Contrast helps you gain clarity

Use Contrast to Help You Gain Clarity and Find New Direction

Life is always for us, and the circumstances in our life are there to help us select what we would prefer to have and experience instead.

One of the most important things to do when you’re in a transitional process is to completely shift your attention towards the direction you want to go, and leave the rest behind you.

Meaning; select the reality you want to align yourself with and then stick to it and go with that particular energy momentum ONLY (with what vibes with you).

Contrast helps us see what we really want, so that we can decide and select between what we want and what we don’t want.

For example, if you’ve been in the dating game and only met people who you didn’t vibe with;

Don’t be discouraged, but see them as the contrast you needed in order to become more clear about what it is that you actually want and are looking for.

Clarity is important, especially if you’re always attracting a specific type of people into your life.

This can be applied to any other areas of life as well, such as work, where you live, friends and so on,

Or when you’re in a transitional time and you’re moving into a new chapter of life and/or self-expression and are unsure what direction to take.

Look at what you don’t like or resonate with anymore to create clarity around your new direction and path in life.

To do this it’s helpful to make a list of the negative and positive things you’ve experienced, realized and observed, and then use the contrast to help you decide what it is that you would rather have.

It doesn’t matter in what context it might be, if it’s in relationships, love/dating, work/career, or whatever it may be, contrast is always there to help us.

See everything that you’re experiencing, even if it’s ‘negative’, as communication from Life, pointing you towards a better path, a path that is more in alignment with you.

A simple way to gain clarity around what direction to take next is to first make the list of the negative and positive aspects of whatever it is that you want to change, and then ‘thank’ the “negative” aspects for the clarity they helped you realize.

For example, if you’ve been dating someone and you’ve realized that this type/person is not for you, then know that they were for you, just not in the way you expected, because your time with them was there to help you gain clarity about yourself and what you want, things of which you weren’t aware of before.

They came into your life so that you could become clear about those things, so a way to see more clearly what you want and prefer, is to take a moment and write down the things you learned from your time with this person.

Things to journal about:

  • “What I liked about _____”
  • “Things I didn’t like about ______”,

“This I liked”, “This not so much/it’s not for me”, “I prefer _____”, and so on.

Do this in a non-judgmental way. You’re only listing and writing about your observations and preferences, that’s all. (They are a perfect match to someone else, just not you!)

It’s important to always state to yourself what you would prefer over something else, so that you give your mind and energy the right direction to go.

Next, write down whatever flows through you without editing yourself:

  • “My time with ______ has helped me see/realize/understand ______, and ______, and ______”, and so on.

Use your experience with the person that wasn’t for you as a teacher, a learning experience, that showed you what is for you.

When you have clarity around what is for you and what you really want and prefer, then the only way forwards is, .. forward!

Use the clarity you have gained as a way to up-level your life and reality and bless the people, circumstances and old ways of relating to other people (or a certain type of people) behind you.

Have a ‘line in the sand’ moment and align with your preferences and make new, aligned choices based on the clarity you have gained from the connections and experiences you’ve had.

A couple of other articles that came to mind:

Follow the path that speaks to you the most (Reject what is not in alignment)

How to manifest new LOVE into your life” (With a powerful exercise that will change your life when it comes to the type of people you attract!)


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