Do not Waste One More Moment in Regret
Stop torturing yourself for past mistakes!
All we really have is This Moment, and it’s from this moment that our life and future unfolds.
By letting your mind pull you back to the past and the mistakes you made, you’re only reinfecting yourself and making your point of power to be based in the past.
So take a deep breath and center yourself back into the Now.
Think of the awareness you’ve gained and be grateful for the growth opportunity and resolve to move forward from this point on as a wiser and more aware person than before, because that’s what you are!
You learned something, now take that learning or insight and move on with your life.
Each time we make a ‘mistake’, we also learn and become more aware of our patterns, and every time we gain awareness of something, we also become empowered by the choice they bring too.
We can’t change something unless we have awareness of it so any new awareness we get, it always also brings choice with it, and that’s what free will is meant for; to make a new choice, now that we have the new awareness.
OK, so you made a mistake or behaved in a way that you regret, but in the big scheme of things; how big of a deal is it, really?
Who will remember it a hundred years from now, or even next week or a month from now?
Be easy on yourself. Lighten up. It’s not the end of the world.
Appreciate what you learned from the experience, that’s how you move from being stuck in the past to This Moment right now, so that you can move forwards in an empowered state of being.
We always have two options to choose from when it comes to the mistakes we make, or if we’ve done something we regret:
- We can wallow in regret and embarrassment and kick ourselves for whatever happened,
- Or we can take what we learned from the experience and bounce back harder than ever before.
Allow yourself to have the shift that makes you ascend rather than regressing back to the small self’s reality and frequency.
Choose the frequency and vibration you prefer by Being it.
One way to do this is to revise the scene of what happened and change it to what you prefer would have happened instead.
Something happens. You feel embarrassed, or you regret what you did or said. OK.
Now that the event is behind you, get real quiet and go within and ask your higher self to show you a ‘video’ of what happened, with you in it, so you ‘see’ exactly what happened.
And then ‘mold’ the scene/video to the preferred way you would have wanted it to happen instead.
To help clarify how you’d rather experience what happened if something similar happens again, simply ask yourself questions like:
- “How would the most empowered/confident version of me had handled the situation/happening?”
- “If this or something similar would happen again, what would be a better way to handle it?”
- “If this happens again, how can I respond/react in a better way next time?”
- “What would I do differently?”
And then ‘see’ yourself (in the movie of your mind) being that other version of yourself that would handle the situation in a more dignified and self-empowering way.
Run the new scene in your mind a few times and feel/experience yourself being the person you prefer to be, or what would be a more empowered version of yourself.
Make the new video more ‘real’ than the old scenes of the event and feel the embodiment of that, and when you’re done, then let it go.
Let go of the old/what happened, and then move forwards from here as the new you that you prefer to be.
This is one way to begin shifting and changing the patterns or situations that needs to be transformed.
What is important to remember is that they always present opportunities to grow, to become wiser, and to stand even more confidently in who we are.
So give yourself credit for being aware and having awareness of how and what happened that made you respond/react/behave the way you did, and then learn from it so that the next time if something similar happens again, you’ll be able to handle it from the perspective of the you that you prefer to be.
Or, continue to wallow in regret and embarrassment and kick yourself for everything you did ‘wrong’ and go down that path instead.
That’s always our choice to make, and remember also that you don’t really have time to be doing all the wallowing stuff because life is relatively short and you have a fabulous life to live.
No time for less than that, so pick yourself up, brush it off and take a step forwards and march on with a new sense of empowerment, knowing that it’s part of our human experience to sometimes make mistakes.
We all make them, that’s just life, – Now move on and enjoy your life! 😊
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