How To Improve The Length Of Stillness

A question from one of my readers:

Hi Maria, Thanks a lot for your email. I liked it very much.

I am a Buddhist monk here enjoying a free life without any bonds whatsoever and I have already realized the great taste of divine freedom with stillness and most of the day I allow the mind to stop naturally and enjoy emptiness.

For this I found it is much helpful in maintaining my awareness by simply watching bodily feelings when I am doing any kind of work during the day.

I need to improve the length of my stillness.

Please write me something on this.

How To Increase Stillness

  • When in moments of stillness and peacefulness, contemplate the truth that we don’t have it. We are it. Feel into that; “I am this stillness, we are one”.
  • Do not grasp for it as if you’re trying to add something to yourself.
  • Before mind gets in, enjoy the beauty, but when mind do gets in (as it will), let it. Don’t condemn it, or yourself, for having let disturbance in. It’s in the pushing away it gets stronger. Just let it be.
  •  Contemplate not having awareness, but being it.
  •  Let go of efforting. We can’t create stillness. It already is, and it’s waiting on us to lean into it. Not by effort, but by allowance.

Stillness when in movement/doing some kind of everyday chores and when interacting with others is also possible;

  • Before speaking, pause.
  • When doing something, be there fully for the task without thinking about the next task beforehand.

We overlook this enormous source of pure Love, which we are part of.

We think that there’s us, and there’s nature. As if we are separate. No, we are it.

Let go of the assumption or expectation that stillness is some extraordinary experience. Instead remember that it is our natural state, so it feels natural.

It really is about beingness and not ‘doing stillness’.

Nature and animals has a harmonizing quality that stills the mind that I think we could appreciate and enjoy more.

Hug your pet 🙂 Look at a bird, or an ant. I mean, I’m only thinking about it now and I’m all choked up; there’s such wisdom there I’m in awe.

You can also do the obvious that we often overlook; simply ask “what is stillness?”, what is true about my existence, what is my true nature? and pay attention to how it reveals itself to you.

Other things you can do – if you feel inclined to it – is to follow your breath, say a mantra or a short prayer, something that helps center you.

But let that go too eventually, don’t make any means or ‘help’ to stillness become a crutch.

Allow thoughts and feelings come up, because they will, just don’t indulge in them nor deny them. Let them flow by like clouds in the sky.

Notice the stillness, that’s how it “grows”. Simply notice it. Right now even. It’s present right now.

Become a member of and ask your own question; Click Here for more information.


You are truly a gift to us all!

I can’t even begin to express how much I have gained internally after my session with you. You have been an instrument of peace in my life. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

– Owen, USA

The whole session felt as if it was operating on another level

If you can trust one thing in your life right now, trust Maria. You can trust her with your heart and soul. It’s hard to explain, the whole session felt as if it was operating on another level. I’ve never had that kind of experience before. It just felt so much bigger than I anticipated. I can tell you with absolute honesty and conviction that having a session with Maria is life-changing!

– Lisa, USA

Beyond grateful for the transformational journey we shared

Maria, I am beyond grateful for the transformational journey we shared. it was nothing less than a miracle that has allowed me come into who I really am. I wake up every morning with a big smile on my face, feeling immense gratitude for just being alive, I can’t explain it, I´m just enjoying this fully. Your guidance has so profoundly changed my life, and I cannot thank you enough.

— R. Los Angeles, USA

The feeling of peace and freedom is priceless

This feeling of peace and freedom is priceless. Maria is beyond amazing. Had I not experienced it myself, I would probably not believe it. I recommend anyone who is trying hard to be truly free and really start walking down the path of self fulfillment and happiness to book a session with her.

I had a complete turnaround to my situation

I had a complete turnaround to my situation so many thanks for helping me transform something I had lost hope about. It’s a miracle and the outcome could not have turned out better! If you want to see a real shift not just psychological but spiritual shift, then Maria is the lady to see. I am so glad I found you!

– Sophie P

I’ve never had a conversation like that before

I just wanted to say thank you so much again for our session yesterday, I’ve never had a conversation like that before and it was truly amazing. I could feel weight lifted as we were talking and for the first time my mind did not try to make sense of things, it was all truly felt in the heart space.

Val, Melbourne, Australia

I have never felt more aligned to my true self

Maria’s awareness of energies and the conditions of the mind are truly impressive. She knows exactly what’s going on. She is so attuned to other peoples’ energy that she just knows where you’re at. After working with her I have never felt more alive and aligned to my true self.

Andrew B, San Diego, CA, USA

This journey with you has been amazing

Words cannot fully express the profound impact of my session with you – it has been nothing short of magical. You helped me remove the blockages that held me back, helped me recognize my true worth, and providing so much insight that has been truly life-changing!

— Sarah K.

You have really made a difference in how my mind works

I don’t know if I make sense, but all I can say is that I feel blissful. And I can’t thank you enough for that. I don’t know exactly how you managed this, but you have really made a difference in how my mind works.

– Silvia, Marbella, Spain

Could not more highly recommend

Maria is the real deal. You will sense it the moment you lay eyes on her. She offered much, much more than I’ve derived from other teachers; highly specific and personal recommendations. It is as though I got a crash graduate course from spirit. Could not more highly recommend!

Catherine Rondeau, Westport, Connecticut, USA

Maria is leading people to a new way of being

Maria is changing the world by her presence. She’s leading people to a new way of being. She’s able to see where you are at in your journey and can show you the way forward. I feel so incredibly grateful that she has been a companion during this time of change. If you feel drawn to connect with Maria I encourage you to move forward with confidence.

– Carolyn W. Asheville, NC, USA

Now I know what is creating my reality

I’m overflowing with gratitude and joy! Life has changed dramatically for me after our time together. I have truly realized on a fundamental level what is creating my reality and it has given me confidence for the first time in my life to finally be ME, I feel liberated to be my authentic self!

— J. Carlson

Something happened within me that I cannot explain

During and after our session, something happened within me that I cannot explain nor would it even make sense to anyone. There was a part of me that felt my being been taken over by a real peacefulness that I’ve never encountered before. Sounds odd but it’s the truth.

– A.


  1. Pingback: Exploring the concept of a “Spiritual Teacher” · Maria Erving

  2. Pingback: How God Speaks To Us · Maria Erving :: Maria Erving

Add A Comment