Being single-minded to what Life wants
A few words about single-mindedness..
I was inspired to write a longer reply to a comment I received on this post:
The comment I received was this:
“Through knowing this all, I’m still feeling like I’m not single-minded as much as I need to be to make my biggest dream come true, like the only thing that can help me right now is a miracle… I’m in a really bad condition; I need to be so strong but I’m absolutely broken inside; I don’t believe if I deserve to see it happening”.
Here’s my reply:
Mary, this is an incredibly old article, it’s from way back when I believed in all kinds of spiritual concepts like the law of attraction and so on.
So I won’t speak from the perspective I had then, but from where I am now and how I can help you move forward from where you are.
So forget about what I wrote in the post and let’s start afresh.
“Through knowing this all, I’m still feeling like I’m not single-minded as much as I need to be to make my biggest dream come true”.
First of all I want to invite you to question your belief that says “through knowing this all”.
How do you *know* that what I wrote in the post is true..?
Because the truth is that when I wrote this I was broke and lived on welfare.
So really question this belief that has been imprinted in your mind from the mainstream spiritual and personal development arena.
Even ask the people who teach these types of concepts about all the things that they have supposedly “manifested” and you will probably not get many answers back.
It’s the idea that sells, the concept, because it’s desirable for the ego, that’s why it’s such a big business.
Anything that makes the ego feel good or in control will always be a good selling point, but look for the truth, ask about the direct experiences instead.
Don’t believe everything you read.
If you had asked me at the time I wrote the article about all the wealth that I was trying to ‘manifest’ I would not have been able to give you any other answer than that I was ‘believing’, and ‘in the process of manifesting’.
You would have got an “Any day now, it’s coming, I can feel it” – type or reply.
And it would have been a completely sincere reply, because the people who teach these types of concepts, they really believe and they really want to inspire and empower others, but the reality is that most people are still in the ‘waiting’ phase.
Always demand the direct experience from life, and always ask for the direct experience from people.
There is not one single concept that is true and all belief-systems and all the different spiritual ideas you entertain should be questioned and confronted – in that you should be single-minded – to find the Truth of the matter.
So many things has unfolded from that particular time in my life and my life looks vastly different today which brings me to your next sentence where you wrote:
“I’m still feeling like I’m not single-minded as much as I need to be to make my biggest dream come true”.
Look, here’s the truth.
Your dream might not be what Life wants, but there are so many other aspects to take into consideration such as the natural flow of things, you pushing too hard and going against life instead of with it etc.
It might be so that ‘your dream’ and the desire from Life (living and experiencing itself through you) is the same, but even if it is, don’t ever expect that everything will unfold in the way you want them to, or expect to.
Most likely it won’t.
The single-mindedness that I would promote today is to be single-minded when it comes to what wants to come through you, what wants to be created through you, what wants to be expressed through you, and not so much at all about what *you* want.
There has been so many times in my life – so many times! when I thought of quitting, and there has been so many times when I just said ‘screw it, I’m not gonna do this anymore’ and tried another path that was completely different.
But then Life put me back on this path again, over and over again.
It just kept redirecting me back to *this* even at times when I really just had had it with everything, but even *this* has changed numerous times before I came to where I am today.
The journey wasn’t always easy, far from it.
That’s why most people don’t undertake it, it’s too hard for most to handle and you really can’t be like the average person if you want to break free.
You need to be moving above all that, constantly taking steps outside of your comfort zone and staying true to yourself when the world loudly demands otherwise.
There were times when I too cried and felt self-pity etc and when all I could hope for was a miracle, just like you, but my path also taught me that this isn’t about me (or who I was back then).
It’s about what Life wants (and you and life are one and the same although you don’t know it yet) while the ego-self usually does things only as a means to an end and also in congruent with beliefs held in the moment.
But beliefs are lies and whatever idea/concept you believe in is merely a tool made to deceive human beings, all created by the ego itself.
A free individual is an individual free from beliefs.
So my suggestion to you is to ask yourself what Life wants.
Lay everything that you think you want aside and ask what wants to be lived and expressed through you, and then you just simply follow that flow and do what’s in front of you.
You simply do the next obvious thing, and then the next, without thinking of the ‘fruit of your labor’.
You just do what you’re guided to do in each moment and let life unfold that way.
Living this way does not exclude anything by the way;
Sometimes it does involve planning and setting goals and so on and sometimes it involves throwing it all out the window; burning all your plans and goals and surrendering everything to the truth of your being.
At one point some years ago I even burned all my books!
I can chuckle and laugh at it now, but boy was that an empowering experience!
I think you’ll find this article very helpful because it describes one of my phases where this sort of thing happened:
And here’s another one: “Spiritual Madness” that also describes some of the processes I went through.
Be true to yourself, and be brutally honest with yourself.
Every decision you make is forming the person you’re continuously in the process of becoming and you can’t be something you’re not yet ready to be, but you need to be who you are, right now, and be that honestly.
Sometimes that requires you to relinquish everything and allow yourself to be stripped naked by Truth itself, and that is usually a place where you literally stand alone, having nothing to hold on to.
Lastly you wrote:
“.. the only thing that can help me right now is a miracle… I’m in a really bad condition and I need to be so strong but I’m absolutely broken inside I don’t believe if I deserve to see it happening”.
Read the articles I gave you the links to above and get insight into the processes I went through and hopefully you will feel encouraged by them to continue following your path, even in times of challenges and tribulations.
I don’t know what your dream is, but all you can do really is to stay true to yourself and do what you feel inclined to do while forgetting where it will lead you, because you’ll never know.
Enjoy the things you do, and if hard work is required then do the hard work.
I know I have, but I have also been intensely focused and dedicated to live a life that is true to myself.
That is kind of the reward in itself; it’s not about the end of a journey but about the now-moment while moving with the journey.
There’s gonna be a lot of twists and turns, a lot of transformations and changes and so on that you can never, ever predict.
You will lose some aspects of your dream but gain others, you will almost give up at times and then again give it your all, determined to “succeed”.
The most important thing is to always stay true and in integrity.
This will sculpt and define your character and the more in alignment you are with yourself, with Life, the more supported and guided you will feel.
The miracle that you’re looking for here is yourself.
And the moment you surrender to the process you’re in, that’s when the miracle happens.
But it won’t look like your ego wants it to look.
It will look far from it, but it will be to your delight because Life can always give you more than what you can give yourself.
So be single-minded when it comes to what Life wants and be attentive to that and not your false self’s petty aspirations and the temper tantrums it has when it’s not getting what it wants.
I can assure you that if you just keep moving forward, letting go more and more while at the same time questioning everything, you’ll be fine.
Actually way more than fine.
It’s a process where you learn so many things about yourself, about life, and about trusting the path you’re on.