Protect Yourself: Get Away From Draining People

You do not need to get unfocused and confused by getting involved in other people’s dramas and beliefs about life.

People around you will most certainty be scared of you when you begin to radiate the powerful being that you are, and they will try to pull you down, but there is no need for you to let them.

In fact, you cannot help them if you dip into the negativity with them.

Then you will both be swimming around in your minds, trying to convince each other how life really works. You can’t explain anything to someone who dwells in negativity.

The best thing is to live by example.

For me, it has been a struggle in my past because I have tried to share what works for me with people who really don’t want to hear. Some people will stay mediocre all their life, and they will continue complaining and limiting themselves.

It can be hard to turn your back on them and leave, especially if it is someone close to you.

You really want to share this wonderful knowledge you have discovered that really has helped you to feel free and happy, but some are not receptive. You must accept that and let them live as they choose.

Most importantly, you must let yourself live the way you choose.

The crucial decision in my life is that there is nothing more essential than that I feel good. Sometimes that does mean leaving people behind who have a negative impact in your life. Know that the way they behave is only a reflection of where they are at. It has nothing to do with you.

Some may even laugh at you, call you a hopeless dreamer, and when those people say they are being “realistic,” they are simply being negative. When you feel like someone is draining you of energy, trust it and leave.

Remember that they are not doing anything other than being who they (think they) are, and you should trust that when people show you who they are, that is who they are. Period.

Your job is not to try to change someone, your job is you. By staying in a relationship that is polluting you, that is all your own doing and you should stop. This may sound harsh, but it is the conclusion that I have come to.

Love never hurts. When you have found the love that is within you, you do not depend on being loved or become sad if someone stops loving you.

You can still feel love towards that person without the need for receiving it, because there is no need anymore (need=ego). You already have love- and you still receive it, stronger than ever, within you and from life itself, which is you.

I can still love that someone without the need of being loved back. I can easily let go of a relationship that is over, because I understand that happiness, peace and love really come from within, not from that other person.

You still receive, without the need.

Of course there is grief after a breakup, also when it is between friends, but if something or someone doesn’t feel good or right, then it’s better to leave than to stay in a relationship that is draining.

When leaving, silently bless them and thank them for being the contrast you needed to bring clarity about what you would prefer.

Let go of resentment-remember the saying that it’s “like drinking poison and then hoping it will kill your enemies.”

Quickly change your focus from what you don’t want in a friend to what you do want, and stay in that energy as much as you can. You will attract what you focus on.

Some of your friends and family will grow with you, and that is wonderful.

You can go places you have never been to together, discover qualities that amaze and delight you, and the more you become true to yourself the easier it becomes to really bond with others. You don’t play roles anymore.

You are not trying to fulfill others’ desires about how they want you to be. There is no compromise anymore.

Even if you thought there wasn’t compromise before, you will come to see that there were times, many in fact, that you felt that you couldn’t be who you are with that particular person, but you weren’t aware of it at the time. You just felt that something was a bit off.

You didn’t know it was you.

Resist the egocentric urge to speak about the other people with the ones you now bond with more, refuse to gossip and marinate yourself in resentment and anger.

There is nothing wrong with the others, nothing! They have just chosen to live differently. And as you think about it, so have you.

Don’t we all want to be respected for the choices we make? Just live, and let live.


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Catherine Rondeau, Westport, Connecticut, USA

The whole session felt as if it was operating on another level

If you can trust one thing in your life right now, trust Maria. You can trust her with your heart and soul. It’s hard to explain, the whole session felt as if it was operating on another level. I’ve never had that kind of experience before. It just felt so much bigger than I anticipated. I can tell you with absolute honesty and conviction that having a session with Maria is life-changing!

– Lisa, USA

It was more than I could ever hoped for or expected

My experience with Maria was more than I could ever hoped for or expected. I had such a positive experience working with her. I feel like a huge weight have been lifted and I have so much more perspective on what I have been struggling with. She cleared up my energy and I feel more myself, more at peace and all around better mentally and emotionally since my sessions with her.

Miriam, Espoo, Finland

Maria is leading people to a new way of being

Maria is changing the world by her presence. She’s leading people to a new way of being. She’s rare because she’s able to see where you are at in your journey and can show you the way forward. I feel so incredibly grateful that she has been a companion during this time of change. If you feel drawn to connect with Maria I encourage you to move forward with confidence.

– Carolyn W. Asheville, NC, USA

You are truly a gift to us all!

I can’t even begin to express how much I have gained internally after my session with you. You have been an instrument of peace in my life. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

– Owen, USA

The feeling of peace and freedom is priceless

With only that one session and the healing she carried out, I’ve been without grudges, feelings of being hurt or anything on those lines. This feeling of peace and freedom is priceless. Maria is beyond amazing. Had I not experienced it myself, I would probably not believe it. I recommend anyone who is trying hard to be truly free and really start walking down the path of self fulfillment and happiness to book a session with her.

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I can’t put into words how much you have helped me. I couldn’t have kept it all together had I not experienced a PROFOUND shift during and after my session with you.

I certainly did not expect this

I certainly did not expect this, l have had periods of such intense joy and bliss, Love with an underlying peace that’s been consistent. l don’t understand it intellectually but my heart see’s it clearly. It’s been wonderful, I feel a true sense of connection and being rooted with in and there is just an openness and trust, and a sense of wonder and amazement. I am truly grateful, Thank you. Sincerely.

Mark Neely, Allentown, Pennsylvania, USA

Her unique ability to read your state helped me to breakthrough

Maria’s intuitive abilities have been instrumental to the personal growth I’ve experienced as a result of working together. I’ve had HUGE shifts in my beliefs. Her undivided attention, presence and unique ability to read your state helped me to breakthrough and release old patterns and replace them with new self-empowering practices that have truly shifted my life. I would highly recommend Maria to anyone. I am forever changed and forever grateful!

Joanna, USA

More transformational than any other thing that I’ve tried

I highly recommend Maria! I don’t even recognize the person who started working with her a few months ago. Maria clearly sees what is blocking, stopping or limiting you. Working with her has been more transformational than any other thing that I’ve tried. There have been profound shifts in the way I see myself and the world, so many shifts in my energy and life. I find myself so much lighter and freer. Thank you Maria!

Britt, Marbella, Spain

My life has radically changed for the better

I finally know my worth. I feel so different now, I feel lighter, happier and more self confident and it’s easy to let go of people and situations that don’t serve me. I treasure the time I spend talking with Maria and look forward to my sessions with her. There has been big changes in my life, synchronicities showing up like magic and I’m constantly blown away at the business and opportunities that I’m attracting. My life has radically changed for the better after I met Maria.

— Robin, New York, USA

I was taken over by a peacefulness

After our session, something happened within me that I cannot explain nor would it even make sense to anyone. There was a part of me that felt my being been taken over by a real peacefulness that I’ve never encountered before. Sounds odd but it’s the truth.

A calm came over me

I could feel the tension leaving my body and a calm came over me by just being in her presence. Everything flows so naturally with her and my life is more beautiful and I feel at peace knowing I have her by my side. I feel blessed to have her in my life.

Cecilia, Stockholm, Sweden

Profound shift

I can’t put into words how much you have helped me. I couldn’t have kept it all together had I not experienced a PROFOUND shift during and after my session with you.

Thank you, Maria!

I couldn’t be more grateful to have Maria in my life. Her guidance and energy is profound!

– Robert, CA, USA

I have never felt more aligned to my true self

Maria’s awareness of energies and the conditions of the mind are truly impressive. She knows exactly what’s going on. She is so attuned to other peoples’ energy that she just knows where you’re at. After working with her I have never felt more alive and aligned to my true self.

Andrew B, San Diego, CA, USA

Something happened within me that I cannot explain

After our session, something happened within me that I cannot explain nor would it even make sense to anyone. There was a part of me that felt my being been taken over by a real peacefulness that I’ve never encountered before. Sounds odd but it’s the truth.

– A.

I’ve never had a conversation like that before

I just wanted to say thank you so much again for our session yesterday, I’ve never had a conversation like that before and it was truly amazing. I could feel weight lifted as we were talking and for the first time my mind did not try to make sense of things, it was all truly felt in the heart space.

Val, Melbourne, Australia

Can’t recommend her enough!

Working with Maria was one of the best investments I ever made in myself. I’ve seen immediate shifts in my energy as well as learned to work with my own energy and mind. It has been one of the single most transformational experiences of my life. Can’t recommend her enough!

– Chris, USA

My life has changed dramatically

Since plugging in to your words of wisdom my life has changed dramatically. You pointed me in the right direction and that gave me courage to continue moving through whatever process I may find myself in and the ability to take refuge in the truth within me.

 I am so glad that I reached out to you

Maria, you are truly godsend. I cannot describe how happy I am. I have no idea what you did and how you did, but I am truly grateful to you. My words in this email cannot thank you enough. Today is the first day that I woke up feeling as if I am ready to take on the world. I am so glad that I reached out to you. I am truly grateful to you. I will definitely recommend you to my friends and family!


I cannot believe what you were able to achieve in one session

I don’t really know where to start. I find myself at a loss for words. All I can say to you is Thank You. This was unlike any healing session that I have ever been in and I say that from the bottom of my skeptical, over analytical heart who had literally tried everything one could think of. I cannot recommend you enough to other people, you are a gift. I also cannot believe what you were able to achieve in one session, to me it is groundbreaking. Thank you!!!

Rosie Bebawi, Marbella, Spain

You have really made a difference in how my mind works

I don’t know if I make sense, but all I can say is that I feel blissful. And I can’t thank you enough for that. I don’t know exactly how you managed this, but you have really made a difference in how my mind works.

– Silvia, Marbella, Spain

Connecting with you is magical

Maria THANK YOU. Sometimes just by connecting with you even briefly gives me instant clarity, it’s really magical, thank you so much. I trust your guidance so much, I’m just so grateful!

I needed help in getting my life back

From the first sentence you spoke directly related to what I was going through, I felt so uplifted and light. It still blows me away when I think about it now! Never once did I feel judged, or uncomfortable in any way. I feel like this heavy weight of negativity has fallen away from me and I couldn’t get those awful feelings back if I tried. I can’t stress enough what a gift it is to be able to work with somebody like Maria. Talk about amazing grace!

Maria helped me recreate my life

Maria is amazing. She is a gift to this world with an incredible intuitive ability. She has helped me to refocus my energy and recreate my life.

C. Málaga, Spain

I had a complete turnaround to my situation

The distance healing was amazing. I had a complete turnaround to my situation so many thanks for helping me transform something I had lost hope about. It’s a miracle and the outcome could not have turned out better! If you want to see a real shift not just psychological but spiritual shift, then Maria is the lady to see. I am so glad I found you!

– Sophie P



  1. Something told me to check my networked blogs today and I am so thankful that I found this blog. This is something I have to remind myself because I find when I am around those people they just drain and I am left feeling bad because I let myself get down to that level. I have definitely book marked this :). Thank you!

  2. Hi Shay!

    So glad to hear that the post found you timely – love when that happens! 🙂

    Yes, it’s definitely important to protect ones energy, and surround ourselves with supportive and – when we occasionally feel a bit down – uplifting energy.

    Where there is a great flow between people that actually elevate each other, that’s the way it should be!

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  4. Vickie

    Wow just clicked on your link this morning and it is exactly what I needed! I have just begun my spiritual journey about two months ago and I love it! My family the ones that I am closest to well they don’t understand and I am stuck feeling alone. I seemed to be surrounded with a lot of negativity and when I try an amp it up I get accused of going to far and being misunderstood.
    I will mark your blog in my favorites to insure that I have some spiritual guidance when I most need it!

    Thank you and have a super day!

  5. Hi Vickie,

    Thank you for your comment – glad you liked it and that it touched you.

    It’s a process for sure, and some of it will be fierce and not so comfortable, but through it we go, it’s just a matter of being aware of the process and willing to go through the transformation.

    The spiritual journey is not about feeling better, but to truly feel and by that transform.

    Some people may leave, in some cases all people will leave, and there will probably be a time where you need to be alone, not lonely, but alone.

    And to get there, you might need to feel loneliness until that transforms to being OK with being alone. And by then, you aren’t, because you have come to feel a larger presence in your life. (=God/Source/Life)

    The thing to remember here is that trying to explain to people who are not on a spiritually path consciously is more or less fruitless because they can’t relate to what you’re going through.

    My suggestion to you is to just keep going and realize that all change that’s going to happen to you from now on will be seen and experienced by them regardless of your explanations.

    They will notice (and some will not like your change, but that’s not your problem, everyone has to take responsibility of their own responses to what’s happening), and some of them might be interested in learning more about the new you that is emerging, and those will be open to hear about it.

    Then, one day, you might re-unite with some of the peeps that might be falling away from you now.

    Always come back to this moment and stay here and now.

    The ‘future’ will come by itself.

    Just be clear about the energy you feel is best to leave behind (for now at least) and what’s worth keeping, and most importantly tend to your own energy and beingness.

    Just by doing that everything else will take care of itself.

    Stay true to yourself – no compromises 🙂

    All the best,


    PS: Here’s a couple of my old posts that you might find interesting:

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  9. Christine

    Thank you times 108!! I needed this perfect timing thank you so much… this spoke to me on ALL levels! Much love namaste!

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