Not Knowing Who You Are and What To Do

Spiritual awakening and not knowingness

Maria, I don’t know who I am anymore”

”I don’t know what to do, I don’t have any desire to do anything but I know I ‘should’ be doing something”

”I feel passive and uninspired, I don’t feel motivated to do anything anymore”

”I feel directionless and lost

”What should I do? I don’t know anything anymore, I don’t even know who I am”.

Do you have these types of questions and concerns yourself?

Know that it’s not uncommon in the awakening process; the not knowingness. 

Join me in my next Teleclass where I’ll talk about these things and where you can join in and share your thoughts, questions and concerns with me in this live call.

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Tuesday, 14 July 2015, 17:00 CEST. 

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  1. carl sills

    Question: Can you speak to the difference between Being/ Letting go and Narcissism / Absolution of responsibility? Would love to hear your thoughts. Trust that all is unfolding in your sector of the Universe.


  2. I’m not really sure what you mean by your question Carl, so feel very welcome to elaborate and then maybe I can say more about it.

    I don’t see the connection you’re trying to make between a mental disorder such as narcissism and being (true to) who you are (true nature).

    If you have an example to share what you mean by your question then please do.

  3. Bob Grant

    Dear Maria,

    Having missed your telesession yesterday I have since listened to the recording twice. I found it very helpful. It raised the following which I would like to share with you.

    The feeling of being lost and not knowing what to do is simply the ego disintegrating and losing its control over our actions. As compulsive thinking subsides and all the desires, fears, needs, attachments and so on disappear the duality that previously existed is no longer there. I’ve realised today that it is like having the constant company of a negative, controlling, dominating and extremely talkative person who has always been with you throughout your life and then they suddenly leave your life. They are no longer there so there is just emptiness and silence. Peace at last, freedom at last. If that scenario happened and the person I’ve just described left your life, it would take some adjustments before you would be able to know what to do and make your own decisions etc.

    Your telesession also made I me ponder to whom and why are we asking ourselves those internal questions “what should I do” “what do I need to know today” etc. If we keep asking ourselves questions are we not thereby holding on to duality? If the ultimate is to achieve Oneness and leave behind duality, by continually asking ourselves questions does this not mean that we are keeping the duality in place?

  4. Yes, when you break away from the false self ‘it’ becomes confused and lost etc because you begin to operate from Truth instead of the false.

    And before consciousness itself begins to move through you and as you more fully there’s an integration taking place, a stabilizing phase where the Truth that has been realized is being embodied.

    In this phase, as I mentioned in the recording too, I recommend self-inquiry where there is not so much focus on what is happening (in consciousness) but to whom it’s all happening,

    To put awareness on awareness itself instead of what’s going on in awareness.

    So instead of asking questions like “what should I do” (which is to put focus on the false self) you can ask questions like “what is the Truth about this, what is essential (important)” etc.

    It’s about changing focus and going deeper.

    And it’s good that it made you ponder who is asking the questions and to whom the questions are directed and so on, that was kind of the point of the Teleclass 🙂

    You don’t hold yourself in duality by asking questions; remember that it was the questions that started this journey to begin with.

    We (all) wanted to know the Truth in some way or another (or Truth itself pushed you into unfulfillment which you then started to question); we wanted what was real and true.

    I’m sure you can relate to that too. (Feel free to correct me if I’m wrong).

    Lastly, oneness is not “achieved”, it’s ‘realized’ and by asking questions, going within, pondering and contemplating these things we come to realize what is true and real and what is not.

    But it’s not an achievement. It’s self-realization.

  5. You could also say that by the questions the questioner dies.

    So it’s important not to stop the inquiry into Truth prematurely and stay in the concept of not knowingness or the “I don’t know”-place because you could get stuck there in eternity.

    This is when we should just continue asking and going deeper, asking things like “who is it that doesn’t know”, “who wants to know”, “who is confused and directionless” etc.

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