Let go of your past; stop dragging your old selves with you.

There is no “wounded inner child” to heal; the only thing that needs to be healed is the error belief that there is an inner child that needs healing in the first place. 

Those are only beliefs that people hold on to; memories of past hurts projected unto a psychological personality (of a child) and the unwillingness to forgive and let go.

The solution to any wound is forgiveness (forgive past hurts, others and yourself) and a mature and clear approach to what is now.

People can waste their whole lives thinking that something that happened when they were three or five years old can still affect them and that there’s a child within them that is sad and broken and needs nurturing and healing. 

When does it end? What will they do when the “inner child” has been healed? 

Will they go on and ‘heal’ the inner teenager next, and the inner 20 year old, and how about the inner 70 year old?

They all only exists in the mind! (They are imagined). 

They are basically trying to heal an imaginary old self that doesn’t exist anymore, a memory that only a new (mature) perspective can ‘heal’.

When you see that there’s no wounded child within you, but only a need to forgive and let go, then you are free.

Some people even think their souls needs to be healed (the soul is perfect and needs no healing, it’s only an error belief that makes people think they are broken somehow).

The same with past lives; it’s only a belief, we don’t even know if there is any such thing, so why not live now and create a new wonderful life instead of trying to heal a past (old) life that might not even have existed?

The more someone believe something to be true, the more it is a fact for them.

But what if you’re totally off path? What if you’re wrong?

Are you willing to be open to that possibility? What if I told you that you are free, now?

That you don’t have to do anything else but to have the willingness to let go of your previous beliefs and be open to a new way of looking at things?

A shift in perspective is all that it takes.

Only the human mind regresses and stops life from really flowing and blossoming.

Actually life itself just does its wonderful thing all the time, but when someone is stuck in the past they don’t get to enjoy the pleasure of really living. 

Living in the past holds humanity back.

We, as a human race, get old before ‘our time’, but it doesn’t have to be that way.

Nothing goes backward, only our beliefs and fixed thought patterns hold us back, nothing else.

Peoples (the average person) lives seem to go downhill after their 30’s, and they begin to live on old memories and how things used to be when they could just as easily look forward to greater joys to come!

By downhill I don’t necessary mean that it gets ‘bad’, but definitely dull/lifeless, the vigor of living seem to not be there anymore and that’s really sad to see.

Sometimes when I speak to people in my own age (even younger, it seems to begin going downhill after 30 for most) I realize that many of them have no real plans, goals or desires for the future anymore (except from when they are planning vacations so that they can get away from their lives for a while).

There doesn’t seem to be much joy in their lives and they sort of brush off my zest for life as something that will vane off with time, that’s it’s not ‘real’ somehow, that I’m naive somehow for seeing things the way I do.

I heard this often especially when I was younger; people telling me that when I ”grow up” I will see how life really is. 

I often say that I live in paradise, and sometimes I hear people say back to me that “you’re new here” (in Nerja) “it will vane off”, and inside I’m like “no you don’t understand, I really am in paradise” (in my consciousness which reflects the world I live in).

I don’t see how I can ever see the beauty of life that I now experience to ever diminish or vanish, but not everybody can understand that. 

Nothing in nature is at a standstill, and I see this clearly that the more beauty we choose to see, the more beauty there is to see. It’s ever expanding. 

But I also see that the more people live in the past, the less life-energy there is in their experience, and the less they see the beauty that is all around them.

I can be with them and see that we live in two completely different worlds.

It’s all in the perspective and our attitude towards life.  

Even to only think of past joys holds one stagnant, because that too is to live in memory, and speaking of only old memories one can never form new ones.

When a new joy comes they compare it with an old one and there we go again, back to the past.

It’s like for brief moment there was joy in the present and then swoosh, lets go back to the past when it was so much more joyous and lets talk about that instead.

If they only knew what could be in store for them; the richness of life as it is now in its newness and freshness! But before it can be experienced fully they must let go of what has been.

Most people look at life as if the joys of life were all in their youth, and that the joys of life remained there while they had to “grow up” and “face reality” and now there’s pretty much only dullness left in the their remaining years (decades) of life according to what they believe is true about life.

How sad is that??

We see our own growth so much easier when we are around people from our past.

Or when we meet people we haven’t seen for a while, because so much (spiritual) progress can happen in a few short months that it has transformed who you are on a fundamental level.

Sometimes it’s an overnight thing.

We wake up and the world is completely new.

And then we look around and we see that remnants of the old is still lingering around and it calls for our attention so that we can come to see ourselves even more clearly. 

Know this truth; that if we have prayed and asked for everything that doesn’t belong to us (to the Truth of who we are) to vanish and be removed from our experience, then we better get ready for some eye-opening experiences and realizations.

Sometimes that means letting go of old friends, even if we love them.

If we, in their presence, begin to feel energy-zapped and if we come to realize that we don’t have much in common anymore, then we have to look honestly at where we wish to go from here and if there’s any room for the old friends in our lives.

That way we honor the saying ”ask and it’s given”.

You asked for clarity and here it is.

Truth is ruthless in its ways sometimes, but rest assured that it always sets us free. 

The old “you,” the old self of former years will again rise from every familiar object and person to meet you to make you see who you have become.

You will meet it again by old friends, you will meet it again by falling back to old ways for a moment by regressing back to how you used to be with each other, the conversations you used to have, the things you use to do together, and none of it will no longer resonate, but nevertheless, you might fall back for a brief moment anyway.

While knowing the old you is dead, you might still go there – and it will make you feel off path, which is a great thing. (Stay attentive and aware of your own processes). 

The friends and people who only knew you for what you were, say five years before, or even a few months ago; every such person shows you the image of your former self that you haven’t let go of it fully yet, so see this as a really good thing if it happens to you, because it means it’s releasing time and the remnants of the old are ready to be let go of forever. 

For a moment you find yourself dragged back to the old self and you talk with them (the old friends) on the plane of that previous life or self and you ignore yourself as the new you that you have become and who has completely different views and perspectives on pretty much everything.

So you go with that for a few hours maybe when being with them and you put your new self aside, feeling slightly uncomfortable because the old friends don’t know the new you, and maybe you don’t want to be ‘unpleasant’ or seem ‘out there’ with your visionary new outlook on life, so you keep quiet.

While keeping quiet you might act like the former self, talk about the things the former self used to talk about and all the while you can see so clearly that you no longer belong in that space, and you want to get out, you want to be free again.

It becomes more and more uncomfortable and at last it becomes unbearable for you to drag the corps of the old self into the present and you want to be able to express yourself freely, but you also know that your old friends haven’t grown at all, they are still where they were when you left them years ago.

You realize that they are not really alive, they had lost their oomph and ambitions and dreams. 

They had resigned themselves to “growing old” (unconsciously) and to live mostly in the past, talking of the past “good old times,” and comparing their memories to the present and seeing the past as better than the now.

We cannot allow ourselves to be drawn back to our old mental conditions—our old mind and self—we have to honor and stay true to our new self and see the experience of when we for a brief moment allowed ourselves to be dragged back to the old as necessary so that we could see more clearly who we have become.

This is the breaking point to the past once again. 

We have to wave goodbye and move on with our lives and start living fully from the person we have become.

The lessons in life can’t really be learned without an experience and when we see this clearly then it becomes easier to break free.

We come to realize that we have to move forward and that we can’t take the old with us into the new. 

In this new clarity life can come forth and push you forward in every sense and the release can even be felt in the body when the realization hits you;

”I have to let them go”. (People, situations, memories etc).

There might be sadness involved, if so let there be sadness, but also sense the load that you have unconsciously been carrying around you to loosen its grip on you and feel the lightness in that. 

The moment feels fresh and new again doesn’t it? There’s a sense of life there again. 

Power comes from looking forward —of expecting better things to come. 

Nature always buries its dead as quickly as possible and changes what it has no further use for into other forms of life. It always moves towards Itself; (more) life and growth, expansion, transformation. 

A tree produces new leafs and will have nothing to do with the dead ones; it doesn’t hoard or hold on to the withered leaves to bring back sad memories of better times from the past.

We should also let go of the old that easily and allow change to take place within us that promotes new, fresh life.

Obviously healthy happy memories are wonderful, but why hold on to the sad ones? There is no point in doing so.

Sometimes even holding on to happy old memories can hold people stuck in the past if there’s no room for newness in the present moment and for more happy memories to be formed, which we all know can only be formed by experience, which means we actually have to live to create those memories.

To truly live we must stay curious, no matter how old our bodies are.

The body can be 30, 50, 70 or 90 years old, but the mind is always new and fresh as long as it’s detached from the past.

The mind can always be new, fresh, and ready to be filled with wonderful things and experiences as we continuously let go of the old and when we forgive immediately when someone (in our mind) has wronged us.  

Most people don’t know that their ‘realistic’ views of life is nothing more than another word for being pessimistic.

Let old friendships dissolve if you feel you have outgrown them.

Let go of old hurts, situations, and beliefs that has no base in reality.

Forgiveness and letting go is the solution to anything; and only the willingness to look closely at ones beliefs and see them for what they truly are can ever set anyone free.

But as long as someone refuses to do that they will continue holding on to that imaginary wounded child and they will not be able to see where that child really comes from:

It originates from beliefs but the root of all issues are the beliefs themselves, they have just been projected onto this “inner child”, which in reality does not exist.

It’s so much easier to look directly at the beliefs themselves and by doing so can take years off of any counseling programs.

Some may even be offended when they hear me point out that the “inner child” does not exist, and if so, what is it in that person that wants to hold on to that belief when an option is presented to them, a different view that might be the catalyst into freedom for them if they would only look closer into the belief itself? 

Look forward, don’t look back, let go of mourning over what has been, and let go of “past life” issues and let go of the inner child.

Those types of beliefs can make people drag around hundreds of corpses of old selves that they think they have to “heal” before they can really live and it only deprives them from enjoying life and from being fresh and blooming right now.  

Yes, it is possible to be free from the past.

I can hear someone say that ”well, she doesn’t know my past and all my hurts and problems, she doesn’t know that my dad didn’t love me, or that my mom used to say that I’m no good” etc, and all I can say that I know my own past hurts and problems, and if I can be free from them then anybody can be free from theirs.

I also see people come alive when they allow themselves to forgive and let go, so I know what I’m talking about.

We all have a past and we have all been through stuff.

Some of us has just chosen to forgive and let go and that’s the only difference between us. 

There’s joy and relief in those who choose to sincerely forgive and move on, and there’s aliveness in their lives again. 

They are no longer loaded with past regrets or resentments, their spirit is one of grace and poise and it’s full of life and curiosity, looking at a future with wonder and great expectations. 

Don’t drag old corps of selves with you into the future. 

The past is dead. Realize this and be free.

This moment can be a new beginning as we let go of the old.

(Pic is from my sunroof:)

 

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