Give yourself the things you seek and want from the world and other people
What you want is inside of you, and we all want the same basic things.
Most of us just go about getting them in ways that are oftentimes not in alignment with who we really are.
Every human being wants peace. At our core we all desire world peace for example, we all also want inner peace, and we want peace of mind.
One person chooses to go to war because they want peace, another person does drugs in an attempt to find inner peace, and some other person is overbearing and controlling because they want peace of mind and think that micromanaging others will help them get that.
Social media is making people feel insecure, left out and lonely, while the core thing all human beings want is to feel accepted, heard and seen.
The way many people seek validation via social media for example is just the wrong way to go about getting what you want and need.
A great documentary that I think everyone should watch, especially parents (but really all people), is “The Social Dilemma”.
We all want the same things at our core.
What we all want is to feel good. We want to be happy, feel fulfilment and purpose. Meaningfulness.
We all want to feel safe and secure, but most people go about trying to get it the wrong way by being in the wrong relationships or doing things just to get money that their soul does not approve of.
In everything in life, whatever our basic human needs are, or whatever our core values are; there are both healthy and unhealthy ways in going about getting what you want.
The key is to become aware of the ways in which you try to attain them, and then change your approach if they’re not serving you our your highest good.
Are they really working for you? Do you really enjoy it?
We might desire human connection for example, and falsely think that being ‘friends’ with people on Facebook will provide that for us.
Some people want to feel loved so they look for love in all the wrong places and in ways that are degrading and indignifying to them.
Someone else is yearning to feel included and important, so they gossip and talk behind other people’s backs so that they can feel those things.
Any person that is going about getting what they want in ways that are unhealthy and harmful, are doing so because they think that that’s the only way; that they can only get them from the outside.
They think that once they have the money, then they will be safe, or that once they get the love they seek, or the whatever it is, that then they will be happy.
As if our happiness and inner peace were dependent on what happens on the outside.
“Once I get ______”, or “once _______ happens, then I will never feel lonely/sad/scared/worried/unhappy, etc again”.
That only once you get that ‘thing’, will you be able to be happy, or “as long as ______doesn’t happen, I’m happy/safe/secure/fine”, and so on.
Take a break from the world and connect with yourself.
I invite you to look at where and how you might be looking for what you want in ways that are not serving you.
Maybe it has to do with unhealthy relationships, insecurity and issues with self-worth, money worries, your health, habits that don’t serve you, too much Facebook scrolling, overeating, or whatever it may be.
Whatever we’re doing it’s always serving us in some way or another (otherwise we wouldn’t do them), but sometimes it’s in unhealthy ways, and in ways that are detrimental to our general well-being and happiness.
What other, more healty ways are there for you to feel and experience a sense of connection, love, support, or feel seen, free, accepted, loved, or whatever it is that you want?
How else can you find peace and happiness other than through the maybe harmful and negative ways you’re trying to attain them in now?
Why are you doing the things you do? What purpose are your actions and behaviour serving you?
What do they give you?
Whatever it is; the short answer to all that we want is this; stop looking for it on the outside.
For as long as you’re dependent on the world, things, and other people to make you feel happy, safe, and at peace, you’re never going to attain the real sense of inner peace, or true happiness, and the kind of internal safety and security that money can never buy.
Nice things, other people, money, and so on, they all contribute to our experience of happiness and well-being in life, but they should never be the main reason or cause to it.
If they are, then you’re essentially their slave.
Then they are in charge of you and are dictating your emotional and mental state, how you feel and how you experience the world and your life.
When you’re in alignment with the truth of who you really are, you don’t need a reason or cause to be happy, because you’re naturally happy, or calm and confident, and so on.
Because you already are it, you have it inside of you. We were never meant to chase those things on or from the outside. Most people have just forgot that.
So ask yourself;
“What do I want?” (what am I looking for/needing) and “How can I give myself that?”
Love, peace, a sense of safety, connection, happiness, whatever it is;
- “What’s in the way, and what’s got to give?”
- “What do I need to stop doing, and what do I need to start doing (more)?”
And when you have those things written down, ask yourself;
What needs to happen next?
- “What (specific) actions are there for me to take?”
When you yourself can meet your own needs (and you can), you will become free as the unbounded soul that you were born to be.
Your higher self will guide you, so listen to it, and take the actions that you’re guided to take and trust the new, much more self-empowered path and life that is now beginning to unfold before you.