How to not care what other people think of you
Other people’s opinions about you are just opinions.
If people have an issue you with being you then that’s not your problem, it’s theirs.
And it works the other way around too.
If there’s someone in your life that you have strong opinions about, then that is your problem and something you have to deal with within yourself.
It’s not their problem, just like it’s not your problem if people have opinions about you.
It’s just opinions, that’s all it is.
All you really have control over when it comes to the opinions of other people and what they might think of you, is your own emotional reactions to them.
Everyone is always the main character in their own story and when we really come to know this it’s easy to not be bothered by what other people think.
Just like you can ignore and not take seriously your own ego voice and inner critic, you can learn to ignore other people’s ego voices and criticism and negative talk too.
It’s just a voice in their head – and it’s also just a thought in your head too, a thought that has nothing to do with the Truth of who you really are.
It’s just noise basically.
To give you an example from my own life;
I’ve lost readers a few times in the 12 or so years I’ve had my website because I’ve grown and evolved along the way.
For example when I shared my awakening process and things that happen, such as your relationship with that which you call “God”, when it changes; that wasn’t popular at all.
I even went through a period of being an atheist at one point and as you can imagine, some people didn’t like that at all – You have no idea the kind of emails I received!
But you just have to keep being true to yourself and who you are (and your path) if you want to be happy in life, no matter if you’re liked and approved of by others.
Some people will like you and some people won’t, that’s just the way life is, for everyone.
I’m about freedom and individuality.
Those are two of my top values in life and I would fight for them to death if I had to.
It’s always been important to me, but there has been times in my life where I had to fight for my right to be who I am and to make my own choices that I felt were right for me.
When I lived on welfare for example and was dependent on financial aid from the government, well, I have a few stories to share about that!
There were times I really had to fight for my right to make my own choices even though I risked getting the financial aid cut off (which meant I would lose my home) if I didn’t do as they said for example.
I did ‘win’ though (as I protested and fought against it) since the things went against my right to be a free human being, but it was a real struggle at times.
I don’t want anyone to experience that, that they are forced to fit into society or whatever, or feel pressured to be someone they’re not or act a certain way in order to fit in etc.
You’ll never be able to please everyone – only yourself! You need to be happy with you. Only then can you ever find true happiness and fulfillment in life.
So let go of trying to control others by trying to be who you think you should be, or who you think they think you should be.
Too much ‘thinking’ going on! Get out of your head and into your Soul. (Your true self-expression.)
The more you try to be someone you’re not you’ll lose your connection to who you really are, and that’s what creates the real pain and unhappiness.
It’s the disconnection with yourself and not what others think of you that creates the pain, even if your ego (the small self) makes you think that it is ‘them’ (other people/the world) that are making you feel bad or less than.
So you do you, and let others be who they are too.
Remember; it’s all just opinions, point of views. Just say OK to it.
If someone thinks you’re weird = OK.
Someone looks at you with disapproval = OK.
People don’t like ‘who you’ve become’ = OK.
And then go about your life and do your own thing anyway.
Let it be OK to have other people think what they want about you.
Give yourself the acceptance you falsely believe you need to get from other people and the world and you will always be happy.
Stay Weird (if that’s what they call you), and Be Happy.