The Ego Needs Fear In Order To Live
The Ego Lives On Fear
I recently met someone who was upset with me because I wasn’t being upset about the world or about my own challenges in regards to having no home at the moment and so on.
That I could actually be peaceful about it, and when I told them that I’m not worried at all they looked at me with great disbelief (almost resentfulness) and said ”I could never live like that” and so I asked them back ”you mean live without fear and worry?” and continued eating my pizza.
They looked at me and went ”yeah, .. I guess that’s what I mean..” and I saw in their facial expression that they just realized something about themselves that they hadn’t thought about before.
Isn’t it amazing how some people live; they are so used to being worried about everything that the mere idea of living without tension and fear is completely foreign to them.
The conversation went on and they said things like ”I could never live a passive life where you don’t care about things” and again I was amazed because I never said anything about being passive and not caring about anything.
I just said that I’m not afraid of how things unfold for me, that I’m peaceful about it, but that doesn’t mean that I don’t care or that I just sit passively awaiting whatever comes.
It only means that I’m not afraid, that I have no fear or worry.
How funny to observe how the ego operates in people’s minds.
The ego.. how it draws its own conclusions so quickly, thinking that we need fear and worry to feel alive and alert.
In a somewhat upset (yet restricted, trying to be polite) tone of voice they also asked me as the conversation continued what I thought about the wars and horror that goes on in the world that are connected to religious views.
I said that there needs to be at least two that goes to war or conflict and that any change in the world has to start with the individual, and I pointed at them and each of us sitting at the table.
It amazed me that someone resented me for being peaceful while at the same time they were saying that they want peace in the world – it’s beyond me.
How can they not see that the very thing they want to create they also resent seeing in a human being sitting in front of them – right there in the moment where we sat and had the conversation, and if I had chosen to I could have gone into a conflict with her, about peace! 😀
They wanted me to be upset about the world, about other people and their religious beliefs, they wanted me to be angry at the injustice in the world, they wanted me to join them in their drama.
The Ego Needs Drama
But I just don’t think that way and I have no interest at all to go into that kind of drama and that apparently makes me ”cold” in their eyes, ‘not caring about the suffering in the world’.
I wonder how much and what specifically they do with all the ‘caring about the world’ that they do, .. hm, interesting thought.
But I never asked them about it, I kind of already knew the answer.
These are average, normal people who watch a lot of TV and discusses what’s going on in the news everyday but they never really do anything about anything.
They just watch, talk and complain and remain in a constant tense, upset, fearful and worried state of mind; that’s their ‘norm’, their normal way of living and the thing about this is that most people live like this, not only these folks.
This is just a clear description of how the ego feeds and lives on fear on an everyday basis in completely everyday situtations – it’s how it survives.
Anyways, the conversation went on for a while before I decided to leave because it was going into a direction where we could no longer meet.
As they were saying things like ”I can’t wrap my head around that” I thought to myself ‘I know you can’t, the ego mind can never understand this’ so I felt it was time for me to leave so I said thank you and good bye and left.
As I left I could sense and see some kind of glimpse or light in their eyes telling me that something about our conversation had hit home somewhere deep inside of them even if they couldn’t understand my viewpoints, and I think maybe that was the point Truth had with our meeting in the first place.
Maybe they will start to think about the possibility to live without fear, that such a life actually exists, I don’t know.
The pizza was good and parts of the conversation was interesting so I left it at that and it also inspired me to write this article.
A couple of other articles that you might like: mariaerving.com/is-your-life-a-conditioned-state and mariaerving.com/ego-consciousness-keeps-you-limited
What experiences have you had with people that live from a very dense ego state?
Do people find your peacefulness weird, annoying or wrong somehow, are they upset because you’re not living in fear and worry like they are?
Share in the comments below!
Also share how you handle situations like this so that others can benefit from your experiences.
The only way the ego can survive in an individual or in our collective consciousness is by fear; that’s the only way it can survive and live.
Where there is no fear and worry, ego cannot survive, that’s how simple it is – and that’s the resistance too because once the fearful mind is challenged it challenges its whole worldview.
Some people will always stay in resistance while others start to see beyond the veil of fear and this can then start a whole new life experience for someone who previously only knew how to live in a world of fear and worry.
We are always influencing each other with our beingness so stay peaceful even if some people don’t like it! 🙂
Remember it’s just their ego and that it has no chance when it comes to the Light that shines through you as you stay calm and true to yourself.
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