How To Handle Relationship Changes (Spiritual Awakening Process)

Everything serves Truth.

In the process of any kind of spiritual transformation, the foundation of our relationships with other people (and God too!) will go through a transformational phase as well, and some people will leave, while others stay and become even closer.

As we grow, we also grow more and more sensitive to energies and vibes and some of the friends we once enjoyed being around may even start to feel toxic and draining.

Either we are open with each other, and are able to communicate honestly and sincerely and by doing that able to establish a new way to relate, or the relationship will simply crumble and not be there anymore and we fall out of it so to speak. We grow apart.

The awkwardness and uncomfortable gut-feelings that are there are an invitation to look at the relationship closer and if it still feels supportive and loving it will stand the test, but if not it’s important to be honest about it with oneself.

Being true, and also leaving any kind of blame or resentment out of the picture, allowing the other person to be who they are as well, and simply acknowledging that you are on different levels of evolution and there’s not enough openness to meet in sincere interaction with each other at this particular time.

Sometimes that happens and it’s natural.

Even if the potential is there to grow together or more close, the capacity might not be there at this point, and perhaps you will need to mature each on your own end and then, maybe, one day you’ll meet again and both has matured and are ready to connect again.

When these things happen, or if there are any clashes that occur with the people in your own life, know that they are all there to serve Truth.

Think back and see if you can recall a prayer you recently said; did it have to do with you asking the Truth to be revealed to you? Then this might be the answer to your prayer.

It’s not always comfortable as answers to prayers come in all forms and not only in gushy heartfelt moments of bliss and magic.

Truth will reveal that which is not true and real and remove it from our lives, so look back and check if what’s going on right now in your own life actually is an answer to a prayer.

Also, Be still and listen within (not with the mind) and ask what the true purpose is of the relationship-crash you might be experiencing. It’s usually deeper than we think.

Ask; “What am I to learn from this?”, and listen to what comes up.

Always follow that which is true within your own heart.

Below is an image collage (click on it to see larger) I made a day or two ago from pics I took from one of my walks. As you can see it’s getting really cold here – brr..!! 🙂


People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime.

When you know which one it is, you will know what to do with that person.

When someone is in your life for a REASON it is usually to meet a need you have expressed.

They have come to assist you through a difficulty…

To provide you with guidance and support…

To aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually…

They may seem like they are a godsend, and they are.

They are there for the reason you need them to be.

Then without any wrongdoing on your part, or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.

Sometimes they die…

Sometimes they walk away…

Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand….

What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled…

Their work is done.

The prayer you sent up has now been answered and now it is time to move on.

Some people come into your life for a SEASON.

Because your turn has come to share, grow or learn.

They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.

They may teach you something you have never done.

They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.

Believe it, it is real. But only for a season.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons.

Things you must build upon to have a solid emotional foundation.

Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person, and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.

It is said that love is blind, but friendship is clairvoyant.

Thank you for being a part of my life…

Whether you were a reason, a season or a lifetime

~ unknown author


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