Spiritual Awakening and Surrendering
How do you surrender?
If you’re in the spiritual awakening process then you know that surrender is a huge part of the process (it’s essential) but it’s also usually the last thing we come to do.
And it can take years before we get to that point, and once we’ve surrendered it’s also something we have to do over and over again until the ‘surrenderer’ is no longer there to be surrendered.
So it’s a process.
Each time you surrender you’re transformed beyond your (former) self (state of consciousness).
You literally catapult yourself into oneness when you let go and surrender.
What happens is that you come to the end of your rope and there’s nowhere you can go and nothing more you can do.
You might be frustrated, defeated, exhausted, tired of struggling and seeking, and you may be the biggest control freak there is, but at some point in your awakening process you come to the place where you have nowhere left to go.
Nowhere at all, and no matter what you do nothing works. Nothing.
Been there yet?
This is the point where we finally are willing to lay down our fears and let go of the burden of carrying our worries and the need to control our desires, wants and goals.
This is when we surrender and turn it all over to that ‘something’ (call it what you want), either out of sheer frustration, but usually because we’re literally emptied out, completely empty, hollow and worn out.
Exhausted, and so, so tired that we just can’t take it anymore.
The ego is incredibly strong and persistent, that’s why it can take years of surrendering before the final surrender happens and we are fully liberated.
It’s a process that develops trust, humbleness, patience and the understanding of what love really is, but it can take years before the humbleness becomes mature and where it has grown beyond the pretentious.
And it can also take years before trust has developed to the point where we are 100% willing to give ourselves fully to the Truth of who we are.
When we want it more than we even want our own life (we don’t want to live if we can’t live the Truth) and when we sense deep within our hearts that it’s the only thing that could ever give us fulfillment.
We know it, and yet we fear it.
Until surrender finally happens.
And surrender can happen many, many (many!) times and go in cycles, or phases, where we surrender, take back the control and struggle for a while and then again come to a place where we have nowhere to go but to simply let it all go again.
Trust grows as we see more and more how this way of living (in complete surrender) is incredibly more rewarding and fulfilling than the life that we thought we wanted for ourselves.
It’s almost not possible to talk or write about because the love is so big that one become loss for words.
All in all it comes down to one thing.
What matters is the act of surrender
It really is that alone that ultimately liberates us.
The awakening process all boils down to this: SURRENDER.
How, you may ask?
Besides from the obvious where we come to the place in our process where we realize that we need to let go of our attachments to outcomes and results (how we think life should unfold) and were we are finally willing to surrender our desires and dreams.
That’s one part, and of course that also includes the desire or goal to awaken or become enlightened.
We come to the point where we finally accept ‘what is’ (not as in resigning to it, but we stop struggling against it) and where we reach out to that ‘something’ that is bigger than our small selves and we ask it to take over.
All those struggles and the striving, the seeking, the doing and wanting, they all obscure the Truth of who we are and limits us because the ego self is trying to desperately hold on to what it perceives reality to be and how it wants life to be.
That’s where our suffering comes from, and what relieves us from it, is surrender.
It’s the last thing we do, and that’s finally what liberates us.
In the same instant a sincere, true act of surrender occur, we are ushered into profound relief, peace, joy, and incredible love, in the very same instant!
Yet still we go back and try to do it our own way again.. but this is how trust and patience develops so there’s a purpose for the back and forth going as well.
It goes in cycles and the cycle goes on and on until we are mature enough for the final surrender.
So there’s a lot of things happening at the same time in this process.
Trust is developing, patience is developing, love is being discover and little by little trusted upon, and we begin to slowly release the grip on what we think life is and how it should be.
In the end of this process we come to the realization that the way to live a fulfilling life is by surrendering to Life itself.
We stop pushing and going against ourselves and we get into the natural flow of things, into the natural rhythm of our life.
Surrender means letting go of everything, yourself included
First it happens by frustration or because of fear that could be likened to terror (fear that comes from believing in illusion), and then as we let go, we realize that what it is that we let go into is actually peace and love.
But we also let go into the unknown, into uncertainty, and this is where the ego self does not like to be, so naturally this is also where patience and trust gets developed.
It all intertwines with each other, it’s a growth process and a death and birth process all at the same time.
True, deep surrender always brings great relief, a sense of freedom, and the experience of finally being able to breathe again.
And it brings with it peace, wonderful, beautiful peace.
From this space then a new phase begins so it’s not like we stop living and doing etc, but that’s a whole other topic for another article.
With surrender we create space as we let go of the self and in a sense we’re allowing ourselves to move into oneness, unconsciously, but you could say that that’s what happens.
When we let go, we let go into Truth, and that’s where every fulfillment can be found but that’s not the reason we do it.
We think surrendering will be awful (defeating) or that we will never ‘get what we want’ or become enlightened or whatever it is that we’re holding on to.
In the beginning there’s huge resistance to do this but as we mature spiritually the surrendering one day becomes the way we live, like there’s no other way to live.
We come to live a life where we’re no longer trapped or bound to the ego self.
By surrendering we have transcended to a new level of consciousness and until you come to the realization that you are consciousness itself you will continue the cycle of surrender (and taking back control) over and over again.
How to surrender
There’s many ways you can do this.
You can write it all out (a type of “letting-go-letter”), you can pray, you can cry and ask for help (as I did in the woods when I surrendered and asked for help to get free from my drug addiction).
It’s the act of surrender that counts, not how you do it.
Here’s just one example of many ways you can surrender:
Lay yourself down on the floor, lay there on your back with your arms and legs spread out and simply let go of everything.
Let go of the need to understand, the need to know how exactly to do it (how to surrender) and what to say, how to be and so on.
Just “give up” (the struggle).
Literally just lay there and say something like “Take me, I’m yours. Do with me what you wish, I won’t resist or avoid anything anymore. I’m sincerely yours”.
Say whatever sincere and natural words that comes from your heart and that’s enough, that’s all you have to do.
The answer is very simple but not necessarily easy as fear can creep in again five minutes later so you really have to surrender wholeheartedly.
Let go. Surrender. Just let go.
You don’t have to figure anything out, you don’t have to seek anymore, you don’t have to look for any answers or solutions anymore.
Just let go. Let everything go.
Take a deep breath. Relax your body as you lay there on the floor and let everything go as you breathe out.
I’m telling you; this is the ultimate solution and answer to all your struggles and that the awakening process leads to anyway, so you might as well save yourself years of suffering by surrendering to Truth already now.
Right now is always a good time to surrender and let Truth take over your life.
You don’t even have to know what that is or what it means.
Just do it, and freedom, liberation and peace comes instantly.
Imagine when you lay there on the floor that there’s nothing more you have to do but to just let go into the Truth of your being.
Again, you don’t even have to know what that means.
The mere act of surrender will take care of everything if you just let go into it without any resistance at all.
The peace that comes when you do is the indication that something profound just happened.
Surrender is the answer. Do it (you will eventually anyway 🙂 ).
And feel the peace coming over you ♥
And you might like this as well where I’ve shared bits from my own surrendering: