How Can I Remain In Peace? (Ask Maria)
“In deep meditation I surrender everything and there is nothing, no sense of body, no image, no me, no thoughts… nothing but only stillness… and vastness and the feeling of relaxation is there.
The feeling remains after the meditation also say for 24 hours but whenever I start my daily work ( job etc.) the feeling (of peace, vastness etc) goes thinner and after some time I perceive myself as previous limited one.
How can I remain longer in that state and still do my daily work?”.
It’s just a state of mind (the state of meditation), it has to do with brainwaves and in waking consciousness when we do our work and so on we need to be in a different state than when we sleep for example.
Here’s an old article by me where I explain the different states of mind (brain states): mariaerving.com/meditation-and-brainwaves
The brain functions differently depending on what we do, so for example in your work you would need to be alert, or focused, and you can’t drive your car when being in a meditative state!
That would not be very smart 🙂
So what I would say to you is this:
Peace Is Always Here
Peace only goes away, or it appears to go away (in reality it never does, it’s always here) because you somehow start letting thoughts interfere with the peace.
By thoughts emotions and feelings are created and if you’re anxious or tense or whatever (=”not peaceful anymore”) you probably have a story to tell about the present moment that you have somehow made ‘bad’ or ‘wrong’.
Like for example that you’re not peaceful anymore; “I should be peaceful” is a form of resistance to ‘what is’.
So when you feel the “feeling of peace go thinner” and you “go back to the limited one” (as you put it), here’s what I’d suggest you to do:
You need to look into the “limited one” instead of what most people do; they avoid it and try to run away from it by trying to reach meditative states and have experiences in meditation.
“The limited one” is your ego, but the one doing the meditation is also your ego and sometimes it uses meditation as a momentarily relief from itself and life.
As human beings we can’t function in just one state of mind 24/7, the brain doesn’t work that way, but you can absolutely be at peace 24/7, even in the midst of a crisis.
And when anger etc comes up too – this doesn’t mean you’re repressing any other feelings that might come up, but peace will always be there in the base of everything else.
By waking up and not letting your ego run after what it thinks is liberation.
Who is the one that meditates?
Ask yourself that and ask very deeply. It’s not a mental exercise, it’s deep self-inquiry.
Truth is not a mind-state, it’s beyond all that, that is what you should be looking for (for Truth).
Not more experiences and shallow states of peace even if they feel profound, because that kind of peace always goes away the moment something disturbs the status quo.
Meditation can become an escape for the ego to get away from itself for a while.
It just uses meditation to get away from the present moment and then when the shallow type of peace disappears it tries to get it back, always looking for the next hit (escape).
The state you are in in meditation is just a state, an experience, it means nothing basically. It’s just an experience, that’s all.
“Vastness” and all, whatever you experience in meditation are just simply experiences and nothing more.
Pleasant, and maybe even mind-blowing experiences but still it’s all just an experience.
It’s healthy to meditate, it gives you many benefits, absolutely, but to use it in an attempt to run away from yourself or try to get something is not very constructive.
Look into who it is that wants the peace, gets the peace, looses the peace and who tries to get back the peace (or whatever it is that you’re looking for, vastness, stillness, whatever it is).
Find out who you are and you have lasting peace and not the kind of peace that comes and goes.
What Is The Thought That You Believe?
Whenever you feel “not peaceful” anymore look at the feeling that arises and ask yourself how much of it is focused on proving yourself right.
Thoughts leads to feelings and they insist on being right and that’s what creates turmoil or any other feeling you would say is ‘not peaceful’.
But when you don’t believe your thoughts the thoughts stop creating feelings and thus they stop taking your attention away from the present moment.
So any time you feel that peace if not there anymore, check with yourself what story you’re making up and you will see that the story is what creates the not-peacefulness that you’re experiencing.
Somehow the mind always seem to want make something wrong, something is not working the way you think it should, someone said something or looked at you weirdly and immediately the mind goes into making stories.
That’s how peace is “lost”.
Thoughts are believed and once believed they strengthen your beliefs and intensifies the whole emotional experience and the cycle goes on and on until the mind gets a break once in a while when meditating for example.
But this way the core issue is never dealt with, and the problem is always the ego.
Right now you’re reading this but you might also simultaneously be thinking about something else; something is going on in your mind right now, just notice it and then realize that in reality you’re just sitting there reading this!
That’s all that’s going on in your entire life right now; you sitting there reading this article and everything else is going on in your mind and nowhere else! 😀
There could be peace right here and now while you read this and when you stop reading this and decide to do something else if you just don’t buy into your thoughts by believing them.
You could walk in peace from this moment on to the next if you didn’t believe your thoughts.
So your job/daily work is not what takes away your peace, your thoughts are – or you believing in them, that’s what takes away your peace.
Asking questions like:
- “Can I know that this thought is true?”
- “Can the opposite be (or become, if it’s something you worry about) true as well?”
- “Could something completely different happen as well, is there a possibility for that?”
- “Do I really know that what my thoughts tell me will happen/is happening?
- “Are my thoughts really true?”
.. etc are helpful in order to detach yourself from the untruth of thoughts.
We don’t know what will happen even five minutes from now so whatever the mind comes up with you can safely disregard it.
It doesn’t know, it just wants to know and insists on knowing when in reality it has no clue and have never had a clue and will never have a clue.
It’s clueless but wants so desperately be “the one who knows” and to ‘be right’ 🙂
Besides, Truth never uses fear to guide you (unless it’s regarding a physical threat), it guides you through gut-feeling and intuition.
Ego is the storyteller, the exaggerator and the one who delights in you becoming fearful and worried. Remember this always.
So, find out who this “I” is that experiences the peace in meditation, looses it and wants it back, and then you will realize the peace that never goes anywhere.
When you know who you are not, that’s when you find out who you really are and with that comes peace.
A few other articles that could be helpful to you as well: