Are You Having a Spiritual Temper Tantrum?
What is a spiritual temper tantrum?
A spiritual temper tantrum is when the ego throws a fit or has a meltdown because it doesn’t get what it wants when it wants it.
In other word, when it feels powerless and not able to control life.
Spiritual temper tantrum #1 symptom and manifestation:
When you’re boiling inside, fuming with anger, resentment, bitterness, frustration, and so on, because your (the ego’s) expectations are not met.
You feel extreme fed-up-ness and experience constant roadblocks no matter what you do as if Life (God/Universe) is blocking you and doesn’t want you to be happy.
We’re basically behaving like an entitled little child, trying to control life and force things to happen with our dark mood and emotional outbursts, thinking we can twist the Universe’s arm that way to get what we want.
Like a spoiled child that is kicking and screaming because it doesn’t get what it wants.
Yuck. Not pretty, but we’ve all been there!
How long the temper tantrums last depends on our level of self-awareness and how quickly we can catch ourselves from going any deeper into it.
It starts with discontent..
Usually, when the ego fit begins, we feel a sense unhappiness coming over us before the foot-stomping meltdown really takes off.
We’re pouting, feeling slightly unhappy, and then it escalates to us demanding to get answers and what we think we ‘should’ have gotten already, like yesterday.
A spiritual temper tantrum can also have a different expression, a less explosive one, where there’s a deep, deep sadness and sense of complete disconnect.
Where we’re wallowing in self-pity, crying, ranting, feeling resentful and bitter, but nothing we do helps, nothing moves, no matter how much whining we do, or how hard we try to manipulate Life with our feelings of unfairness.
The ego is not able to make sense of the waiting time that every transformational (and awakening) process entails, so it gets impatient, it starts to doubt, and is struggling to understand why things are not happening the way it wants to.
It thinks something is or has gone wrong.
So you begin to question everything, self-doubt starts to creep in, fear and worry comes up, sometimes with vengeance (even panic), and your thoughts becomes darker and darker and you lose hope and just feel more and more miserable and depressed.
If this is happening to you then know this;
A spiritual temper tantrum is normal and it doesn’t have to last long.
It means you’re growing beyond the boundaries of the ego, or the you that you used to be, and the more awareness you have about what’s actually happening, the quicker you get to the other side of them too (where a new phase of your life can begin).
Spiritual temper tantrums and ego fits are just part of a Divine storm that you have to ride out.
The main thing the ego wants is answers (=control), so to get out of the storm and to save yourself from unnecessary suffering, let go of the need to know.
Let go of the need to have answers. Be fine with not knowing.
And allow yourself to sit with the emotions. Don’t go into avoidance.
Literally sit yourself down and actually feel them.
Let them come up, it’s not “spiritual” to suppress or repress your own honest thoughts and feelings.
Doubt can be healthy.
It’s healthy to question everything, and it’s also healthy to have (short) rants (it’s just a form of venting) and not feel intimidated by “God” (whatever that may be for you).
In actuality, you’re rebelling against your own, limited perception of life and your false beliefs and other limitations that you have put upon yourself, so it’s a good thing.
It’s part of the awakening process (or a transformational process) to do so, so don’t feel bad or think you have to behave in a pleasing and correct way all the time.
Break free from those kinds of beliefs.
Let the emotions rage within you, let them come up, and observe them and witness your thoughts and thinking patterns.
Just sit with yourself for a while.
Empty yourself, say what you need to say, express your thoughts and feelings in either writing or voice them verbally, and then;
Take a deep breath, surrender, and Let Go.
Simply surrender and let go of the need to get a specific answer, and the moment the surrender is sincere it’s also complete, and you will feel an internal relief and then a peace that comes over your whole being.
Relieved from the heavy burden of getting stuck in the dense and heavy ego consciousness, you can finally lower your shoulders and breathe again.
The inner war is over and there is finally peace within you.
So the next time you have a spiritual foot-stomping moment, remember this:
- The timing of things is not up to us. We can’t even predict what will happen 5 minutes from now.
- When we need to know something, we will. Not a moment before.
The moment you feel you’re about to have a spiritual temper tantrum, remind yourself of these things and then surrender to the flow of Life.
Let it carry you wherever you need to be or go next, let it take the lead and show you the way.
Don’t start a war with yourself.
Stop fighting against the current of your life and give yourself a time-out; step away from the mental and emotional meltdown, don’t go any deeper into it.
The small self has such a limited perception, so when things don’t go the way we want, or as fast as we want them to happen, it gets impatient, fed-up and annoyed and starts behaving like a child.
And if you let it take over your consciousness just because it’s tired of waiting, you will quickly find yourself in one of these types of ego fits where you’re forcing and demanding things to happen before their time.
The spiritual waiting room is a place where we all have to wait at times before a new door opens up and a new phase can begin, and by knowing this, it can actually be an enjoyable phase.
It’s always only the resistance and insistence (attachments) of the ego that creates the inner turmoil and suffering. Once that is gone, hello freedom and happiness!
You’re not being unfairly treated, life is not against you, you’re not being held back by some evil force.
So let go. Surrender. And relax. All is in perfect order, and the sooner you stop kicking and screaming, the faster things can change for the better. 😊