Malaga, Andalucia region) soon.
I feel it’s just a matter of time and think that we opened the borders up way too early, and now with all the tourists coming, it just doesn’t look very good on that front.
We’ll just have to wait and see what happens in the days and weeks ahead, so yeah, August could be a very different month again – we’ll see.
Much Love back! 😊
Maria
Thanks for the article. I went through spiritual awakening, kundalini awakening also. And still in my initial months. I am married with a lovely husband and kid. And have a very huge family members. Now going through this, and all the thoughts of leaving everything, or what will I say to my family and friends. Like it’s a huge family. Cant I live in a family life and still be spiritual? Normally we being hearing how people leave family life and go to living separately. May be these thoughts are there since I am still in my early stages, like 2 months?. And everything happening together. Also I am from india, and come from a traditional family. We wear toe rings, like a mangalsutra sign of marriage, and many other rituals. Now I am not able to wear anything. I dont feel like and my energy the shakti doesnt let me wear for now. Like it triggers. So if you have any comments or have any suggestions?
Thank you so much.
You’re so very welcome Asha, glad to hear it was helpful to you.
It’s important to understand that the spiritual awakening experiences you’ve had, is not the real awakening, it’s just an experience.
A lot of people have spiritual experiences and openings but that doesn’t make them awakened.
The experiences can be very powerful and profound and potentially life-changing too (but in other ways) as they can help alter your perception, but the experience in itself is not the ‘awakening’.
The ‘going through’ process is actually what you’re experiencing right now, with your societal and cultural rules and belief-systems starting to crumble.
So the triggers you experience, those are actually the invitation for the Real awakening process to begin.
Awakening means you come home to yourself, to consciousness itself, which is what is when all concepts has been ‘removed’, such as cultural and religious beliefs and belief-systems.
It’s also not really ‘spiritual’. Not in the way many people think it is anyway.
You may feel very ‘spiritual’ at the moment and thus think that that’s what the awakening is like, but that’s because your inner Self is using spirituality as a tool to help you wake up.
But you don’t become more “spiritual” so to speak when you wake up.
You just become You, who you really are (you come into wholeness), and spirituality is really about your relationship with yourself, so eventually all spiritual tools etc will fall away too (because you will no longer need them.)
Even your concept of “God” will fall away. (Yes. No matter what you may currently believe about God, all that will change with the awakening process.)
The You that is unbounded and liberated from societal, religious and cultural dogma and belief-systems is what you wake up to, so as you can see, it’s not a path for the fainthearted.
You wrote:
“Can’t I live in a family life and still be spiritual? Normally we being hearing how people leave family life and go to living separately. Maybe these thoughts are there since I am still in my early stages, like 2 months?”
Yes, you can live a family life and be as spiritual as you want to.
The question is; does your family accept you as you (really) are?
If not, then perhaps you need to leave yes, but that’s something you need to decide for yourself.
It really hasn’t anything to do with spirituality per se, it is all about you being able or not being able to be who you are and pursuit the path that feels most right and meaningful for you.
It could have been about anything really as we all have a unique path in this life that is our true life and self-expression.
But yes, many people do feel inclined to leave society (family, friends etc) for a while, and some are also forced (by Life itself) to isolation so that they can go through the awakening process while being as undisturbed by the world as possible (this happened in my case for example.)
I’ve written a lot about the awakening process here on my website so consider becoming a member and you’ll get access to all content, which will be very helpful to you in your process.
Here’s a post with information about it:
https://mariaerving.com/membership-site-price-change
And I think you’ll find this article helpful as well:
https://mariaerving.com/aloneness-on-spiritual-path
And here’s some other articles that will be helpful to you:
https://mariaerving.com/?s=relationship+changes
Trust your own inner being Asha, and follow that which is most true for you – what your Soul wants, even if it’s not what other people approve of or accept.
This is your life and the choices you make should be your own, and that too is part of the awakening process;
To have courage to follow the inner promptings from your Soul (or Shakti as you call it) and trust its calling and guidance rather than obeying and following dogma and what (unconscious/asleep) people around you consider to be true and right.
Hope this was helpful to you.
Thanks for this article Maria, this is my current experience and has helped hugely.
The last time this was experienced I stepped back into the limited believing that ‘I’ had done something wrong as the emptiness was so painful, especially as all communication with my higher Self/god/truth vanished too.
Some of these experiences really cause you to question sanity and require courage!!
Can’t thank you enough,
Tom.
Glad to hear you found it helpful, Tom!
Im going through the void right now and it feels complete emptiness. I have lost communication with my guides/god/higher self. I don’t experience that bliss I used to experience. I feel so disconnected from the universal energy.
Its really a frightening place to be.
Thanks for the article
You’re so very welcome Nina.
And don’t worry, the connection and communication will come back, – See the silence as a spiritual waiting room kind of thing.
This is the time when things are happening in the background of your life, things are going on that you’re not yet aware of (and it’s all good) and when it’s time for you to know or do something again, you will be shown.
I promise you that. The Void is the Unknown so of course it’s frightening for the limited self, but the Real you is not scared at all.
Here are some other articles that can be helpful to you:
https://mariaerving.com/?s=unknown
https://mariaerving.com/?s=waiting
Hi Maria,
So I do NOTHING in the void stage? I feel lazy and unproductive. I have to believe that god/universe has my back and I feel bliss/connection when the time is right?
Hi Maria,
So I do NOTHING in the void stage? I have lost interest in things I used to enjoy.
Love and accept yourself as that which you are right now and you’ll find your way back to presence
T x
Hi Nina,
I know it can feel like you’re being lazy and unproductive, but that’s because we’ve been programmed to always be in action mode, always doing, doing, doing.
To just Be is considered as lazy, but it can actually be very productive.
Here’s a few articles that can be helpful to you:
https://mariaerving.com/productivity-invisible-alchemy-of-manifestation
https://mariaerving.com/slow-down-new-clarity
https://mariaerving.com/honor-low-energy-days
https://mariaerving.com/honor-your-high-energy-days
https://mariaerving.com/creative-process-stages
You wrote “So I do NOTHING in the void stage?”;
A powerful thing that I suggest you do right away is to turn everything off, go offline for a while, and journal about everything that is on your mind and heart.
I mean EVERYTHING, write until you’re done, and then release it all to the higher self/God/Divine saying something like this:
“I know you have heard me and I hereby release all these things into your capable hands, and I go free. I will not lift a finger until I get a clear sign or lead on what action to take next. Until then I’m just going to Be, relax and enjoy myself. I trust you, and know that you have heard and read every word I’ve written/said, even if I don’t feel your presence right now. I know you’re with me, and I delight in trusting you.”
And then see what happens next.
This exercise should give you a huge sense of relief, and that’s an indication that you’re on the right path, even if you happen to be in the Unknown right now.
It’s in the Unknown that magic happens, so trust that, I can promise you that when you do, amazing things always happens.
Here’s a link to some of my other articles that can be helpful to you as well:
https://mariaerving.com/?s=trust
It’s normal to go through phases where you don’t feel any aliveness or inspiration at all and you lose interest in things you normally are into, and when you know this, it’s easier to relax into the process, and then when you do that, then the flow of Life will open up again, I promise you that.
Hello Maria,
Thank you so much for taking the time to reply. It means a lot to me.
I’m trying not to over analyze what I am feeling. Before this void I was feeling alive, connected and feeling the oneness of the universe. I felt connected to my guides. I felt I was wrapped in the warty of god/divine. All of a sudden this feeling of oneness was gone.
It makes no sense? Why would god do that to me?
Hi Nina,
God is not doing anything to you – You are, with your thoughts and beliefs.
When you change your thoughts and shift your perception, you’re right back in alignment with that which you call God/Divine/Universe/Guides.
But we do go through times and phases that are silent, when we don’t ‘hear’ anything specific or feel the presence, and that’s perfectly normal.
If you’re in an awakening process, then this is very common, what you’re experiencing now, and the reason for it is so that you can work on releasing and seeing through beliefs about God and other spiritual beliefs.
And if you’re in a transformational process, then the silence has to do with the Sabbath, which is a time when nothing seems to happen, but in reality a lot of things are happening, but they are happening in the background or beyond your conscious awareness, and this phase of creation is the resting phase, where you just relax and allow things to rearrange themselves in your life (fall into place and manifest), all according to the next level of your life and self.
The most important thing to do and to remember in both processes is to trust, to keep believing, and to keep yourself in your highest frequency, no matter what goes on (or seems to go on) on the outside.
You might feel like you’re being tested, and in a way you are; the universe is checking if you’re evolved enough for the next stage, or if you still need some work (to learn to trust for example), and you’re also always being prepared for the next stage of your life, or the next level of who you’re becoming.
But it’s not really any outside God that is doing anything to you, and that’s one of the beliefs you are called to work on within yourself.
That, and also trust, that’s a huge part of both processes (awakening and transformational).
The resistance and blockages has to be cleaned up, and then when you do that, you’ll discover that “God” never went anywhere and that nothing was done to you, but for you, it was all for your evolution and awakening.
Here’s some of my articles that can be helpful to you:
https://mariaerving.com/?s=trust
https://mariaerving.com/?s=belief
Hello again Nina,
Something else that came to mind that will be helpful to you in the process that you’re in right now is music!
If there is one thing in this world that can lift us up whenever we feel a bit low or disconnected, then that’s music, it’s so powerful.
Music can almost instantly take us to a higher vibrational frequency, so listen to some uplifting and empowering music today and spend extra time in nature during this time as well, it will help you a lot.
Here’s a few articles that you might like:
https://mariaerving.com/power-of-music-and-movement
https://mariaerving.com/spiritual-awakening-tips-walking
https://mariaerving.com/best-places-to-meet-with-the-divine
Hi Maria,
How long does this VOID phase last? What is the reason for this void?
The reason for it can be different things depending on where you’re at in your life, or on your path.
It could be about learning to trust, to have patience, surrender, etc etc, and it can also be about just being in a (natural) phase/stage of the co-creative process of the universe.
Meaning; when you have done your part, it’s time to release everything to the universe and let God do its part.
So in that sense it can serve as a ‘waiting room’, but as I said, it can also be about learning important things such as trust and patience and letting go of control and grasping.
It depends on where you’re at in your journey, and how long the phase is depends on your willingness and ability to trust and let go.
The more you try to control (from a place of anxiety and fear) the longer it will take, so your ‘job’ in this phase is to either;
1.) Relax and let God do its part in peace and without your meddling and anxiously trying to control the outcomes, or
2.) Do inner work on your inability to trust the process/force the outcomes you think you ‘need’ and the timing of them and other things that is the way for your alignment and progress (I can help you with these things).
When you have been in the Void a few times, you will learn to just relax into it and enjoy the phase, knowing that when you have done your part of the creative process of the universe, God is doing its job when you can finally let go and let God be God (or whatever word you want to use for the Divine/Higher Power).
The Void doesn’t have to be ‘bad’, it can actually be enjoyed too, and when you learn to recognize the patterns and phases, when you learn to ‘read’ the universe, it becomes just a part of the flow of your life, so you stop resisting it and you start to go with it, and when you do, life flows with much more ease, joy and grace.
When you surrender and stop focusing and thinking (obsess/worry) so much about what you want, desire and need – it will eventually be given to you.
Everything comes when you listen to your true/higher self, so it’s not about the action, or what to ‘do’, rather the internal alignment with Source, and when you align with That, all things around you and in your life can then fall into place. (And it happens naturally and effortlessly when you do that.)
Here’s a few articles that can be helpful to you:
https://mariaerving.com/waiting-in-limbo-state
https://mariaerving.com/prepared-ready-to-receive-and-attract
https://mariaerving.com/spiritual-waiting-room
https://mariaerving.com/what-to-do-when-waiting-on-god
Thanks Maria.
This is my first void so it does feel kinda strange. I have lost interest in all the things I used to enjoy and I have little motivation. I have been on my spiritual journey since 2008 and healed tons. I feel bored most of the time and don’t know what to do with my time.
I want to go back to my bliss stage where I was feeling connected with god and feel the oneness of the universe. Doing my best to surrender and have no resistance.
I know it can be scary and very confusing, but I promise you that as you just keep moving forwards (and inwards!) you will get through this phase and the inspiration and aliveness will eventually come back.
It’s important that you do the inner work and that you increase your self-awareness and work on trust etc in this quiet phase.
Here’s a few other articles that came to mind that can be helpful to you in terms of understanding the process you’re in at the moment:
https://mariaerving.com/spiritual-awakening-feeling-like-zombie
https://mariaerving.com/interests-fall-away-with-spiritual-awakening
https://mariaerving.com/no-life-flowing-through-me
And here:
https://mariaerving.com/?s=surrender
https://mariaerving.com/?s=self-awareness
Thank you Maria
I’m trying to surrender but it can be so difficult.
I had so much energy and now I am completely exhausted. I am a healthy person.
Is this also part of the void?
Hi Nina,
Yes, it is – it can be exhausting on every level; mental, emotional, spiritual and physical.
And it might also feel hopeless and as if nothing will ever change and as if this is how your life will look forever now etc etc. but I promise you that it’s not going to last forever, but I also know that it might feel that way right now.
Especially in the beginning, but that’s usually because we don’t know what’s going on, but then when we have more understanding and awareness, then it’s not as challenging.
So be kind to yourself, don’t try to figure things out for now but let Life just unfold naturally without your anxious meddling in it and see what happens.
Doing this should make you feel a huge relief, as if a massive burden has been taken away from you, so allow yourself to be taken care of by the universe/God.
Try to relax, take a long deep breath, and continue to keep the conversation going between you and that which you call God, or your higher self.
Here’s an article that can be helpful to you:
https://mariaerving.com/partner-up-with-your-higher-self
But if you feel you’re straining with it then don’t do anything more for now.
Then it’s better to just take some time off and be more in stillness and in a receptive mode rather than trying too hard to make something happen or move forward.
If you’re exhausted and feel ’empty’, then it’s better to take a break from everything and spend more time outside, in nature etc, not ‘doing’ anything, and then things will start to flow for you again very soon.
Sometimes this happens on the very same day, if you just allow yourself to Be for a while.
Here’s a couple of other articles that you might like:
https://mariaerving.com/slow-down-new-clarity
https://mariaerving.com/benefits-taking-a-day-off
Be kind to yourself and you will soon be on the other side of this phase, I promise you that.
Thank you Maria for all your support.
I loved the bliss stage/connected to god and this is very difficult for me. God has always been there for me. This too shall pass. I want to feel like myself again and trying to be patient.
You’re so very welcome, Nina. Glad I could be here for you.
Thank you so much Maria, for this article and comments. It’s a blessing to find someone going through similar phases and you know all these because you went through. Thanks for sharing abundantly.
I was surprised to know some people find it comfortable. I have been ‘doer’ often times pleaser and self sacrificing. I come to this void every time I’m in a relationship. Maybe I was self sacrificing and I’m addicted to it?
But I always thought I had to work on like inner child therapy, because the problems were my insecurities my doubt in my worthiness. So I thought if I could heal myself, I would be fine on my own or won’t be dependent on the partner. But if it hasn’t worked for me, crossing people like them and experiencing this void is the way to the solution? I don’t even know if I should be seeking for a solution.
Now I’m still struggling with attachment to the partner and because I’m in void I feel it so strong.
But as you said for us many times I will surrender and let it be.
Thank you
You’re so very welcome Miki, glad to hear it was helpful to you.
Yes, it’s a relief to hear that others are experiencing the same things, that brings hope of light at the end of the tunnel.
If you have childhood issues that needs to be healed then that’s a different process than the awakening process or any transformational/evolutionary process.
So the Void in your case might be about other things that are related to your childhood and trauma etc.
Sometimes therapy and counseling is the right tool for those kinds of things, but sometimes more progressive (forward-focused) things like coaching is better.
It depends on your personality and of course your overall mental health, so you just have to try different approaches to your challenges/issues to see what is the best fit for you at this time in your life.
Hi Maria,
I am feeling so hopeless and unmotivated in this void phase. I feel disconnected from source/god.
I feel this is never going to end,
Hi Nina,
It will end, but I also know that it can feel like it never will.
I would recommend that you book a private session with me and then we can talk about everything together, it’s much easier for me to help when I know more about your personal story/situation and can tune into your energy.
Here’s the information page for sessions with me:
https://mariaerving.com/sessions
Of course you can always share more here too and I’ll do my best to help you this way.
Hi Maria,
I don’t understand why God puts you in this void when
I was feeling blissful and at peace and connected/grounded to the universal energy.
Now Im feeling sadness and loneliness. I feel abandoned by god
Whats the purpose of this VOID?
Hi Nina,
I wrote an article for you in reply.
You can read it here:
https://mariaerving.com/no-need-to-struggle-and-suffer-in-life
Can a person feel totally bored and have no interest in anything during this void phase?
Yes, and I think I have already mentioned that in my previous replies to you that you can lose interest in things and so on (temporarily).
Feeling bored though is a choice you make.
You can feel bored if you want to, but you don’t have to.
You might find this helpful:
https://mariaerving.com/get-out-of-boredom
I must ask you Nina, as I even wrote an article for you in addition to all the replies on your comments in an attempt to try to help you;
Have you actually applied/done any of the things I’ve shared with you and suggested that you do?
Hi Maria,
I used to love going for walks and now all I want to do is stay in my room. I’m doing my best but its really really hard. I feel fearful going outside.
I think you might need more (or different) help than what I can offer you, Nina.
Maybe go see a doctor, check your hormones as it could also have to do with menopause/hormonal changes, and just talk with someone, maybe a psychologist.
Hiding in your room is not normal, you should definitely seek appropriate help for those kinds of issues.
I have an appt with my Dr on Thursday,
I’m glad to hear that Nina. Hope all goes well and that you get the help you need.
Sending you lots of love.
Hi Maria,
Thank you so much for your article. It helped me so much. I just attended a 10 day silent retreat and we did a significant amount of daily meditation, and when I got home things were different. I initially felt the bliss now I’m in the void – I feel very disconnected, emotionless and just want to be in my own space.
I have only begun to understand the process after reading your articles and your responses to other people’s comments. I appreciate you taking the time to respond because I am sure others like myself also take the time to read them and your suggested articles and continue to learn in the process.
I will continue to just let the process be what it is rather than trying to label it and listen to my thoughts trying to figure it out! It can be difficult to talk to others especially when they aren’t on the same path, so I am really grateful for your articles, just makes the shift easier to have some awareness of what’s going on.
I appreciate you and sending your virtual love and blessings.
Thank you.
You are so very, very welcome Sue, I’m glad to hear you found them helpful. 😊
And yes, it’s so much easier to go through these processes when you know what they are and have awareness and understanding about them.
Sending you love and blessings back, – and hope you have the most beautiful weekend! ☀️
Hi Maria, I’m already loving your wisdom and amazing and insightful content! I’ve been looking up the articles you linked for others above and some say members only, are they all meant to be free? If not all good just wondered! Thanks have a wonderful day!
Hi Elle,
Thank you for your lovely comment, I’m glad to hear they speak to you. 😊
Members only content is for members only, and you can learn more about that here:
https://mariaerving.com/membership
The best articles (and other content) are saved for my members, so I invite you to join! 😊
Hello
I agree with ASHA
I’m not Indian but I live in western society, which there’s a rare cases where people live alone separately, how can I adapt a normal way of living as who I am with them? And I am really ok with living and having a family life
Hi EBTI X,
Not sure I understand what you mean?
Could you please elaborate a little bit and share more about what’s going on and what you’re struggling with? That way it’s easier for me to help and offer guidance.
Hi Maria
I saw a comment of yours said that most likely you will move away from your family, but in my case I don’t see life goes this direction especially that I live in eastern society which there’s no way the persons can live separately, and what’s happening during the awakening There was a lot of family turmoil inside my house and the more I try to fix it the more exhausted I feel until I have accepted it for what it is.
What is your thoughts on that?
Hello again EBTI X,
I don’t think I said that (I can’t make predictions like that), but what happens many times when one member of a family or a relationship is growing and evolving, or waking up, and the other part is not, they naturally start to fall away and dissolve, or leave, or you leave them.
It’s a vibrational thing, and if someone stays in a vibrationally ‘off’ relationship, it usually just becomes more and more difficult to sustain (and can even become toxic) because it’s just not in alignment anymore, or in harmony with you.
It can be very painful and sad, and you might go through a period of grief, but you have to do what’s right of you and bless all the other people involved; bless them and their lives and wish them well.
In your case it might be even more challenging since you’re dealing with strong societal rules and so on,
But the world is changing, and maybe you’re one of the people who are going to to shift those ‘rules’ and expectations to a more evolved society where people can choose for themselves where and who they want to live with.
Where do you live, if I may ask? (What country)
Hi Maria
I live in Saudi Arabia, and as you said there’s a lot of society rules here but true it’s also changing the last three years things are happening here like never been before.
About my family, when I started to do the inner work a lot of stuff happened for the worse and I am finding a huge resistance from my older sister while I’m setting boundaries and other problems such as excluding me from hanging out with my other young sisters and go to do stuff behind my back, for example starting a friendship with someone who I used to have a bad relationship with in very sneaky ways like if you don’t understand her you won’t be sure of what she’s actually doing. I read about these kinds of resistance in article has written by a life coach from my region, he said this is normal to happen from close people when they do not feed themselves from your energy so continue to stick on your power and nothing lasts forever.
What’s your thoughts on that Maria?
I would like to know
Hello again EBTI X,
And thank you for sharing from your life and what you’re in the midst of right now.
Yes, things are changing rapidly right now, in your country too, and many doors are opening up too which was previously closed as humanity is waking up and coming into a higher level of consciousness.
Regarding your question; Oh, have I some thoughts on those things to share with you!
I’ve written so much about these kinds of things, some of which you can find here:
https://mariaerving.com/?s=relationships
And this one:
https://mariaerving.com/transformation-relationship-changes
And here’s a very old article series called “How to handle resistance from the world when you want to grow and become more your true self”:
https://mariaerving.com/how-to-handle-resistance-from-the-world-when-you-want-to-grow-and-become-more-your-true-self-part-7
It’s a 7 part article series from my book ‘Energy Awareness’ that I wrote many years ago.
There’s a lot to read here about the things you’re struggling with right now, and if you have any questions about anything let me know.
Yeah I have read them all before, they were helpful but I’m still struggling.
Anyway I do actually have question, after the inner work and reading about energy and consciousness in general, I’m finding myself losing interest in them like I don’t believe all the answers that are given, I do feel confused I want to get out of this stuckness mood, I want to start my 5D life but I feel in this void like I don’t know which road to take, sometimes I ask for a clarity but I even wonder if I am just afraid or there’s something need to be cleared in order to decide how I’m going to move?
Thank you for your response Maria, I appreciate it.
I see, yes, I have written quite a lot about that stage, or phase, too, some of which you can find here:
https://mariaerving.com/?s=waiting
And here’s some of my older articles too that can be helpful to you:
https://mariaerving.com/a-new-way-to-interacting-with-people
https://mariaerving.com/interests-fall-away-with-spiritual-awakening
https://mariaerving.com/spiritual-practices-not-relevant-anymore
https://mariaerving.com/rigid-about-spiritual-practices
https://mariaerving.com/should-i-let-go-of-a-course-in-miracles-lessons
And this one, which is more from recent time:
https://mariaerving.com/waiting-in-limbo-state
Other articles that also can be helpful to you are these:
https://mariaerving.com/divine-guidance-always-available
https://mariaerving.com/partner-up-with-your-higher-self
And lastly,
It’s actually a good thing that you’re losing interest in the things that has previously interested you, such as energy and consciousness etc, or whatever it might be.
It means that you’re progressing and that you have reached a new stage of your growth, and now you can rest and let your mind relax too, and soon Life will show you what’s next.
Sometimes you just need a break from everything, and it happens naturally when the mind has been filled with a lot of information for example, or when you have come to the end of one phase of your awakening (or transformational) process.
Then suddenly one day, as you relax into this phase, you will get an inclination or nudge or inspiration/guidance to do something again, or talk with someone, or whatever it may be, that will then help you to the next stage of your evolution.
But of course, if you feel or think that you’re scared to make some kind of change, then this article might be helpful to you:
https://mariaerving.com/push-through-obstacles
Oh sorry I wrote 5D instead of 3D world in the previous comment.
I have understood your point of view, thank you for all the articles Maria and thank you for answering my questions
You’re so very welcome EBTI X, glad I could help 😊
Hi I am sabeeha I am going through much in life from past 10 years and I have evolved much thank to awakening then there void
nothing much to grow for me and NY family decided to going back to my native country for children education I thought would be happy there and expecting positive things but everything got stuck worst than before missing husband also much who supported me much at those times there’s void in my life everything is hard as a single parent now…when will this end maria.. sorry for bad english
Hi Sabeeha,
Thank you for commenting and no worries at all about your English, it’s fine. 👍😊
The most important thing to do is to keep moving forwards with whatever it is that is pulling you or that you feel called to do (use your time and energy constructively, whatever is going on around you).
Have you read my article about aloneness on the spiritual path?
Maybe it can help you understand the Void better and what to do while in it:
https://mariaerving.com/aloneness-on-spiritual-path
If you have any questions, let me know! I’m here to help.
Hi Maria.
Thanks for posting this article about the void as there’s relatively little out there on this subject. And yes, it’s very hard to explain this phase.
I went through a really bumpy 2 or 3 years (bordering on madness) which was likely the dark night and have since found myself in this quiet phase which I much prefer. It’s good to read these kind of articles, if just to remind ourselves that we’re not going mad and there is purpose to all this.
Hi Dave,
You’re so very welcome, glad to hear it spoke to you. 😊
Yes, there is a purpose for it, and it’s important to work with it and do the inner work (release false/limiting beliefs, fears, and other blockages etc) and when you do, you will soon be on the other side of it.
I have other articles here that can be helpful to you as well (most of them are for members only):
https://mariaerving.com/?s=waiting