Spiritual People Can Be Really Annoying
It may sound weird, but I don’t necessarily like being around people who call themselves “spiritual”.
The “I’m not religious but spiritual”-description of a person is starting to sound pretty much the same as someone being all about religious dogma to me.
The most annoying thing about spiritual people is that they are so incredible sensitive and I would say that my own personal observation is that ‘spiritual’ people have bigger ego’s than just plain ordinary folks. Seriously.
It’s easier to have an open discussion with a person who’s not seeing themselves as spiritual than trying to have one with a “spiritual person”.
They get very easily offended when someone is not playing by the “spiritual rules”, they are very rigid in their thinking and I don’t see them following “the inner path” at all.
On the contrary, what I see is that they are following an outer path, a set of invisible rules made by the spiritual community. (Which in many ways can be seen the new type of ‘church’)
It has all become very commercialized and I can’t stand it to be honest and I’m so glad to have left that behind me.
Enlightenment is the new big thing, and the funny thing is that it can’t be sold.
But sadly I think that’s the new lucrative thing in the spiritual arena, and spiritualized ego’s will jump into every program there is thinking they will become enlightened in a weekend workshop.
It’s not about self inquiry anymore, it’s more of a social group, a gathering of people asking each other who they are instead of asking within.
“Tell me who I am (Because I’m too afraid to look myself). And it must be something ‘nice’ because otherwise my feelings will get hurt and I unlike you on Facebook”. (And then go to someone else that will tell me what I want to hear).
Putting on a “spiritual” goofy looking smile (you know what I mean; the ‘gazing’ look that only looks phony and silly), and looking all supportive and loving doesn’t make one spiritual.
That’s just entertainment for the ego. That’s all about stroking sensitive ego’s so that they will feel good.
In reality the spiritual unfoldment of awakening is in many ways a grueling process, a process many shun and avoid, because it can be very messy and painful, and it’s very personal, so no guru or spiritual teacher who call themselves an enlightened master or whatever can “fix” you or awaken you or save you.
It’s an inner process that you have to do and go through yourself. There can be support on the way of course, but the journey itself; that’s very personal.
Spiritual awakening is not about getting your soul fixed or healed and it has nothing to do with therapy for the soul or anything like that, because there is nothing wrong with the soul.
The ones who are dedicated to real spiritual growth, they go through it, and the ones who only want to feel better, well, they stay on an infantile level of very shallow spiritual development.
They are too afraid of their darkness so they do all they can to make it go away and that is a very limiting way to live.
Why not get real with yourself? Let go of all the rules. Let yourself feel and experience your being and humanness fully.
I can’t believe how many people think that a spiritual person should not be angry and that it is unspiritual to rant and vent, even for a brief moment.
Like it’s wrong to be angry.
And when a person who is considered to be spiritual (like myself, although I don’t like the definition) expresses anger or irritation, then there are people who gasp in horror because a spiritual person is not suppose to act that way.
I wonder, am I allowed to laugh if I’m happy? Cry if I’m sad?
What if I scream with laughter, is that okay, or should I only smile softly and gaze lovingly into your eyes when you tell a joke?
Or is it only when I’m pissed off that I should bottle it up and be quiet? Or maybe this is when I should do the smile-softly-thing again..? I’m confused.
You know, because I wouldn’t want to hurt your little feelings and make you feel uncomfortable.
It’s better to be clear.
I can’t help but laugh with amazement when someone who is clearly really upset and angry pretends not to be because that would be very unspiritual.
That goes for comments and replies online too; the tone of passive aggressiveness in comments sometimes followed by a “peace and light” or something silly like that, as if it could help them stay ‘above’ not losing their face or something.
That’s very typical to see because so called spiritual people seem to think that being spiritual means to not ever be pissed off or opinionated, even if they are, they try to hide it with a fake “peace and light”-smile.
They don’t swear or shout or talk loudly and they do everything they can to be spiritually perfect, even if it means they have to repress their true feelings in the process. (Or starve their bodies so that they will become “pure enough”).
So they put on a smile and avoid the pain and hurt because that is “negative vibrations” and should be avoided at all cost. To me that’s just ridiculous.
Or how about other rules, such as:
- A spiritual person should be gentle.
- A spiritual person should be positive all the time.
- A spiritual person should speak softly and kindly.
- A spiritual person should not drink alcohol or coffee (only herbal tea).
- A spiritual person should always be mindful.
- A spiritual person should give money for charity (or tithe if you are religious) and work for free.
- A spiritual person should not like money, or have any desires of having money and other material things (only if you are into law of attraction of course, then you should monitor your energy vibration so that you can attract a mansion to yourself. You know, because you’re a “magnet”).
- A spiritual person should not be sexual or sensual (only if you’re into Tantra, then it’s okay).
- A spiritual person should be vegetarian or vegan.
- A spiritual person should not confront people when they piss you off or lie to you because it’s not how a nice, evolved person behaves.
- A spiritual person should not like trash TV (only secretly watch it anyway).
- A spiritual person should only listen to ‘positive music’ and that hideous new age music. You know the type that has CD covers with unicorns, rainbows and angels on them and that all sound the same?
- A spiritual person should not be judgmental. This is a word that must be one of the most shunned words there is, both in the religious arena as well as in the spiritual. “You should not judge”. Period. But we all do that, don’t we? You may even have some judgmental thoughts about this article, I don’t know. But the difference is that if you do, I really don’t care, because it’s just an opinion, that’s all. I don’t take your opinion as truth so I don’t mind.
- A spiritual person should not be opinionated or even have opinions because that is not spiritual.
- A spiritual person should always think that everything is perfect.
- All spiritual people should believe in God (religious or non-religious, but they should all believe in a personal deity who looks after them). If they don’t, then they can’t be spiritual. Personally I see some atheists being more spiritually in tune than many so called spiritual people.
This is all so ridiculous! This is basically about repressing your own humanness.
But the cool thing is that when we allow ourselves to be for example angry, it only lasts for a brief moment and then we go on with our lives.
See how children play. (=live). That’s kind of how it is. One moment they play, then the next moment they get mad with each other and say that they never want to play anymore and then fifteen minutes later they are best friends again.
I don’t get why the anger-thing is considered to be such a negative thing.
It’s not a big deal!
It’s the same when we laugh too and have fun. We may have fun and laugh like maniacs for a few moments and then the next moment we do or express something else.
It’s not like we stay and linger (or dwell) in laughter for many hours or days or months. (That would actually be considered as crazy behaviour.. lol)
We simply feel, express ourselves and move on.
We’re being human.
I’m telling you; when you go to war with yourself you always lose. If we don’t allow ourselves to have all the human emotions and feelings and experiences, then we’re not living full lives and we’re going against nature.
A truly spiritual person (if I have to label someone that simply has integrity) acts independently, they have the guts to be who they are, and they don’t play charades for each other.
It really is all about being real, and that is not difficult, it’s not something we need to learn.
It’s simply about being who you are, and that means to have the integrity and sometimes courage to drop the act and to drop the masks we wear for each other.
Live life, enjoy yourself and what life has to offer. Lighten up. Let go of the burden of labeling yourself as being “spiritual”.
Laugh, cry, get mad, and move on.
Don’t follow the herd – follow your own uniqueness
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