Spiritual Stereotypes

It’s hilarious how people have such preconceived opinions and beliefs about how a spiritual person should be and behave.

I’m a very assertive person, and sometimes that doesn’t fit into peoples little box (opinions) of how I should behave.

Well, I’m not a people-pleaser.

I don’t speak with a soft angelic voice and greet people saying things like “hello blessed light-child of God” with flapping eyelashes and I don’t have flowers in the hair while dancing around with a silly smile on my face singing Kumbaya.

That’s an exaggerated image I know, but not far from how many thinks a spiritual person should be.

And oops, I forgot the robe and orange colored Indian outfits.

Guess I should have a few of those too in my wardrobe so that I can be as you would like me to be.


I have my own set of standards and I have no problems using my voice.

That doesn’t mean I’m right and you’re wrong. Opinions are just opinions, they are not true in any way.

I know that my opinions change all the time, so I don’t take them that seriously; I do however believe in being honest and sincere, and that means I don’t the boot-licking-thing; I’m not here to stroke your ego by trying to please you.

To me it’s more important to be who I am and say what I want than try to fit in.

And you’re very welcome to be who you are around me as well. Actually, I want you to be who you are at all times, I respect honesty and integrity very much.

I don’t walk on egg-shells for others, so if I’m too much for you, then bye bye to you.

Sincerity and honesty is also much more appreciated when it’s the other way around.

When I compliment someone or say something nice about someone, people know I mean it, that I don’t say it just to look good or to be liked.

I don’t intent to ever dumb myself down for others either so that they can feel good about themselves.

I’m very confident and I don’t shy down for anyone.

But I guess I should be ‘humble’ and always be bowing for others in order to fit the stereotype of a spiritual person..

But you see, I have a different opinion about that.

People who make themselves small so that others can feel better about themselves are nothing but insecure about themselves, and how “spiritually mature” is that..? Not much.

That’s as egoic it gets in my book.

I don’t mind rattling the cages of society and it’s programmed notions of how things should be and will continue shattering people beliefs to the core, no matter what others think.

Actually, I get fiercely inspired and passionate when inspiration strikes like it sometimes does in a more assertive way than the mellow and soft spiritual way that I can express just as easily.

I just don’t exclude anything from my self and my personality to please others.

I like being me, and none of us can’t really be free until we have the courage to be who we really are, and when we dare to step outside of the norm that others may have labeled as being appropriate behaviors depending on what we do.

What we do is not who we are.

What we do is what we do. Who we are is who we are, embrace the whole of you I say. End of story.

A gaze-eyed Namaste to all of you with hands clapped in a spiritual pose.

Nah, I’ll skip that 🙂

PS: If you are a person who sings Kumbaya and acts in a stereotypical way, good for you.

I don’t see anything wrong in that, as long as it comes from the heart and it’s not an act. I have seen plenty of those kind of people too, while I also know that there’s the real deal as well.

This post is about the average persons opinions of the stereotypical spiritual person, that’s all.

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  1. Right on, Maria!! I love your commitment to being authentic. It’s funny, because I’ve often wrestled with this same thing in my writing. Sometimes, I’ll feel really fiesty, and that comes out in the way I write a post…But I’ve felt before like I should tone it down, because “spiritual people aren’t fiesty.”

    Or so they say. Guess they haven’t met me. Or you! Thanks for the reminder that we shouldn’t put spiritual people (or anybody, really!) in boxes. We all have different aspects of our personalities, and different moods that shine through at different times. Why deny that?

  2. Yes, isn’t it interesting how integrated the programming/conditioning is;

    “Spiritual people” should never be angry, should never show anger or any other “negative emotions”:




    “Spiritual people” should always love everyone and everything, we should not drink alcohol or coffee (only herbal tea:-), we should all be be vegans or vegetarians (actually I am: https://mariaerving.com/ive-become-a-vegetarian/:-)

    We should not make money either: https://mariaerving.com/money-and-spiritual-work/!

    It’s like we are expected to totally forget about the human aspect and our individual personalities; we should be ‘perfect’, make no mistakes, always put others first and be nice to everyone at all times.

    The programming is so integrated it’s scary!

    The intention with my writings are very much about getting people to think for themselves, to question their own (oftentimes completely unconscious) beliefs about how the world is and “should be”.

    Trying to fit in is all about the ego, it’s afraid of being seen as “special” (although it want’s to be special at the same time – what a paradox!) and it’s afraid of being perceived as arrogant: https://mariaerving.com/ego-afraid-of-being-seen-as-arrogant/

    It’s always about the same things: the need to be liked and accepted by others to any cost.

    But we (humanity at large) seem to forget one vital thing, and that is SELF-LOVE and SELF-ACCEPTANCE first and foremost.

    Nothing great comes out of us playing small, we are useless to others (as well as ourselves obviously) as long as we go along playing the roles others expect us to play.

    I like this poem by Marianne Williamson:

    Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
    Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
    It is our light, not our darkness
    That most frightens us.

    We ask ourselves
    Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?
    Actually, who are you not to be?
    You are a child of God.

    Your playing small
    Does not serve the world.
    There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking
    So that other people won’t feel insecure around you.

    We are all meant to shine,
    As children do.
    We were born to make manifest
    The glory of God that is within us.

    It’s not just in some of us;
    It’s in everyone.

    And as we let our own light shine,
    We unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.
    As we’re liberated from our own fear,
    Our presence automatically liberates others.

    Thanks again for commenting and sharing your own thoughts and experiences Kaylee, I always appreciate hearing from you! 🙂

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