Spiritual Awakening can sneak up on you

Spiritual awakening can also be a slow and gradual process.

Many people have the idea that spiritual awakening is not only the end of a path, the great arrival point of enlightenment, but also that it is suppose to be this huge, explosive experience where we are thrown into a whirlwind of Nirvana and ecstatic bliss.

Other conceptual ideas are that it’s a state of mind where there are no thoughts (especially “bad” thoughts), where there’s eternal bliss and peace and never any anger and where we all are living blissfully in harmony with each other being vegans and concerned about the environment and so on. (i.e “perfect, spiritual, human beings”)

This can be both intriguing and at the same time frightening for the ego who doesn’t like transformation (and this can cause inner conflict) while at the same time it’s never content and always wants something else (than ‘what is’), and if it can get its hands on this enlightenment-thing then others would look at them and say “oh, look at him, he’s so insightful and wise”.

But the whole awakening thing is a complete mystery and it can’t be attained by any means of the mind, so while it may be a noble goal for the ego to one day reach enlightenment (which is never will, it’s not the person/ego who wakes up), it is all pure grace and not in our control.

Instead of indulging in mere speculation, devote yourself here and now to the search for the Truth that is ever within you ~Ramana Maharshi

The awakening can sneak up upon us as well as being a huge moment in life that we always remember as the day that altered everything about what we thought life was about.

(But still, there’s a process after the awakening as well, it’s not the end of the journey so to speak, it’s the beginning of life at is it really is, and we’re all a newborn baby at this “stage”).

To some people the awakening sneaks up on them and can only be seen in retrospect how it unfolded and the transition may not have been an obvious moment at all. 

Somewhere along the path something happened and everything changed, but it changed so slowly and gradually that we could only see it later on and recognized how completely changed we are.

The ‘old life’ seems to be like a dream we had almost, it’s even irrelevant to talk about in a sense because the past belongs to an old self that we now know is not real and has never been, but still, paradoxically, there’s a self that has a history, but the history is merely a dream.

The sufferer is not there, but yet the suffering happened – and all of it had to happen the way it did. 

There is nothing wrong with God’s creation. Mystery and Suffering only exist in the mind ~Sri Ramana Maharshi

The awakening can happen completely out of the blue as well to some people.

Suddenly the awakening hits them, just like that.

And sometimes there can be both sudden, life altering insights and also slow changes that happen over time and that sneaks up on us, gracefully removing the false and replacing it with more and more light.

The shift (of consciousness) and the foundation life as we knew it was built upon doesn’t have to crumble in painful ways, but things, situations and people can also harmoniously begin to be replaced and shifted out to something that is more in alignment with the truth of who we are. It can all happen very slowly too.

There are no requirements; no effort to be made (only if that is part of your path, which is highly individual), you don’t have to suffer for years and years as many think, you don’t have to be a ‘seeker’ (you can be totally oblivious to any kind of spirituality), you don’t have to have meditated for years and there are no rules or steps one can take in order to attain enlightenment.

There is no direct cause and effect to any of this.

All we can know is that we don’t know anything

It’s not a thought-free state, so there is no need to try to control your thoughts, there is no need to ‘try to stay present’, but instead have a closer look at who it is that wants to be present in the first place, who does all this trying and seeking?

There is no greater mystery than this, that we keep seeking reality though in fact we are reality. We think that there is something hiding reality and that this must be destroyed before reality is gained. How ridiculous! A day will dawn when you will laugh at all your past efforts. That which will be the day you laugh is also here and now ~Ramana Maharshi

The process of awakening peels away any beliefs and ideas about spirituality, it takes away our positions (in life in general) and definitions we hold about ourselves and leads to complete nakedness and an emptiness. (Which paradoxically is full of life and vibrancy).

Hats off to Reality!

In whatever way it reveals itself to us, whether it’s in a explosive way or a slow way, it’s really all about a fundamental change of identity; a change back to Self, as we really are, and that’s the miracle – it’s in the realization that what we are can’t be found nor created by the mind, we are actually beyond it.

In no way can we ever predict any of its ways.

What this journey ultimately requires of us is for us to continue being true to ourselves, for us to continue being radically honest and sincere with ourselves and faithfully follow what Life shows us, and all this without trying to control or grasp hold of any of it – only to stay true to Truth.

To have a constant intimate relationship with Life itself; where it’s speaking to itself, experiencing itself, being itself – and realizing that the truth is that the less we know (or believe) the more (Truth) is actually revealed.

The less sense it makes to us, the less we try define it, the less we try to understand it (conceptually) – the more it opens up for us, and how it opens up can be all from huge life altering experiences to the tiniest, smallest portions of wisdom and truth that is handed out to us (consciousness), bit by bit, until the revelation hits us that everything has changed.


How beautiful this life is.

It never stops to amaze me how infinite its ways are.




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  1. mary lessis

    Thank you for your email yesterday on having a rest day ! At first I said to myself what the hell, than I laid down took a nap ! Had my two grandsons the night before, after I got up I went shopping and bought myself some rain boots, guarana herb which was on sale since I unemployed instead of drinking coffee and having to go to the bathroom all the time lol. and had a ball working out in my back yard !
    oh yes the awaking kind of came on slowly for me than it hit me and wow. I see everything different, craz,y insane world crazy but still all is well. Thank you cause of my awaking I was looking for you !

  2. You’re very welcome Mary, glad to hear my email resonated with you and that you had a great time working in your garden or backyard.

    Now, to reply to your comment;

    Obviously I can’t know where you are in any of this as I don’t know you personally, so I’m just going to give a bit of a general clarification of what I meant with the article.

    Spiritual awakening is not about simply seeing things differently, that was not what I tried to convey in the article.

    There’s a lot more to it, a lot.

    However the process goes for each and every person (awakening is really about moving from person to presence, and not about the person having an awakening, and the person is not the one who does any of it) and there’s always some disturbance and confusion involved in it, because when grace is done with us so to speak, the ego will no longer be what consciousness identifies with.

    So of course there will be processes involved.

    Even someone like for example Eckhart Tolle that had a sudden awakening like he had , he still had many years after that where he went through a process in order to embody the whole things, and it took him years (referring to his his parkbench years) and it was not something ‘he’ did, it was all Truth ‘doing him’.

    Yes, it can happen slowly and gradually, but it’s very rare that it’s a peaceful and wonderful process, very, very rare. But it can happen that way too.

    There are literally no rules and no way of knowing or predicting any of it.

    And truth is that we all have a conditioned self (ego) that has been developing all our lives and spiritual awakening is about relinquishing the identification that consciousness (which we are) mistakenly took itself to be.

    For me too, some of my own processes and realizations has been sudden and at the same time gradual (which I can see only in retrospect) and either way; there is always a process that follows, an embodiment, integration if you will, that comes afterwards.

    That’s what I meant by being like a newborn baby; it’s not about gaining anything, but actually ‘losing’ what we thought we were.

    Nothing is added to us, but actually taken away, so that that which is true and real can shine forth without the garment of the little self as a veil to the true expression of who we are.

    And as long as there’s a person thinking they have awakened, they haven’t at all, they have probably only had a few spiritual experiences/openings and then their ego (the person they think they are) takes ownership of the opening/experience and believes that they are an awakened being.

    It’s not like that at all.

    It can be very attractive to the ego to think it has awakened, or that the possibility is there that they can awaken, but in the process the ego will realize that there’s nothing in it for it, but then it will be too late.

    It can begin with the person thinking they are on a path to enlightenment and then when deeply in it, the day comes when they realize that the person who is doing all the seeking (for enlightenment) is not the one who is actually going to be there to “be awakened”, and by then it’s too late to turn around and go back to the old. (Ego death process/dark night of the soul).

    The awakening process will remove everything that is not in alignment with it, and yes, sometimes some people may have done a lot of spiritual work in their past lives and they come to this life more spiritually evolved (an “old soul”-type of person who seem wiser than most, even as a child) than others maybe and their process may look as if it was shorter and less painful.

    But all in all, this is not an easy process, and it’s not for the fainthearted because there’s tremendous testing and challenges involved in it too.

    (Many people turn around when things get tough and they go back to mainstream spirituality where the egos think that they are in control of life and where they do all they can to avoid uncomfortable feelings).

    Spiritual awakening process is not about only the beautiful and blissful “states” as grace can be very fierce, but that too of course is beautiful – Life is kind, even when it’s not.

    It’s important not to assume being anything – because actually the process of spiritual awakening will lead to absolute nothingness.

    That’s not what the ego likes to hear at all, and therefore it takes ownership of the experiences and prevents one to look deeper (it stays with merely the experience and the memory of it), it likes to label itself as being someone, but this will all lead to being nobody.

    This is something everyone that has gone deeper into the process will come to know and realize, without a doubt.

    And all this losing things and not gaining stuff is very disturbing to the ego, while in reality it’s the most beautiful thing that can ever happen, because all we ever lose in this process is that which is not true and real, and only that which is in alignment with God remains.

    Here’s an article that just came to mind that you might find interesting:


    There’s a few other articles below that one that might interest you as well.(In “Related posts”)

  3. mary lessis

    oh I think I understand that I am getting rid of my trash. that I am going back to my true state. OH MY GOD TO SAY THAT IT HAS BEEN EASY NOPE ! BUT SO FAR SO GOOD. THANKS SO MUCH ! I am hoping to get some money the end of the month. could we face time ( ipad ), I do not have skype. or just talk on the phone ? thanks so much mary

  4. It usually isn’t, no. But it can be 🙂

    And the more aware we become of the processes and when we get the insights and the deeper understanding of what is going on, the easier it is of course.

    Having some kind of reference points helps tremendously.

    Regarding sessions; simply contact me personally (write me an email: http://mariaerving.com/contact/) and we’ll take it from there.

    I look forward to talk with you:)

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  8. S

    Awesome site & articles, very true/close to reality and also scary.
    This have helped me in many ways.

  9. You’re so very welcome S, I’m so glad to hear that what I share has been helpful to you so thank you for sharing that with me.

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