If you want to awaken spiritually, don’t do this

Most people want to be soothed and comforted by their spiritual teachers and Gurus.

Don’t be that kind of person.

Don’t engage in spiritual masturbation by only doing what feels good because the only one that it feels good for is your ego.

You may think you’re doing profound spiritual work but if feeling good is all that comes out of it, you’re not doing the real work.

The work that your ego is scared shitless of and is avoiding at all cost.

Real spiritual work is when the whole foundation of your life is shaken to its core, and repeatedly so until the ego is no longer able to rebuild itself up again.

When the only thing left is something that you can only know by completely surrendering to the process which is ruthlessly destroying that which you take as true and real.

It’s a challenging process to the point of brutal.

Pure hell at times to put it mildly, and where Truth is completely and utterly uninterested in your avoidance games and projections. 

The awakening process is not about building, creating or finding anything; on the contrary it’s about a full demolition of that which you now call your world.

You cannot take anything with you, and you won’t achieve anything, or gain anything.

Truth goes in behind layers and layers and veils of illusion that you’ve built and hold dear and when it’s done, all that is left is Truth itself.

The spiritual awakening process is about unlearning all the false nonsense you’ve taken for real all your life.

It has not even anything to do with spirituality, it goes way beyond all the spiritual woo-woo and mushiness. 

If you believe the path to awakening is about soft chanting, candle light and incense, and about trying to reach bliss states, then you haven’t even began you awakening process yet.

If you on the other hand are experiencing the dismantling of your “self” and the tearing down of your belief-systems, then it has begun and you’re in for a helluva ride.

And once Truth is done with you, ‘you’ won’t be here, there is no finish line for ‘you’ to cross in it.

No high-fives to be expected. 

What will be left is Truth, and only that.

And since you are that (although you can’t ‘know’ it until you know it), you’ll be free, and free to enjoy your life.

That’s really all that is left after awakening.

To live and to enjoy. Nothing more, nothing less.

If this is what you want, then stop hanging out in the spiritual playground of mainstream feel-good stuff and begin the Real Work:

Question everything and surrender completely to the process without trying to hide, run, or manipulate yourself out of it.

You might like this post as well: 

The biggest misunderstanding about spiritual awakening


What you just read was one of my short blogs. – Share if you enjoyed it –

All my short blogs can be found here.

Get in alignment with the flow of life


Work closely with me for the next two months: 8 WEEKS FLOW INTENSIVE


  1. Ganesh

    Hello Maria,

    This is an eye opening article. Ego is always there to deceive me. I am foolishly feeling that the bliss state is the last stop.

    You are telling us that surrender to process, but Maria.. there is a conditioning in me that i can surrender to other person only.. i.e. Guru etc.

    What can I do Maria?


  2. I remember when I was in India and everyone kept asking the same questions; “are you married?” etc, they also always asked what religion I was and who my Guru is (= standard Indian questions).

    This is the conditioning of the minds in India, and when I replied that I’m not married, that I don’t have a religion and that I don’t have a Guru they looked at me as if it was really strange 🙂

    But you have the awareness that it is a conditioned mindset, or programmed belief-system, so by that awareness you’re already halfway there so to speak.

    It depends on how ingrained the belief is and how independent you are in your thinking (and how dedicated you are to your awakening).

    And also look at the experiences you’ve had with surrendering to a person (Guru), how was your experience of that?

    Was it helpful, did you feel free or restricted, were you able to be independent, did you feel respected and so on in your relationship with this Guru?

    What was your gut telling you, and what is your gut telling you (now, about the path forward)?

    Is this the path, really..? Is it for you or not?

    Be brutally honest with yourself.

    I would personally never even consider surrendering to a person, Guru or whatever they may be.

    That is completely alien to me.

    Just as alien as it was for all the Indian people who thought it was really weird that I’m not married or that I don’t have a Guru.

    The difference between us is that I am free, and they are not (=they believe something and I don’t).

    They really really think that the way to live is to be married, have a religion and a Guru. That’s their reality and they never question it.

    So it’s really a choice on your part now that you know it’s a conditioned state you’re in (the conditioned state is the ego state), if you want to break free from it or not.

    And who in their right mind would want to stay in bondage now that they know that there’s another way to live (being free)? The answer is very clear to me.

    Keep releasing and relinquishing the false, Ganesh.

    It is a choice you must make for yourself to see Truth and nothing but Truth and when/if you do, that’s what you’ll end up with when all the false has been seen through and let go of.

    Moving on,..

    Surrendering to the process means that you act on what is shown to you without hesitation.

    In your case when we speak about Gurus;

    So if a teacher comes your way (Guru is you will) and you feel drawn to them (genuinely, not by the ego), then work with them, learn from them, let them point the way, but never, ever get attached to or dependent on any person.

    They are not gods, you are, within yourself there is God/Life/Truth.

    Sometimes when you’re in the process of any transformation in life you will be lead to different people/teachers/Gurus etc, but it’s not them you should surrender to.

    Immediately if someone tries to convince you that they have the Truth, or that they can awaken you or whatever promises they make, run away from them as fast as you can!

    On the other hand, if they challenge you to seek within yourself for the answers, then listen to them for as long as it feels right and relevant.

    Surrendering to Truth means you surrender to the path that unfolds before you and to the truth withing yourself.

    Not surrendering to your experiences, conditions and other people.

    See the difference?

    Be free always, Ganesh. Bound to nothing and no one.

Add A Comment


This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.