The #1 type of people to stay away from
Insecure people are the worst people you can ever allow into your life.
Never sink down to other people’s level of self confidence (or lack thereof) to make them feel more comfortable about themselves when they are around you.
It can also shift your energy where you momentarily end up forgetting you who are and what you’re about (what your values are) and you find yourself getting drawn into an energy that you don’t really like being in.
Today I invite you to release these types of limiting influences from your life so that your life can unfold with more flow and a lot less drama!
And it’s not about finger pointing and blaming others for any drama in your life.
It’s about awareness and realizing that it’s actually all up to you to choose who you allow into your life.
One of the worst people you can ever engage with or have anything to do with is the insecure type.
Here’s 4 characteristics to look for in order to spot them.
Insecure people are:
Easily intimidated and offended.
They take everything personally and if it happens to be something they’re insecure about, they’ll take heavy offense.
What you usually feel when being around them is that you have to tiptoe around them and you’re cautious of saying something that might upset them.
So you shrink yourself down and make yourself smaller around them so that your presence won’t rock the boat or ruffle their feathers.
Erratic and unpredictable.
They may seem nice but can suddenly get really defensive and lash out and attack you (usually with words that are hurtful).
What you usually feel when being around them is a nagging feeling that you can’t really trust them, although you can’t quite put your finger on why because they ‘seem nice’ and ‘others seem to like them’.
So you question your own judgment and gut feeling about them and by doing this you allow them into your life little by little until you realize what you knew instinctively already from the beginning.
They sabotage and destroy.
They have a narcissistic personality where they can’t see any other perspective than their own, and if you ‘go against’ them they get angry and hostile.
What you can experience when being with them is that they gossip and talk negatively about other people and they usually make themselves the victim of something that others has supposedly done to them.
Watch out if you have even voiced an opinion that they feel threatened by because you can be sure that they will bad-talk you behind your back too.
They also try to sabotage any kind of improvement that you are trying to make in your life.
Such as buying you a chocolate bar when you have just mentioned to them that you’re trying to lose weight, or they invite you out for a drink when you have just told them that you’re cutting down on alcohol.
Overly proud and close-minded.
They are stubborn and nearly impossible to have a conversation with where you share your opinions and viewpoints because it’s threatening to them so they don’t want to listen.
Because they are not secure in themselves they can’t deal with anything of depth and many times they also feel threatened by a confident person.
If that happens to be you as you grow more and more confident in yourself they will start to resent you and make fun of you/ridicule you.
This is because an insecure person is in a very fixed state of ego consciousness/mentality and is not open to any kind of personal growth or development.
Not for themselves or the people around them. They want everyone to stay the same so that they can feel secure and safe.
Why are insecure people insecure?
They are disconnected from who they are and have no self-awareness.
The insecure person is very much driven by the false self so everything is conditional. There’s no openness there.
And by having them in your life you can never really be who you are, and you can never grow with them.
It’s not possible to develop an intimate and close relationship with a person who is insecure.
You will always have to in some way or another cater to their ego and that can never lead to any kind of healthy and harmonious relationship.
It will always be conditional, a one-way kind of relationship.
The only relationships that really matter are the ones in which you can truly be yourself.
In these relationships, you’ll feel free to express everything you think and feel at any time, and not to mention that you actually enjoy their company. You like being with them.
Insecure people are not fun to be around and can be detrimental to your spiritual, mental and emotional health so I suggest you avoid them at all cost.
Learn to read people’s energy by trusting your gut feeling about them.