Stop being so hard on yourself (Be kind to yourself)
Some people take life so seriously and are being so hard on themselves.
If you’re one of them, then hopefully this post will inspire you to loosen up a bit and to be kinder to yourself.
Here’s a collection of some of my older articles that has to do with self-love and about lightening up a little and not taking things so seriously all the time.
Hope they help you find relief from any tension you may have put upon yourself either consciously or unconsciously.
Here’s two very old posts that immediately came to mind as the inspiration came to me to write this article:
Too often people push themselves too hard, making life either black or white because they have adopted belief-systems that says that ‘this is right and that is wrong’.
In reality there is no “right way” for you to live, except for Your Way.
And when you click into place with yourself and you’ve found your way, you’re free.
It’s only when you find your own way that you come to experience how it really is to be a free human being.
Read more here: MariaErving.com/buddha-the-middle-way
The mind has to be jolted from the norm in order to grow and transform.
If you are too rigid and strict with yourself to the point that it takes away the joy of living, then I really urge you to do something to breaks up the limiting, ingrained mind-patterns that keeps you restricted in life.
Read more here: MariaErving.com/rebel-zen-master
The quality of the relationship we have with ourselves determines the quality of our life and the more true and in tune we are with ourselves, the happier and more fulfilled we are.
If you saw your very best friend live in the strict, serious and rigid way that you do, you would point it out for them, right?
Or if you saw them constantly running around being stressed and tense about everything, or doing something that was clearly unhealthy, what would you say to them?
Sometimes we human beings are our own worst enemy so we need to be reminded to be kind to ourselves and to love ourselves.
Read more here: MariaErving.com/best-friend-life-advice
Some people are not only their own worst enemy, but they are at War with themselves and life.
Read more here: MariaErving.com/war-with-yourself-and-universe
Another thing many people do, is that they allow their ego play the blame/shame/guilt game with them where they hold resentment and anger towards others and themselves for things of the past.
Sometimes people ask me “Maria, do you have a technique that I can use to forgive someone?”
My answer is always the same: “There is no technique, only choice. You choose to forgive them. That’s it. You choose to forgive”.
To not forgive is to hold yourself hostage and bound to the past, and it’s a choice you make.
You can choose to live in the past (and re-live your pain and hurt), and you can also choose to let go of the past and move on and live your life from the present.
Read more here: MariaErving.com/forgiveness-act-of-self-love
Forgiving yourself is just as important as it is to forgive others.
Read more here: MariaErving.com/promise-yourself
Another thing that restricts the natural joy of living is the endless ‘doing’ that never stops.
Most of us have been conditioned to think that it’s wrong to not do anything, that it’s unproductive and lazy, but in reality there’s a time and place for everything, both for doing and for being.
Most people are caught up in doing and they completely neglect ‘being’.
If that’s you, then read this: MariaErving.com/smell-the-roses
It’s also important to be selfish at times.
The ever-unfolding Self is taken care of in the best way when we honor the pull from within that asks us to take a step back from everything and just cater to our own needs for a moment.
To give ourselves the room and space that is needed – that to me is the best definition of being “selfish”.
It’s a healthy and positive thing to be selfish in this way because only then can we really give our best to the world, when we first take care of ourselves.
Also, when was the last time you gave yourself a pat on the back for everything you’ve done?
You might have done a lot of great things but rarely acknowledged your progress in the process.
It’s incredibly important to celebrate your wins and successes and also to give yourself some slack for the things you are not so happy with as many are quick to point out their flaws and shortcomings but not what they did well.
Read more here: MariaErving.com/love-thyself
I hope this article has inspired you to take things less seriously and to lighten and loosen up a bit so that you can enjoy life more and be more happy and free, as we’re all meant to be.
There’s nothing more important than to be happy in life, don’t you agree? 😊
If you could relate to any of the things I shared in this article, then take a moment to re-think what happiness means to you and then make the shifts that enables you to have more of it in your life.
“Humanity takes itself too seriously. It is the world’s original sin. If the cave-man had known how to laugh, history would have been different.” ― Oscar Wilde (The Picture of Dorian Gray)
And oh, put some music on! There’s nothing more liberating than listening to music if you feel all tense and serious!
Music really has the ability to shift your vibration to a higher level in seconds. 😊