How To Listen To Your Intuition
How to sense the difference between intuition and the voice of ego:
There are ways in which we can learn how to sense the difference and start making wiser decisions for ourselves and one of them is to listen to your body and how it feels in regards to something you’re about to do or get into etc.
Sense if there’s an expansion within you or if you feel you’re contracting, sense the difference between the dropping of energy and where there’s a surge of energy within you.
That’s the difference between your own true ‘yes’ and ‘no’.
“Yes” feels expansive, like life comes out through you towards something (like a flow of energy coming out), and “no” feels like your shrinking or you feel that your energy just dropped.
If you go ahead and do the thing that makes you contract you’re going against your own inner wisdom so don’t do it no matter what you think it will get you.
Always trust if something feels toxic or ‘wrong/off’, because it’s unhealthy to stay in any kind of situation or relationship that feels toxic or somehow yucky.
Notice if you’re feeling excited/uplifted/energized, or drawn toward doing one thing over another, then do go in that direction, and also notice any feelings of dread etc and realize that those are are signals not to proceed with something.
These sensations can all be felt in your body and your emotional response if you pay attention. It’s really about fine-tuning this instrument of yours and to have the guts to follow it.
A great way to develop your intuition is to become aware of what’s happening right now in every encounter or situation you find yourself in; become aware of your “first impressions”and also goosebumps.
Goosebumps are usually a physical confirmation of something being true, or an agreement within you that says “this is true”, this resonates with the truth within me”.
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When faced with a decision or dilemma that feels very uncomfortable or uneasy you can stop for a moment and ask yourself what your fear is telling you versus what your intuition is telling you.
Say to yourself:
“My fear is telling me that..” and “my intuition is telling me that..” and see how you feel happier and more alive when you listen to your intuition and more miserable and empty/dead when you listen to your fear. (Always go with the life affirming option).
Another thing you can do is to close your eyes for a moment and go within and remember a time when you made a decision, any decision, and see how your life could have looked so different now if you had done one thing or chosen one path over another.
This will help you see clearly that our choices really are life altering (doesn’t matter how small or big they are) and that every moment is a moment of choice.
Think of all the different directions life could have taken if you had done something that was against your intuitive knowing!
And this applies also the other way around; think of a time when you decided to follow your heart even if you felt scared and completely out of your comfort zone.
If you can’t find any examples, then ask yourself “Show me the unfolding of times when I have followed my gut” and you will be shown memories from times when you have been true to yourself and what happened/how the unfolding happened.
Remember how if felt when you trusted and followed your intuition.
You can also go back and remember a time when you were warned about something; what happened? See it clearly and you can see how it pays off to listen to your gut the first time around.
This will make it easier to handle your dilemma or make a decision.
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OLD PROGRAMMING AND CONDITIONING:
We have been taught to ‘stop and think’ and to gather information before we go ahead and do something.
As children we are taught that everything needs to be explained and everything must make sense and our intuitive wisdom has been mostly neglected as we’ve been taught to consider more “rational” things to have more value.
And by doing that instead of following our nudges and insights we have learned to turn to our rational/surface mind for guidance but the rational mind will always present to us solutions which are pretty much all based on past experiences and the times when we ‘failed’.
It will basically drag something up from memory and present it to you and if you believe in it, that memory will prevent you from taking any kind of new action.
Or it will tell you that you should only trust your five senses (what you see and experience as being the only reality there is) and that the thing you want to do is not possible because this or that.
(Like for example “I don’t have enough money”, “I don’t know the right people” or “I can’t do that, who am I to think I can do something like that?”).
Try out living more spontaneously and just do things (without having to know or explain everything), even for a day or two try it out for yourself to see how it feels.
That will help you become more aware of the thoughts (based on memories) that pop up that prevents you from moving forward with something.
Giving away your power thinking your rational mind knows the Truth about something is just as bad as giving it away to other people by thinking they know what’s best for you.
If you allow yourself to listen to what other people think is possible for you, notice how what they say is the total opposite of what your heart is telling you; isn’t that interesting?
Notice how they judge you and call you egoistic or inconsiderate because you want to do something different than they.
They are probably unconsciously behaving that way towards you but as soon as you catch them in doing that you can chose to simply be aware of it and turn even more to your own inner knowing, recognizing that what you see is a bunch of egos trying to belittle and intimidate your ego, but you know that’s not who you are so you need not be affected by any of that.
Being stuck in old programming can also prevent you from seeing something in a new light if you are skeptical and close-minded.
To be skeptical is great (we should ask and investigate things for ourselves and not take other peoples word for the truth), but it’s not healthy to be skeptical only about new things but never about anything old.
Think about how being curious opens up life more; curious about other people and how they function and think is interesting, wouldn’t you agree?
It not only opens up the communication flow between people but we also come to discover new things about ourselves in that process.
A memory comes to mind just now about when I was young and was struggling with math, because I could know the answer to an assignment but I couldn’t explain how I knew it, so they thought I cheated, and then the ability I had to be able to solve some mathematical assignment was never allowed to be explored or developed.
So to always do things the way they have always been done is restricting us on fundamental levels of living, and to give away your power to believing only what you see (what your rational mind tells you) or continuously asking other people about your life is also to give your power away.
Forget about tarot cards readings, psychics, astrology, “all-knowing”- gurus, and so forth, and turn within instead of asking others “What do you think, should I do it?” or ”Is this the best for me?”
Change it around and ask yourself “Is this the best thing for me?” and learn to trust yourself.
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For some being alone is painful and very much resisted.
They always want to have some distractions or noise around them (like TV/other people etc) but we need to be still to hear and develop our intuition.
And there’s nothing ‘spiritual’ about it.
It’s simply the ability and willingness to be with yourself and listen to yourself and anyone can do it.
Learn to be quiet and turn off the TV or laptop and when you do actually take time to just be with yourself in stillness you will experience heightened awareness that might first startle you or even scare you (some people are afraid of their own mind/thoughts) if you haven’t quietened your mind before, but very soon you will discover that there’s a deep peace there and from that place the insights can begin to come forth.
You’d be amazed if you knew how many people prefer noise before silence and how many people prefer having someone (like a psychic) telling them something they think is “the answer” instead of going within and get the real answer from there.
I just had a conversation with someone whom I have suggested to start writing a journal and to start asking herself some really deep questions and meditate etc as I know she’s going through a very difficult time at the moment, and just recently after I have suggested this for a couple of years (!) she finally did the question exercise (my get tells me she gave it only a few minutes though) and then later when we spoke again she shares with me that she’s going to a psychic soon.. it’s just beyond me.
She will suffer and struggle until the day when she takes back her own power, and until then she will continue looking for the answers outside of herself.
But that’s her journey, I’m not here to twist anybody’s arm.
Inspiration and insights, just like intuition, strikes when you are relaxed and in a quiet, receptive mental state.
Stillness is where all solutions comes from but this is the last place the ego wants to go.
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You know something you don’t want to know. That’s where the suffering comes from.
You know you should have left him/her ages ago, but you’re still with them.
You just don’t like what your intuition is telling you (or you fear the consequences/changes that will happen when going with your gut) so you chose to not listen to it.
But it will tell you, louder and louder. Not in a demanding way, but it will tell you straight out if you need to leave a certain job, relationship, situation and so forth, because it cares about you.
It’s telling you the truth about your life and you’re not listening!
Trusting your intuition will lead you in new directions and open doors that you might not have otherwise opened and walked though, or even seen, but they are there, even right now actually they are there.
You’re just not aware of them, but the awareness comes from the first step you take in the direction of your heart, then you’ll discover that it has always been there but you didn’t see it.
Trusting your intuition is the key that unlocks any door, and acting on it allows you to walk through the doorway to a new situation.
Don’t second guess yourself; either you like and trust someone or you don’t. Either a situation repels you or it interests you. Whatever it is, you already know what you need to know.
Trust the messages you receive.
And if you have to (and still feel unsure), sleep on it. You’ll know the answer in the morning.
The more aware you are the more your will awaken your intuition and also act on it, so don’t be afraid of making mistakes or making the ‘wrong decision’, that’s how we learn and grow.
Intuition is your true voice and you can absolutely trust it.
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Here’s an adorable little kitten I found the other day at a garbage place.
It has now found a new loving home thanks to Costa Animal Society here in Nerja.